No judgement relationship advice pls!

Okay… I need advice.
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We met at uni & we are currently long distance and have been since we graduated. Now I want to preface - I love my boyfriend. He’s brilliant in so many ways and I know this post will focus on his negatives but he has so many positives too.
I recently met a man within a group of new friends who has been pretty open with the fact he likes me. My boyfriend and I aren’t exactly in a rough place, but there’s definitely things that could be improved in our relationship. For example, it was recently our anniversary and he didn’t get me anything. I am NOT bothered about the lack of gift, more the fact that he knows me, he knows I will use the smallest excuse to celebrate, and I love gift giving (love language). He KNOWS I would have got him something, and so when I went to visit and presented him with a small token for our 2 year anniversary, it felt like a bit of a kick in the teeth when he said ‘oh thank you! I didn’t get you anything though…’ Obviously that’s just one thing (again, it really wasn’t about the gift itself but the fact that it just felt like in that moment he didn’t know me as well as I thought he did), but there’s been a lot of little things building. He used to buy me flowers all the time at uni, and send me them in the post when we were first long distance. It’s like he’s forgotten about the effort it takes to make LDRs work - I’m lucky to even get an interesting conversation out of him (however, when I see him in person, everything goes back to normal and I forget I was even worried!) We were gifted a holiday, to which last minute he made some rubbish excuse up about work (he’d told me he’d booked it off, which was obviously a lie), and thankfully my best friend was able to come with me instead. He only told me this like 2 weeks before we were supposed to go, and I’m sure he only told me because I brought it up - god knows when he’d have told me otherwise! There’s multiple other little things too, like being strangely awkward around my family, or in the summer when had the smallest argument and he ignored me for an hour in front of his family who clearly felt awkward in knowing something was up. I also recently had an argument over the fact I smoked a cigarette, which in honesty I couldn’t believe I was having to defend myself over. He rarely compliments me anymore, or I basically have to fish for them, and I just feel like he’s sorta stopped trying. I KNOW this sounds like a lot of negatives, but he really is such a lovely guy, and when we were at uni together I couldn’t fault him at all (which makes me think its the LDR that’s causing this). In September, I am due to move closer to him, so we’ve been really looking forward to the LDR coming to an end/improving.
Now, this new friend I’ve made… I didn’t feel anything for him when I first met him, but he’s basically doing everything that I am missing from my boyfriend and I KNOW it is selfish but I cannot help myself but indulge in what I feel I’ve been missing. He is so kind, and friendly. Extremely emotionally aware and knows exactly what to say, and when to say it. He is such a family man, loves to hear how my family are and is so interested in my day. In fact, I once sent them both the same text about a promotion I’d received - my boyfriend’s response was ‘oh exciting’, whereas new guys: ‘Well done!!! Smashed ittt, this is so exciting and I am sure you’ll absolutely charm their pants off’. That’s such a small example, but you get what I mean - what I want my boyfriend to say, my new guy is already on it and ten times faster!
I feel like I’m starting to feel something for this new guy, but rationally I know it is because he’s giving me what I am sadly missing about my boyfriend. I know the logical thing is to discuss with my boyfriend how I am feeling but it is just NOT that easy - he isn’t extremely emotionally mature, and from previous experience he’ll get upset & I hate seeing him upset, so I always end up sweeping it under the carpet and apologising myself.
If I keep chatting to new guy, I know he’ll catch feelings - he basically has told me already. And I feel so selfish in not stopping talking to him, but he makes me feel so special, something I’ve not felt in a while. I’m at a point where I’m thinking, ‘shit, am I actually thinking about leaving my boyfriend for this guy???’
Please give me advice - not ‘come on just talk to ur boyfriend’ type of advice because I know that’s what I should do, but it just isn’t that simple. And I know I should stop talking to new guy, but what if the feelings I am developing aren’t just based on what I am missing, but are actually genuine!?
I just don’t know. New guy isn’t helping my boyfriends case in any way… everything my boyfriend does wrong, he does perfectly and its just further highlighting negative aspects of my current relationship

You won't be posting long paragraphs if you are sure with your feelings. Might as well take a step back first to reflect what must be done before you start on another

Yeah and PS why are you flirting with another guy when you know full well u have a whole bf … if u are unsure about ur bf then I suggest u think long n hard leaving him

If you’re actively avoiding having serious conversations with your BF, is it really working?
Having some good qualities under some circumstances isn’t enough IMO.

