am i love bombing?
we are half a year into dating, he has gone full time with work and cancels on dates a bit, and is definitely not as "showy" as me with regards to love.
Ive been buying random gifts for him if im out shopping and see something I think he'd like. When he left work, I bought him a gift and made a card when none of his colleagues did. Im the one that says good morning and goodnight when he often forgets if he just falls asleep. Im always trying to arrange our dates.
Because im the one putting the most effort in at present, Im worried im love bombing him? Its a little unequal between us and I dont know if thats wrong. I want to make him happy and be a relief from his work but its not recipricated and i dont want to love bomb and make him overwhelmed as I know thats damaging.
Idk what to do, because in the moment these little things make me happy to be able to show my love for him, but its long term im worried about.
Ive been buying random gifts for him if im out shopping and see something I think he'd like. When he left work, I bought him a gift and made a card when none of his colleagues did. Im the one that says good morning and goodnight when he often forgets if he just falls asleep. Im always trying to arrange our dates.
Because im the one putting the most effort in at present, Im worried im love bombing him? Its a little unequal between us and I dont know if thats wrong. I want to make him happy and be a relief from his work but its not recipricated and i dont want to love bomb and make him overwhelmed as I know thats damaging.
Idk what to do, because in the moment these little things make me happy to be able to show my love for him, but its long term im worried about.
Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
we are half a year into dating, he has gone full time with work and cancels on dates a bit, and is definitely not as "showy" as me with regards to love.
Ive been buying random gifts for him if im out shopping and see something I think he'd like. When he left work, I bought him a gift and made a card when none of his colleagues did. Im the one that says good morning and goodnight when he often forgets if he just falls asleep. Im always trying to arrange our dates.
Because im the one putting the most effort in at present, Im worried im love bombing him? Its a little unequal between us and I dont know if thats wrong. I want to make him happy and be a relief from his work but its not recipricated and i dont want to love bomb and make him overwhelmed as I know thats damaging.
Idk what to do, because in the moment these little things make me happy to be able to show my love for him, but its long term im worried about.
Ive been buying random gifts for him if im out shopping and see something I think he'd like. When he left work, I bought him a gift and made a card when none of his colleagues did. Im the one that says good morning and goodnight when he often forgets if he just falls asleep. Im always trying to arrange our dates.
Because im the one putting the most effort in at present, Im worried im love bombing him? Its a little unequal between us and I dont know if thats wrong. I want to make him happy and be a relief from his work but its not recipricated and i dont want to love bomb and make him overwhelmed as I know thats damaging.
Idk what to do, because in the moment these little things make me happy to be able to show my love for him, but its long term im worried about.
I don’t think that your love bombing I think your making the unique effort in being able to present the best version of you and yourself. He’s the one that personally should be appreciative over the amount of affection you’re giving to him and there’s nothing wrong in a clingy sense. Personally I can relate and as a ex clingy partner I would do anything for her. Arranging events/day trips as equally as she would I would say fairly, I would be more of the one spoiling her but I wanted nothing in a gift giving sense. He should personally do more to reciprocate back equally. And make more of an effort. Likewise all I cared about and wanted was for her to be happy too which I did throughout. Just try to ease it in the sense where he repeats it back so that it’s vice versa and not one way.
Reply 2
Original post by Anonymous
we are half a year into dating, he has gone full time with work and cancels on dates a bit, and is definitely not as "showy" as me with regards to love.
Ive been buying random gifts for him if im out shopping and see something I think he'd like. When he left work, I bought him a gift and made a card when none of his colleagues did. Im the one that says good morning and goodnight when he often forgets if he just falls asleep. Im always trying to arrange our dates.
Because im the one putting the most effort in at present, Im worried im love bombing him? Its a little unequal between us and I dont know if thats wrong. I want to make him happy and be a relief from his work but its not recipricated and i dont want to love bomb and make him overwhelmed as I know thats damaging.
Idk what to do, because in the moment these little things make me happy to be able to show my love for him, but its long term im worried about.
Ive been buying random gifts for him if im out shopping and see something I think he'd like. When he left work, I bought him a gift and made a card when none of his colleagues did. Im the one that says good morning and goodnight when he often forgets if he just falls asleep. Im always trying to arrange our dates.
Because im the one putting the most effort in at present, Im worried im love bombing him? Its a little unequal between us and I dont know if thats wrong. I want to make him happy and be a relief from his work but its not recipricated and i dont want to love bomb and make him overwhelmed as I know thats damaging.
Idk what to do, because in the moment these little things make me happy to be able to show my love for him, but its long term im worried about.
Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
He forgets to say good morning and good night?! Not love bombing, he just needs to start showing up for you way more.
I think that’s an indication of where’s the communicating in another sense. Communication is healthy to maintaining the relationship. Even if it’s like speaking to one and other every 4/5 hours. Better than nothing.
Reply 4
Original post by Mohammed_2000
I think that’s an indication of where’s the communicating in another sense. Communication is healthy to maintaining the relationship. Even if it’s like speaking to one and other every 4/5 hours. Better than nothing.
Reply 5
we do talk throughout the day, even while he's at work, i just know he has many other commitments in his life than me where he would be my priority well university is my number 1, but he is currently my main priority before that starts, and i want do to as much as i can with hm before im half way across the country studying, but he doesnt realise that and is very focused on work.
Reply 6
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It’s not love bombing as its genuine affection and not manipulative. I suppose the question might be if you’re more committed to the relationship than him. Trust your instincts on this. I think there is some merit in keeping love gestures fairly matched in the early stages of a relationship
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