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Teenager life

So basically I’m a sensible students gets the top grades aiming for top uni with a stereotypically ‘good degree’. Context I am 16 and I just feel like I am living a life so focused on the future rather than the present. I want to have the phase of doing ‘dumb teenage things’ getting drunk, sneaking out to go to a friends, having a boyfriend but I honestly don’t know how I can achieve this- my friends are not these kinds of people and 2 in particular want to be included and do these cool things- like this time (only time ever lol) I was invited to a house party but just went and told there mums all sorts of things about how their was alcohol and other things knowing they would tell my mother- who thank god still let my go- this action really got to me.
So basically most of my friends I can’t even trust to discuss this- don’t get me wrong I love them we have a great friendship and I’d say I only rly have one or 2 friends I would even consider to do these sorts of things but not really to be honest.
I don’t wanna like spiral and get drunk every week and I understand the unfortunate dangers of today but like I just want to have some key memories of dumb teenage years of fun- but the kinda fun which is seemed forbidden which makes the memories even more fond.
Will I get to experience some stuff at uni?- bear in mind I will be doing an intensive course but this doesn’t mean I am going to sacrifice my social life as current quality of life is so important to me

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by Anonymous
So basically I’m a sensible students gets the top grades aiming for top uni with a stereotypically ‘good degree’. Context I am 16 and I just feel like I am living a life so focused on the future rather than the present. I want to have the phase of doing ‘dumb teenage things’ getting drunk, sneaking out to go to a friends, having a boyfriend but I honestly don’t know how I can achieve this- my friends are not these kinds of people and 2 in particular want to be included and do these cool things- like this time (only time ever lol) I was invited to a house party but just went and told there mums all sorts of things about how their was alcohol and other things knowing they would tell my mother- who thank god still let my go- this action really got to me.
So basically most of my friends I can’t even trust to discuss this- don’t get me wrong I love them we have a great friendship and I’d say I only rly have one or 2 friends I would even consider to do these sorts of things but not really to be honest.
I don’t wanna like spiral and get drunk every week and I understand the unfortunate dangers of today but like I just want to have some key memories of dumb teenage years of fun- but the kinda fun which is seemed forbidden which makes the memories even more fond.
Will I get to experience some stuff at uni?- bear in mind I will be doing an intensive course but this doesn’t mean I am going to sacrifice my social life as current quality of life is so important to me

Honestly, you do a lot of growing at university. You will be doing a lot of work, pushing yourself in new ways, and achieving great things...but you'll certainly do silly things too, these days less because of alcohol and more because fun things are just fun! You're going to be at uni for at least 3 years - during that time, you will make a host of new friends, have life-changing experiences, and create a lifetime of memories...if you let yourself. You get out of uni what you put in, so go to freshers week, attend that ridiculous fancy dress party, join that weird society, try that new sport - DO STUFF!!!! Not enjoying a party? go home; join a society and don't enjoy it, join another; if you don't like that new sport, so what? try something else...experiment, try new things, try not to be nervous - if things get too much at any point there will be a wellbeing service to reach out to...my uni even has a buddy scheme if you are struggling to find your fit, maybe your uni will have something similar. University life gives you so many opportunities to expand life experience, to try totally new things with amazing people, to travel, to experience true independence, to create amazing core memories - 16 to 18 is just the tutorial level you have to get through safely to get there, so be kind to yourself, stay safe, and have an AMAZING university journey when you get there

Reply 2

Original post
by Anonymous
So basically I’m a sensible students gets the top grades aiming for top uni with a stereotypically ‘good degree’. Context I am 16 and I just feel like I am living a life so focused on the future rather than the present. I want to have the phase of doing ‘dumb teenage things’ getting drunk, sneaking out to go to a friends, having a boyfriend but I honestly don’t know how I can achieve this- my friends are not these kinds of people and 2 in particular want to be included and do these cool things- like this time (only time ever lol) I was invited to a house party but just went and told there mums all sorts of things about how their was alcohol and other things knowing they would tell my mother- who thank god still let my go- this action really got to me.
So basically most of my friends I can’t even trust to discuss this- don’t get me wrong I love them we have a great friendship and I’d say I only rly have one or 2 friends I would even consider to do these sorts of things but not really to be honest.
I don’t wanna like spiral and get drunk every week and I understand the unfortunate dangers of today but like I just want to have some key memories of dumb teenage years of fun- but the kinda fun which is seemed forbidden which makes the memories even more fond.
Will I get to experience some stuff at uni?- bear in mind I will be doing an intensive course but this doesn’t mean I am going to sacrifice my social life as current quality of life is so important to me

Maybe you can prioritise and set time for studying, as well as for your social life.

There is a lot of support out there such as:

-The Samaritans, you can call 116 123, which is available 24 hours a day

-Mind, 0300 123 3393

-Saneline, 0300 304 7000, from 4.30pm-10.30pm

-The mix, 0800 808 4994, 11am-11pm

-SHOUT, text 852258, 24 hour text service

-Crises, 741741, text service

-Papyrus, 0800 068 4141, if you have thoughts of suicide or in emotional distress

-Rethink mental health, 0300 5000 927

-No Panic, 0800 138 8889

-Relate, they have a chat advisor

-NHS mental health, 111

-Kooth, www.kooth.com, a chat, message website

-7cups, www.7cups.com, 24/7 online chat

-Support line, 01708 765200, email: [email protected]

-Anxiety UK, 03444 775 774, 9:30am to 17:30pm Mon to Friday, a text service 07537 416905

-Young minds, www.youngminds.org.uk

-Calm, calm.com

-Mental Health 24/7: 0800 008 6516

-Young minds, text "YM" to 85258, for free, 24/7 support

-hubofhope website, useful contact information for your local area.

-Nightline, usually run by your university

You can self refer yourself to talking therapies on the NHS website.

Young minds website has a variety of information for mental health, from anxiety, depression, panic attacks, stress to loneliness etc.

Heads above the waves website has great information, advice and resources regarding a variety of mental health issues.

There is the mind forum

Also Facebook groups

You can join support groups

Their must be sanctuary hubs based on your local area

You can contact a crises team if things get very bad

Plenty of resources online, infor mation regarding well being.

Natural methods such as exercise, taking a walk, talking to a friend etc.

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