Friendship advice needed!!

Okay so, I've moved schools a lot in the UK, like about 5 schools since secondary. I've noticed that every time I do make friends we eventually drift apart when we move schools which I guess is normal. I'm almost done with year 13 and I've had a pretty good year I have a couple of close friends but it's kinda weird because they have other friends that they are closer with outside of school and even though we have hung out during school trips I have kinda got the hint that outside of school they would much rather hang out with their 'friend group' which kinda hurts ngl but I try not to think too much of it. Also I used to have a best friend that I would always hang out with and another friend in our little trio but there was so much drama so nobody is friends anymore so this does not make it any better for me. I've always struggled when it comes to friends and feeling lonely cause I've moved countries so much since I was a young girl. I was wondering if my friends drifting apart should be something that I worry about or if it doesn't matter because usually uni is where people find their lifelong friends. Im taking a gap year so maybe I can find people through work or volunteering? any advice would be appreciated xx

Tbh, I can somewhat relate to you. I don't think I've had like a secure friendship throughout my entire life. During primary, no one liked me. Maybe because I was weird but I never knew why. Sure you have those few people that talk with you and don't mind pairing up u during work but you definitely know that u aren't friends or close. I had one friend till year 2 (ngl from what I remember, she was a bit of mean girl) and left to Manchester. I ended making a new friend, let's call her A, but she was like one of girls in a trio so we weren't tight knit. In secondary, it was lonely. With only a few people from secondary moving into the same one, its hard making new friends when ur a quiet kid. Ended up hanging in friend group like a fly on plate. Then I shifted into a real friend group, 4 people max with people who all friends in primary before and a few new people in and out occasionally but it was so toxic. Trying to make it short, split up into two, I was like a child with divorced parents. Out of those two groups, Im only still in contact with only one other friend, M, and meet up like once a few months (totally different reason tho). College was like workplace, ur become familiar with the people in ur class and around but u would never do more than small talk or hang on the outside and at this point in my life, I just accepted it.
My advice is that don't worry that friendships are drifting apart. Maybe if you guys had real happy moments in ur life, it would be worth trying to rekindle and worry but sometimes it isnt. The first thing you have to do is be okay with the fact that you may have no friends and that is fine. Not an easy thing, i know, but at least fake the mindset. Then, keep an open mind. Just like romantic relationships, platonic relationships should occur naturally. Life is only a movie sometimes because whenever you meet someone new and have a good time with them, doesn't automatically or eventually mean you'll be friends. At least that's what I think. Do use ur gap year and uni to meet new people, but not with the intention to make friends. Most importantly, be Ur self and see who still doesn't mind it because they're the people worth putting effort for in any kind of relationship. Not just volunteering, but random places like amusement parks or clubs are a great way of making friends. My friend M is kind of taking a gap before starting college again and during her times of partying, she was able to make new friends and get a boyfriend so it isn't impossible. Just kind of tricky.

I used to be quite close to my friend but after we moved schools we texted less and less. At first it seems like it’s ok but now we barely talk. It’s always me who start the conversation saying sth like ‘we haven’t talked for a while’ or ‘have u finished ur exams’ but we quickly end the conversation and sometimes I never get a reply. She has mentioned that she has been very busy with schoolwork and I understand but I just feel distant to her now. Idk if I should text her more bc I don’t wanna lose her as she is my only ‘friend’ that feel comfortable with.

Okay so, I've moved schools a lot in the UK, like about 5 schools since secondary. I've noticed that every time I do make friends we eventually drift apart when we move schools which I guess is normal. I'm almost done with year 13 and I've had a pretty good year I have a couple of close friends but it's kinda weird because they have other friends that they are closer with outside of school and even though we have hung out during school trips I have kinda got the hint that outside of school they would much rather hang out with their 'friend group' which kinda hurts ngl but I try not to think too much of it. Also I used to have a best friend that I would always hang out with and another friend in our little trio but there was so much drama so nobody is friends anymore so this does not make it any better for me. I've always struggled when it comes to friends and feeling lonely cause I've moved countries so much since I was a young girl. I was wondering if my friends drifting apart should be something that I worry about or if it doesn't matter because usually uni is where people find their lifelong friends. Im taking a gap year so maybe I can find people through work or volunteering? any advice would be appreciated xx