Sexuality Crisis

Hello

I’ve struggled a while with my sexuality from a young age at first I labelled myself as bi and then slowly thought I was lesbian which recently that’s what I came out as a Lesbian as I finally thought I’d figured out who I am out. But now I’m questing my sexuality again back to Bisexual but with a preference for girls. But I’m scared now cause idk what to do I just came out to my friends and family as lesbian but idk if that’s me anymore and I’m worried they’ll hate me cause “I can’t decide” or whatever idk labels are so dumb just wish they didn’t exist and we loved whoever maybe life would’ve been easier and I could’ve had my answer.. it also makes me very overwhelmed and depressed.

Has anyone else felt this way???

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DataVenia

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Original post by Anonymous

Hello

I’ve struggled a while with my sexuality from a young age at first I labelled myself as bi and then slowly thought I was lesbian which recently that’s what I came out as a Lesbian as I finally thought I’d figured out who I am out. But now I’m questing my sexuality again back to Bisexual but with a preference for girls. But I’m scared now cause idk what to do I just came out to my friends and family as lesbian but idk if that’s me anymore and I’m worried they’ll hate me cause “I can’t decide” or whatever idk labels are so dumb just wish they didn’t exist and we loved whoever maybe life would’ve been easier and I could’ve had my answer.. it also makes me very overwhelmed and depressed.

Has anyone else felt this way???

Why do you feel the need to label yourself as anything? How often does the topic come up? How frequently do friends or family directly ask about your sexuality? If you do feel that you have to answer such a question, why not just say something like, "Today, I'm..." to highlight the fact that you don't like to be put in a box?

If you do want to find a label to use, then there's a decent list at https://rainbowandco.uk/blogs/what-were-saying/sexuality-definitions. However, don't be surprised if people ask, "What's that?" if you opt to use many of those terms. :smile:

Reply 2

Crazy Jamie

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Excellent first reply, but I'd add that your friends and family are not going to hate you because you came out at as a lesbian and subsequently go out with a guy. You don't need to broach that subject with them at all, nor do you need to continually adjust your own label or definition of what you are. If it helps you to do that then fine, but it sounds like you're feeling pressure to label yourself because of the perceived expectations of others, and that's not something you should be concerned about because, frankly, other people are not going to care. You don't need to question yourself every time you're attracted to someone new. Just be attracted to who you are attracted to, and do what feels right for you.

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