How can I build a social circle and start going out after years of isolation?

I’m 21 years old and haven’t had a girlfriend or close friends since starting university three years ago. I went through a tough depressive period and became very withdrawn. Now, I want to go out, meet people, and build connections, but I don’t know where to start or how to make a social circle. Any advice on how to overcome this and start socializing again?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Hope you are feeling better. Here is what I would do:

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if you are at uni, find some clubs/ societies that match your interests or literally anything you think sounds cool

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your school may have a bulletin, if there are ever games nights then join those

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maybe message some people who go to your uni if you have some social medias

In terms of actually socialising:

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you don't have to talk that much if you find it draining but being in a conversation might be good if you find something to contribute to it

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start small, talk about work or uni or tv with people to see if you have common interests

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a few good friends is better than many okay friends

Good luck, hope it goes well!

Reply 2

meenu89

if you are not at Uni, I would recommend having a look at your public library. I used to take my children there as babies and made some friends, my children now go on their own to Lego Club at the Library where they also meet friends (outside their school).

I now go to the same place for an arts for mindfulness class.... I've met some new friends there too.