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Can I win a girl over

How can I win a girl over without looking desperate or being pushy?

What if she sees me speaking to other girls?

Reply 1

Does anyone have any stories on how they won a girl over?

Reply 2

Without a girl finding you attractive and being interested things usually don’t work out. Winning is mainly about being as attractive as possible and seeing if something comes your way. Winning over implies being on the back foot and it’s difficult to turn situations around. I’ve had some success with someone’s enthusiasm growing when I was initially a bit keener than they were

Reply 3

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by Zarek
Without a girl finding you attractive and being interested things usually don’t work out. Winning is mainly about being as attractive as possible and seeing if something comes your way. Winning over implies being on the back foot and it’s difficult to turn situations around. I’ve had some success with someone’s enthusiasm growing when I was initially a bit keener than they were


She was initially attracted

Reply 4

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by Anonymous
She was initially attracted
Things taking an unwelcome turn for the worse is also a common frustration in dating. I don’t have a successful strategy to share. I doubt trying to make her jealous will work plus it also plays with someone else’s emotions. Losing interest and looking for someone else is probably the best approach

Reply 5

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by Zarek
Things taking an unwelcome turn for the worse is also a common frustration in dating. I don’t have a successful strategy to share. I doubt trying to make her jealous will work plus it also plays with someone else’s emotions. Losing interest and looking for someone else is probably the best approach


This other girl I'm interested in is friends with the girl who just rejected me. How should I make a Move?

They both know who I am and my name

Reply 6

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by Anonymous
This other girl I'm interested in is friends with the girl who just rejected me. How should I make a Move?
They both know who I am and my name


I would not make a move. You would look desperate and like you don’t really care about who you’re with, as long as you’re with someone. I would get to know the girl you’re interested in better and then ask her out. Girls talk and at some point, one of them might mention it to the other (especially if you start dating the other). Some girls can get jealous as well. Obviously, I don’t know their personalities as well as you do, but I would be wary of it. As their friends, they might think you’re taking advantage of them!

Reply 7

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by Anonymous
I would not make a move. You would look desperate and like you don’t really care about who you’re with, as long as you’re with someone. I would get to know the girl you’re interested in better and then ask her out. Girls talk and at some point, one of them might mention it to the other (especially if you start dating the other). Some girls can get jealous as well. Obviously, I don’t know their personalities as well as you do, but I would be wary of it. As their friends, they might think you’re taking advantage of them!


She started showing interest in me. I'm not approaching them if that makes sense. I'm letting them come to me

Reply 8

Hi

Reply 9

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by Anonymous
She started showing interest in me. I'm not approaching them if that makes sense. I'm letting them come to me


I think that’s your best option, let them come to you. I would maybe just let her know that you were rejected by her friend, in case she thinks you’re somehow going to use her to get back at her friend. (I would just be as careful and honest as possible because you don’t want them getting the wrong idea and then going around and telling others).

Reply 10

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by Anonymous
She started showing interest in me. I'm not approaching them if that makes sense. I'm letting them come to me

Hey, idk your age but I'm 19 and a girl. I wouldnt want to be with my friend's rejection. So she will probably reject you too. I think save yourself the embarassment and just move on. If you are younger than me then dont even bother because people are very catty in secondary school and this will just cause you issues.

in secondary this boy asked 3 girls out back to back who were all friends and rejected him, so dont bother with that.

in the future if you meet a girl, make sure you are innately a gentleman who respects women and knows how to treat one and like for real, not just for show, and then just be yourself and show her who you truly are and find things you have in common. if that doesnt work or if you have nothing in common then let it go, and if she rejects you then no means no.

girls arent gonna fall in love if you keep pursuing them after they reject you because it makes oyu look desperate and clingy which isnt something girls love.

and yeah you'll find someone some day just dont be rude or creepy about it, and dont go for friends or sisters or your friends exes because all these things cause drama and will likely backfire on you in the future

Reply 11

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by hlatrache
Hey, idk your age but I'm 19 and a girl. I wouldnt want to be with my friend's rejection. So she will probably reject you too. I think save yourself the embarassment and just move on. If you are younger than me then dont even bother because people are very catty in secondary school and this will just cause you issues.
in secondary this boy asked 3 girls out back to back who were all friends and rejected him, so dont bother with that.
in the future if you meet a girl, make sure you are innately a gentleman who respects women and knows how to treat one and like for real, not just for show, and then just be yourself and show her who you truly are and find things you have in common. if that doesnt work or if you have nothing in common then let it go, and if she rejects you then no means no.
girls arent gonna fall in love if you keep pursuing them after they reject you because it makes oyu look desperate and clingy which isnt something girls love.
and yeah you'll find someone some day just dont be rude or creepy about it, and dont go for friends or sisters or your friends exes because all these things cause drama and will likely backfire on you in the future


I asked a girl for her socials she said no

Reply 12

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by Anonymous
I asked a girl for her socials she said no

well if someone says no then its a no, and you should never have to convince someone to want you

have respect for yourself and keep it pushing

rejection is how you learn and grow, so just practice growing as a person and improving your approach

also try to have a proper convo with someone because if you meet a girl and say "hey you;re hot whats your snap" and then get shocked when she rejects you then idk what to tell you

you have to be smart about it and show your personality, and then if she seems receptive to you then say hey id love to talk more, do you have any way we can keep in contact? then she will offer a form that is comfortable for her if she is feeling you

if not then she will make it clear

you should also be aware if she is showing romantic or platonic interest, and if it is platonic but u want it to be romantic then be paitent and show her you are worth it, dont just say i like you, do you like me, like 3 days after meeting if she only sees you as a friend

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