What to do when you can't stand sharing a room anymore at 23?
I'm 23, in uni sharing a room still with my older sibling who is 30, she goes to work and has to leave early and sleep early. By the time she is asleep, I have to leave to take my laptop, the charger, the mouse, the books, everything down to the livingroom where my mother is working til 12am and she will constantly moan abt how I live my life, when I'm just trying to have a space of my own, game, study, socialise which I think I have a good balance of unlike her who is a workaholic with no social life and I don't see how not resting at all is any better. Anyway, I am a night owl on top of this so I sleep later than both of them and when I do go to sleep, I dread it as both my sister and I have continued to use the same bed we've had since we were toddlers. It's so incredibly frustrating and all I can do it hope to save for a new bed but I also would prefer to move out as a full time student. I also find it hard to get a job even for the summer, but I've had it up to here with sharing a room. My mental health is so down because of it, I can't spend my days in my own room because of her (my sister), and my brother has his own room which I find so lucky as he is a student with a desk of his own a private place to study... me? I have no privacy either and I can't have friends around without my sister feeling awkward abt having to allow my friends in OUR room but there is no where else for me to go
Reply 1
I'm really sorry to hear all of this - I shared a room with my brother up until I was 17 and shared a lot of the same difficulties you've described so I couldn't imagine still sharing a room during uni.
Is there really nowhere else for you to go? Student accommodation? I assume you get maintenance loan etc. but it seems not?
Is there really nowhere else for you to go? Student accommodation? I assume you get maintenance loan etc. but it seems not?
Whilst I understand your frustration, at the end of a day you can't just magic up a bigger house here.
Nobody is forcing you to live there after all - you're an adult.
My three boys are 11, 15, and 17 and they share a room (and a triple bunk). As much as I'd love to give them their own rooms, this is a 3 bedroomed house with 6 people in it, so... blood can't come from a stone.
You know the obvious solution is to get your own place.
Nobody is forcing you to live there after all - you're an adult.
My three boys are 11, 15, and 17 and they share a room (and a triple bunk). As much as I'd love to give them their own rooms, this is a 3 bedroomed house with 6 people in it, so... blood can't come from a stone.
You know the obvious solution is to get your own place.
Reply 3
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by PinkMobilePhoneWhilst I understand your frustration, at the end of a day you can't just magic up a bigger house here.
Nobody is forcing you to live there after all - you're an adult.
My three boys are 11, 15, and 17 and they share a room (and a triple bunk). As much as I'd love to give them their own rooms, this is a 3 bedroomed house with 6 people in it, so... blood can't come from a stone.
You know the obvious solution is to get your own place.
Nobody is forcing you to live there after all - you're an adult.
My three boys are 11, 15, and 17 and they share a room (and a triple bunk). As much as I'd love to give them their own rooms, this is a 3 bedroomed house with 6 people in it, so... blood can't come from a stone.
You know the obvious solution is to get your own place.
This! Thank you for the advice
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