Joining Uni societies as third-year PhD
Hi,
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
Reply 1
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by AnonymousHi,
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
Go for it! Honestly people probably wont notice if you're a little bit older, societies are great places to make friends. Hope that goes well for you
Reply 2
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by AnonymousHi,
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
Hello,
I'm quite similar to you too, I kept myself to myself quite a bit during my Masters degree and also the first and second years of my PhD. However, this year I've really tried to get involved more with uni life and as a result from my experience, I'd really recommend you go for it! You could have a look at the societies the uni has in anticipation of the new academic year starting, so that you could sign up to join some in October, along with the new intake of students. If you attend a few of the society events at the beginning of the year you will find like minded people and be able to meet up and socialise more, it really helps to remove the feeling of isolation you might be feeling. It is a bit daunting to attend for the first time, but the societies are so welcoming and inclusive you will soon feel really at home. If you find that a particular society isn't for you, then you can try another, you really have nothing to lose!
Good luck
Jess
PhD English
University of Chester
Reply 3
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by AnonymousHi,
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
Hi there,
I know this can be tough and I understand how you must be feeling.
I think you should go for it! There is such a wide range of ages of people who are at university, so nobody will think twice if you are a couple of years older than some of them. It will be so worth it if you meet some people, or even just to get out and do something that you enjoy it is really worth it! Have a look online at what societies your uni does and see if there are any that you might be interested in and you could think about joining them!
Another way that you might be able to meet some people is by other clubs outside of uni. If you have tried with the people on your course, it might be a good idea to branch out from uni and see if you can make friends elsewhere. See if there are any clubs you can join nearby, such as sports clubs, run clubs, craft, dance etc! There are usually plenty of things like this so have a look!
Looking on social media may be a good idea too. See if you can meet anyone from your uni on Facebook as they often have groups on there where you can meet people from your uni, your course etc that you might not have met before. It is worth trying anyway!
You could also see what events your SU puts on as there may be something you want to do here too. At Hallam they do 'give it a go' events so they may do similar at your uni where you can do something fun and meet some new people!
I hope some of this helps,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
Reply 4
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by AnonymousHi,
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I would absolutely prioritise joining a few societies and do something more social and non-work related: yes, even as a third year. You don't say whether you're an arts or science candidate - I could only talk from a science point of view. I think we're luckier (if that's the word) because we've got a lab to go 'into' - the structure of it is a bit more like a job, and it's easier to compartmentalise work and play. This setup works very well up the writing-up period, or at least it did for me. That's not to say that you leave your research at the lab at 5pm, but I think on balance it's easier to switch off at the end of the day than arts students, for whom their main workspace may well be either the library or their own quarters. I know from friends who were doing arts subjects, it seemed that they often had difficulty in apportioning their time and, with the end of the tenth-term looming, were frantic about doing nothing but writing. I think some of them ended up hating it.
Take some time for yourself to do something social, engaging and not academic. Being a research student affords you some great non-academic opportunities within the wider university: I'd very much take advantage of those opportunities.
Reply 5
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by AnonymousHi,
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
Hey!
Good on you for reaching out, I think a lot of people would relate to what you’re saying more than you might realise!
Firstly, it’s absolutely not weird to join societies as a PhD student or as someone a bit older. Societies are open to everyone, and, societies actually love having members from a range of backgrounds, and that's including postgrads.
Some societies even expect a mix of undergrads and postgrads. I know other PhD students and mature students who’ve joined societies at later stages and really enjoyed it, and in some cases, it became a key part of their uni experience. You bring a different perspective, and that’s a strength, not a barrier!
You also mentioned being ambivert and independent, and I think that’s a great position to be in. You clearly can be social when you want to be, and joining a society doesn’t mean you have to be super involved or go to every event, you can start small, go to a taster session or a low-pressure meet-up, and just see how it feels. I was part of the LJMU powerlifting society and I actually never went to any of the meet ups because i was too busy, but I still competed with them in varsities, so there's literally no pressure to do anything!! It’s also so fine to go alone, lots of people do, and you won’t be the only one!
It also sounds like you’ve got great insight into your own needs and how burnout has crept in. Taking time to connect with others and doing things that aren’t thesis-related can genuinely help recharge you and make the rest of the PhD journey more sustainable and enjoyable.
Wishing you the best with it all!!
