am i evil for leaving my boyfriend and family and moving abroad?
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its not even that i want to that much
it's what something beyond me is pushing me toward
the path thats been set for me
it's what something beyond me is pushing me toward
the path thats been set for me
Reply 1
Evil is a strong word in any circumstances, but especially in situations where someone does something that they believe to be in their best interests. It may be different if you had obligations such as looking after children and such, but you do not and your relationship with your boyfriend has hardly been the model of stability. It is important, however, to take responsibility for your own choices. None of this "I don't really want to do it but it's destiny" nonsense. Your life. Your choices. Own them.
Evil? No.
If you don't want to do it though I think "misguided" might be the most diplomatic way of putting it though.
If you don't want to do it though I think "misguided" might be the most diplomatic way of putting it though.
Reply 3
Ciel.
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by Crazy JamieEvil is a strong word in any circumstances, but especially in situations where someone does something that they believe to be in their best interests. It may be different if you had obligations such as looking after children and such, but you do not and your relationship with your boyfriend has hardly been the model of stability. It is important, however, to take responsibility for your own choices. None of this "I don't really want to do it but it's destiny" nonsense. Your life. Your choices. Own them.
i know what you mean, but that’s what my god wants, as long as i listen to what he wants, everything is going well, can’t break the cycle
Reply 4
Ciel.
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by artful_loungerEvil? No.
If you don't want to do it though I think "misguided" might be the most diplomatic way of putting it though.
If you don't want to do it though I think "misguided" might be the most diplomatic way of putting it though.
i do wanna do it
just feel a bit guilty
Reply 5
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I thought your boyfriend dumped you? And no, albeit random moves without purpose are not a good idea.
Reply 6
Ciel.
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by Rakas21I thought your boyfriend dumped you? And no, albeit random moves without purpose are not a good idea.
he never meant it, since he clearly doesn’t evn want me to leave..it doesnt matter either way i hate it here
Reply 7
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by Crazy JamieEvil is a strong word in any circumstances, but especially in situations where someone does something that they believe to be in their best interests. It may be different if you had obligations such as looking after children and such, but you do not and your relationship with your boyfriend has hardly been the model of stability. It is important, however, to take responsibility for your own choices. None of this "I don't really want to do it but it's destiny" nonsense. Your life. Your choices. Own them.
Hey Ciel,
You’re not evil at all, you’re human. Wanting to grow, explore, and follow something that feels bigger than you is not something to feel guilty about. Sometimes life nudges us in a direction that doesn’t make perfect sense to others but feels undeniably right deep down.
Leaving loved ones behind, especially a boyfriend or family, is incredibly hard. But choosing yourself and your journey doesn’t mean you’re abandoning them. It just means you’re honouring the path that’s calling you right now. You can love people deeply and still choose to go. That’s not selfish, it’s brave.
If this move is part of your growth or purpose, then trust that the people who truly love you will want you to thrive, even if it hurts a little. And you never know — distance might change some relationships, but it can also deepen them.
You’re not alone in feeling this kind of pull, and you’re definitely not a bad person for listening to it. Wishing you clarity, strength, and peace with whatever comes next 💛
Jhoan
Digital Media Second-Year
London Metropolitan University
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