Struggle having sex
I'm 21, earlier this year I got in my first relationship and we tried to have sex. It was definitely a journey. The first time with multiple fingers there was so much blood and it hurt for days after. We then just tried regularly for him to get it in but it wouldn't fit or get to a certain point and then hurt. Anyway, after lots of tries it finally works and the next 2 times it bled a fair bit still and it took ages to actually get it in. It then got to the point where it wasn't bleeding every time and it was easier to get it in, this was probably like 5 other times now. But we then broke up and I did put fingers in myself like twice but that was it so fast forward 2.5 months later, I am seeing this boy and we tried to have sex last night and we did it, but it hurt which is fine but I also bled again and so we stopped. He tried putting it in again at different angles but it wouldn't go in, as I've figured it only works in missionary. I just need advice as it is so frustrating. I'm not sure if something is wrong with me, like I've spoken to friends and they said they didn't even bleed the first time. Like I just want to be able to have sex when I want to without it being painful, bleeding and just embarrassing. This experience makes me not want to try again as I just feel like it will be the same all over again.
There could be a number of different causes for this, from friction and/or not enough lubrication, to actual medical issues that require some form of treatment. The good news is that in all likelihood this isn't going to be difficult to solve and won't be a serious issue, but the bad news is that no one on an internet forum like this is going to be able to tell you what the problem is. You should go to your GP. They will be able to examine you and likely rule out some of the more serious causes, and can then help guide you as to what the issue may be.
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With enough practice, things become easier.
Sex is a strong commitment between two compatible people. My advice is to only have it with someone you fully trust, love, care for, and respect wholeheartedly.
Sex is a strong commitment between two compatible people. My advice is to only have it with someone you fully trust, love, care for, and respect wholeheartedly.
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