Okay… I need advice.
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We met at uni & we are currently long distance and have been since we graduated. Now I want to preface - I love my boyfriend. He’s brilliant in so many ways and I know this post will focus on his negatives but he has so many positives too.
I recently met a man within a group of new friends who has been pretty open with the fact he likes me. My boyfriend and I aren’t exactly in a rough place, but there’s definitely things that could be improved in our relationship. For example, it was recently our anniversary and he didn’t get me anything. I am NOT bothered about the lack of gift, more the fact that he knows me, he knows I will use the smallest excuse to celebrate, and I love gift giving (love language). He KNOWS I would have got him something, and so when I went to visit and presented him with a small token for our 2 year anniversary, it felt like a bit of a kick in the teeth when he said ‘oh thank you! I didn’t get you anything though…’ Obviously that’s just one thing (again, it really wasn’t about the gift itself but the fact that it just felt like in that moment he didn’t know me as well as I thought he did), but there’s been a lot of little things building. He used to buy me flowers all the time at uni, and send me them in the post when we were first long distance. It’s like he’s forgotten about the effort it takes to make LDRs work - I’m lucky to even get an interesting conversation out of him (however, when I see him in person, everything goes back to normal and I forget I was even worried!) We were gifted a holiday, to which last minute he made some rubbish excuse up about work (he’d told me he’d booked it off, which was obviously a lie), and thankfully my best friend was able to come with me instead. He only told me this like 2 weeks before we were supposed to go, and I’m sure he only told me because I brought it up - god knows when he’d have told me otherwise! There’s multiple other little things too, like being strangely awkward around my family, or in the summer when had the smallest argument and he ignored me for an hour in front of his family who clearly felt awkward in knowing something was up. I also recently had an argument over the fact I smoked a cigarette, which in honesty I couldn’t believe I was having to defend myself over. He rarely compliments me anymore, or I basically have to fish for them, and I just feel like he’s sorta stopped trying. I KNOW this sounds like a lot of negatives, but he really is such a lovely guy, and when we were at uni together I couldn’t fault him at all (which makes me think its the LDR that’s causing this). In September, I am due to move closer to him, so we’ve been really looking forward to the LDR coming to an end/improving.
Now, this new friend I’ve made… I didn’t feel anything for him when I first met him, but he’s basically doing everything that I am missing from my boyfriend and I KNOW it is selfish but I cannot help myself but indulge in what I feel I’ve been missing. He is so kind, and friendly. Extremely emotionally aware and knows exactly what to say, and when to say it. He is such a family man, loves to hear how my family are and is so interested in my day. In fact, I once sent them both the same text about a promotion I’d received - my boyfriend’s response was ‘oh exciting’, whereas new guys: ‘Well done!!! Smashed ittt, this is so exciting and I am sure you’ll absolutely charm their pants off’. That’s such a small example, but you get what I mean - what I want my boyfriend to say, my new guy is already on it and ten times faster!
I feel like I’m starting to feel something for this new guy, but rationally I know it is because he’s giving me what I am sadly missing about my boyfriend. I know the logical thing is to discuss with my boyfriend how I am feeling but it is just NOT that easy - he isn’t extremely emotionally mature, and from previous experience he’ll get upset & I hate seeing him upset, so I always end up sweeping it under the carpet and apologising myself.
If I keep chatting to new guy, I know he’ll catch feelings - he basically has told me already. And I feel so selfish in not stopping talking to him, but he makes me feel so special, something I’ve not felt in a while. I’m at a point where I’m thinking, ‘shit, am I actually thinking about leaving my boyfriend for this guy???’
Please give me advice - not ‘come on just talk to ur boyfriend’ type of advice because I know that’s what I should do, but it just isn’t that simple. And I know I should stop talking to new guy, but what if the feelings I am developing aren’t just based on what I am missing, but are actually genuine!?
I just don’t know. New guy isn’t helping my boyfriends case in any way… everything my boyfriend does wrong, he does perfectly and its just further highlighting negative aspects of my current relationship

It seems like your current relationship may have run its course. Unless you want to try and revitalise it, it’s probably best to end it as amicably as you can and get back to dating

You're completely right & even though I am a flirty person, it's not excuse. It's bad but honestly I think it comes from how nice it feels to been shown a bit of extra attention, something I don't seem to get from boyf atm...