Feeling Disappointed - Fathers Day

Hi, I'm writing to get some thoughts on this because I’m feeling a bit off about it.

It’s Father’s Day today, and instead of spending it with me and my siblings, my dad chose to spend the day with his mom (my grandmother). I haven’t even seen him today or had the chance to give him his Father’s Day presents.

We have a good relationship—there’s no falling out or anything like that. I just really expected to be able to spend the day with him, especially since it’s supposed to be about him being a father.

He won’t be back until pretty late in the evening after visiting my grandmother. I understand that it’s his mom, but I thought he might have wanted to spend the day with my siblings and me.

My grandmother tends to keep him to herself. I’d say my dad is probably her favorite - he’s very reliable and always willing to help.

I’m just feeling kind of disappointed.

Any thoughts?

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StriderHort

I think you might have a slightly unusual idea about what Fathers Day is supposed to be, almost as though it's for him to show how good a father he is across the day. It's not something that has a particularly long history in the UK and to a lot of people it's just another excuse to have to buy cards and stuff when they might just want to enjoy their Sunday.

People can get a bit funny this way about birthdays too, almost near taking offence that someone isn't 'spending' their birthday with them, when the person might just not care, and it's often a bit weird when other people start acting like your 'celebration' means presumption to set aside your day for others.

For the sake of discussion, was there any reason you couldn't have all went to visit your gran, if that's what he was wanting to do today?

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