if your partner says he doesn’t love you but acts like he does, would you believe him

like would you actually believe his words if he still acts like you're together, especially if you know he’s only saying that because someone told him lies about you? at what point do you give up?

Sorry I’m a little confused are you trying to say if they don’t love you. But acts as though they do would you still believe they love you? Is that what your saying in this case or reference unless I heard it out of her own mouth, and the affection is purely coming out of herself from her own heart, unconditionally showing her genuine authentic self that everyone knows of and not for the sake of it I for one until then would not believe it.

yh that's wha i mean. he says he doesn’t love me anymore and that i supposedly 'destroyed' his life but at the same time he still acts like he wants to be with me, our relationship practically hasnt changed at all. he still clearly wants me, i still have access to his money, he even makes me food every day lol

If that was the case then I would question why they are there in the first place? Nobody asking for you to be here in the first place not to stick around for the sake of it. Love is reciprocated both ways not one way. Love is given by both not just one. If she were to do that to me. You’ll rightfully know anyways I would have said exactly the same what I am saying to you. As for this whole acting thing, again the thing I question is is this out of his own will that he clearly wants you does he show that reciprocation, does he show you that affection is it still the same as before. The whole food thing is it because he wants to and it’s out of compassion and care or is it in his mind he may think “Oh really do I have to cook again” and make something for you… how is he is everything out of compassion, affection, care and unconditional love is he him genuine self.

yh, he’s still acting the same, it’s just that his words don’t match his actions
it's confusing af
idk what he wants anymore

There’s where you need to sit down and have that conversation with him. Know your worth. Know your value. Know that your time cannot be wasted. Know that also if he does love you as he saying he is remember he must be his best authentic self, he must actually show it and he must also mean it. Anybody and I can be able to relate can say “I love you” but you really don’t know why they act like the way they are, or plan to stick by and then afterwards it leads to something else.

yh, he’s still acting the same, it’s just that his words don’t match his actions
it's confusing af
idk what he wants anymore

whenever i try to talk to him he just repeats the same **** over and over again ; //

Does it matter?
You're not leaving if he means it or no.

i’m actually thinking of just leaving like fr. i feel so fkn alone when he’s like this, but i can't evn invite anyone over, everything i do is a problem, he believes a complete stranger over me

im not entirely sure what i want yet tbh

Your boyfriend is feeling conflicting emotions. On the one hand he wants to end things with you. On the other hand he doesn't want to hurt you.
Underneath his temper and his alcohol consumption he is a decent man. And as a decent man he feels guilty when he hurts you.
If you were to move out and to make it apparent that you were fine about moving out, he'd go along with that.
With you not moving out and making it apparent that you don't want to leave, that makes it very difficult for him. So difficult that it's just words so far and no action from him.
How he feels about you could stay about the same or it could get worse or it could get better. If it gets significantly worse he will take action to break from you, even though that will hurt you.

yh, he’s still acting the same, it’s just that his words don’t match his actions
it's confusing af
idk what he wants anymore

He sounds like a controlling prick (in my opinion)... you should really prioritise yourself (as a previous poster said), especially mental-health wise.

you do realize his actions represent his real self, right?
So, in simple terms, he's still in love with you and shows it non-verbally. And if I assume that you're still in love with him, then I don't see any logical issue in continuing to stay with him.