Gemma
Official LJMU Student Rep
Reply 6
As for joining societies, you’ll be absolutely fine, and if you’re on a four year program so have 2 full academic calendars then id definitely go for it. As for being a late stage PhD so perhaps you will find societies typically have a gradient of ages & demographics, and the maturity & life experience growth happens very fast between 18 & 21 but slows down significantly after this so you’ll probably find later stage undergraduates, masters students, mature students are probably more like you themselves then freshers … as such they may gravitate to you anyway.
As someone who continued to stay in societies through a PhD id recommend it & had no issues, i found i was friends with the students I just described above & even felt like a bit of a mentor some younger students which was quite a nice experience. I also had a small group of PhDs in my society so wasn’t the only one…
As someone who continued to stay in societies through a PhD id recommend it & had no issues, i found i was friends with the students I just described above & even felt like a bit of a mentor some younger students which was quite a nice experience. I also had a small group of PhDs in my society so wasn’t the only one…
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by AnonymousHi,
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I'd say go for it im turning 40 first year of my UG and plan on making the most of societies and social outlets. People uave to get on with all sorts at different ages and life stages its just applying that outside a work environment
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by AnonymousHi,
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
Hi there,
As a member of a bunch of student societies and a third year bachelors student, I can tell you that I would have been really happy to see someone like you join the societies I am a part of. The level of the expertise, experience and knowledge you could bring seems invaluable. Honestly, everyone would be happy for you to join, so please do not be worried about that.
Also, being part of student societies is fun. There are a lot of social events and generally interacting with like-minded people is nice. So yes, I do believe that it's a great idea!
Take care,
Ilya,
Cyber Security student at DMU
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by AnonymousHi,
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I'm the oldest in my gaming society by an entire other person lol, and I love it - definitely get out there (I'm also a 3rd year PhD)
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by Daniel - UOSI'm the oldest in my gaming society by an entire other person lol, and I love it - definitely get out there (I'm also a 3rd year PhD)
This actually makes me feel more comfortable
Reply 11
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by AnonymousHi,
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
I'm going to be a third-year PhD student at my uni. I'm 30, so a little older than a lot of UGs and PGs. I've noticed I need to and that I want to get out and do things and meet people. I've taken a step back an noticed I'm probably craving and needing social contact and that I should make more of my time still at uni before its too late. I've been thinking maybe to join some societies that match my interests, but not sure if it would be weird or not to do that with being a phd, at such as later stage and being older than most. Itd be nice to hear from other people their thoughts, if you've done it or know others who have and what that was like or any advice for other ways or things to do.
I'm from London, and lived here and studied here at different unis for my UG and Masters but not really ever made friends or got involved in societies before. I have friends from school, who I'm still close to but obvs they're doing all the things I'm not at my age - working proper jobs, spouses and kids etc, so its tough making plans or going out. I had a career before my phd and my own interests and things I do on my own, so I'm not a social outcast or anything. I'd say I was an introvert, but work-people would say I was extroverted, so I'm probably an ambivert I guess. I can be social, I don't have any issues with talking to or meeting new people or groups.
I've kept to myself for most of the PhD, its a little in my nature and a little because of the PhD which can be isolating too. I've fallen a little behind and a bit burnt out and realised I've been spending a lot of my time (even "spare" time) working on my phd or just on my own. Its got its pluses, and I dont mind doing stuff independently, like eating out or cinema. But its not great for your mental health necessarily to do it all the time. There is a cohort of other PhDs, but everyone is off doing their own thing too, so we don't see each other at all. Plus, I never really made uni friends ever either. In UG, there were some people I hung around with, but we were never close or stayed in touch. And for my Masters, it was mainly mature students and part-timers, so I never got to know anyone either. I'm hoping joining a society might change that and push me a little bit more.
Hey there!
It's completely normal to feel that pull towards more social connection, especially during a PhD – it can be an isolating journey. And it's brilliant that you're recognising this and want to make the most of your time at uni!
Regarding joining societies as a third-year PhD student who's 30 – absolutely not weird at all! Universities are incredibly diverse places, full of students of all ages and stages of study, including many PhDs. Societies are one of the best ways to meet people who share your interests, regardless of age or academic level.
Join Societies:
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A fantastic way to meet people. Many societies have a wide age range, and you'll often find fellow postgrads or mature students who are also looking to connect.
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Explore beyond UG-focused ones: While many general societies are great, also check if your university has a dedicated Postgraduate Society or specific academic societies for your field, as these can be good places to meet peers.
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University support: Remember, the university also has wellbeing services if you ever need to chat about the isolation aspect.
Hope this helps!😊
Rachel - Undergraduate Multimedia Journalism
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