My toddler wasn’t talking—and I had no idea what to do
Hey everyone,
I don’t usually post things like this, but I wanted to share something personal in case it helps even one of you—whether you’re studying early childhood education, speech and language therapy, or just someone curious about how all this can feel from a parent’s side.
When my little boy turned two, I started noticing that he wasn’t really speaking like other kids his age. No clear words. No “mama” or “car” or “up.” At first, I brushed it off. People told me, “He’s just shy” or “My nephew didn’t speak until he was three and he’s fine now.” So I waited.
But that gut feeling didn’t go away. I could see how frustrated he was trying to communicate—grabbing my hand, pointing, crying when we didn’t understand. It was heartbreaking. And I was exhausted trying to stay calm while feeling like I was failing him.
I did what most of us do: searched online, printed off speech milestone charts, watched tons of advice videos… but most of them either overwhelmed me or made me feel even worse. Nothing really helped me understand what was going on—or what I could realistically do as a parent.
Eventually, I came across some guidance and support that actually made sense to me. It wasn’t overly clinical or technical. It felt like it was made for mums like me. I started learning how to help him during everyday moments—when we were playing, reading, even just getting ready for bed. I stopped stressing about saying the “perfect” thing and focused more on connecting.
Little by little, I saw changes. More eye contact. More attempts at sounds. And finally—words. Not everything at once, but enough to remind me: he was in there, trying, needing me to meet him where he was.
We’re still on that journey. Some days are amazing, others are tough. But I’ve stopped feeling helpless. And if you’re studying to work with kids like mine one day, I just want you to know—what you’ll do will mean the world to a parent like me.
If anyone here ever wants to chat, hear more about our experience, or even just understand how this can feel on the outside of the textbook—I’m here 💛
I don’t usually post things like this, but I wanted to share something personal in case it helps even one of you—whether you’re studying early childhood education, speech and language therapy, or just someone curious about how all this can feel from a parent’s side.
When my little boy turned two, I started noticing that he wasn’t really speaking like other kids his age. No clear words. No “mama” or “car” or “up.” At first, I brushed it off. People told me, “He’s just shy” or “My nephew didn’t speak until he was three and he’s fine now.” So I waited.
But that gut feeling didn’t go away. I could see how frustrated he was trying to communicate—grabbing my hand, pointing, crying when we didn’t understand. It was heartbreaking. And I was exhausted trying to stay calm while feeling like I was failing him.
I did what most of us do: searched online, printed off speech milestone charts, watched tons of advice videos… but most of them either overwhelmed me or made me feel even worse. Nothing really helped me understand what was going on—or what I could realistically do as a parent.
Eventually, I came across some guidance and support that actually made sense to me. It wasn’t overly clinical or technical. It felt like it was made for mums like me. I started learning how to help him during everyday moments—when we were playing, reading, even just getting ready for bed. I stopped stressing about saying the “perfect” thing and focused more on connecting.
Little by little, I saw changes. More eye contact. More attempts at sounds. And finally—words. Not everything at once, but enough to remind me: he was in there, trying, needing me to meet him where he was.
We’re still on that journey. Some days are amazing, others are tough. But I’ve stopped feeling helpless. And if you’re studying to work with kids like mine one day, I just want you to know—what you’ll do will mean the world to a parent like me.
If anyone here ever wants to chat, hear more about our experience, or even just understand how this can feel on the outside of the textbook—I’m here 💛
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