Personal Life and Mindset

I’m curious, what’s the biggest challenge you’re facing right now when it comes relationships? I’ve been working on some mindset strategies and would love to share tips or chat about what’s worked for others!

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username7665365

for me its communication- or lack of
my ex rlly left a bad impression on me in dating in general...

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Anonymous #1

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by Keimi

I think trust. A lot of people or recently someone was saying to me your at the age of marriage. Why don’t you marry I said I don’t trust this generation. The reason why is you don’t know as to what they are capable of and I can be able to relate as a result of my ex partner. I wanted to marry her, I loved her so much, I thought it was vice versa she even had me waiting for 4 years. And then 4 years later she tells me it’s best we no longer talk or meet. I am letting you go. She comes up with the excuses she doesn’t know how to love or her mental health is declining I’m not saying it’s an excuse but as she knows I am there to help and support yet there’s no willingness to interact and she just totally wasted and played my time.

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Keimi

Did you experience a lack of communication or poor communication?

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Anonymous #1

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by Keimi

Did you experience a lack of communication or poor communication?

I think a lack of communication. But when you refer to a lack of communication what do you mean in this sense throughout our relationship we would communicate.

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Anonymous #2

For me it is trying to not let past experience affect me or my relationship. My dad was always very hot and cold in terms of accepting me. Sometimes he would tell me how funny and amazing I was and then other times he would embarrass me in public and give me silent treatment. I feel like I’ve healed from those things but in my relationship I find it’s made me extremely empathetic, always trying to work out how my partner is feeling so I’m not surprised or I can justify his behaviour if he suddenly doesn’t like me or if he thinks I’ve done something wrong. It’s made me not appriciate the present moment with my partner because I’m constantly forecasting a change in his mood or behaviour, even though he has never done that before.
When he brings things up to me that he would like to change about our relationship or something I do wrong, it’s really hard for me to take because im trying so hard all the time to not make mistakes.
I’m trying to separate the two experiences, because my boyfriend is so accepting of me and really is perfect for me. I don’t want to seem sensitive or fragile. He is noticing that I don’t like to get things wrong and I just don’t want it to put a strain on the relationship if he feels like he can’t say anything constructive.
Sorry this is long!

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