What's some stuff you regret not doing/doing in your University life?
Hey there, 2nd year med student going to 3rd, and I was just thinking about how dead my social life was so far - my course mates aren't my style (far too serious/stressed or completely aloof and didn't really take their degree seriously) so I've only had a few friends [and I do like them, truly, but they don't necessarily get me.]
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
Reply 1
Hi there,
One thing I regret about my student life was setting too high a standard for myself in first year. Because I was used to getting good marks in sixth form, I felt I had to get 1sts in all my assignments at uni too, when in actual fact this is a very difficult thing to achieve. What's important about first year is getting into a good study routine, developing good work habits, but also experiencing other aspects of uni such as societies, SU nights, exploring town and meeting new people. So I wish I'd just 'chilled out' a bit more and eased some of the pressure I put on myself. Make the most of your time at uni when you can and grab any opportunity that comes your way 🙂
All the best everyone!
University of Bath
One thing I regret about my student life was setting too high a standard for myself in first year. Because I was used to getting good marks in sixth form, I felt I had to get 1sts in all my assignments at uni too, when in actual fact this is a very difficult thing to achieve. What's important about first year is getting into a good study routine, developing good work habits, but also experiencing other aspects of uni such as societies, SU nights, exploring town and meeting new people. So I wish I'd just 'chilled out' a bit more and eased some of the pressure I put on myself. Make the most of your time at uni when you can and grab any opportunity that comes your way 🙂
All the best everyone!
University of Bath
Reply 2
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by turipturipgoodusHey there, 2nd year med student going to 3rd, and I was just thinking about how dead my social life was so far - my course mates aren't my style (far too serious/stressed or completely aloof and didn't really take their degree seriously) so I've only had a few friends [and I do like them, truly, but they don't necessarily get me.]
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
Hi @turipturipgoodus
My biggest recommendation is to talk to as many people as possible and try to keep in touch with the people you really enjoyed spending time with. I tried to make sure had people I enjoyed chatting to in every module I took - it just makes university life much more enjoyable. Not all friendships need to be super close or deep, sometimes the more casual chatting friendships can make all the difference in your day-to-day mood.
Alongside this, do not be afraid to pull away from friendships that might be bringing you down. I think I stuck around with a group I'd known from first year for far too long, to the point it was impacting my mental health. I'm sure they're great friends to each other, but the friendship was really bad for me and my entire university experience turned around when I was willing to let it go.
Best of luck with the rest of your degree!
Rebecca (Lancaster Student Ambassador)
Reply 3
My insight is similar to Rebecca's.
I do have some regrets, mainly that certain friendships and relationships at university didn’t click as easily or naturally as they did back in sixth form. But over time, a lot of that regret faded when I stopped chasing deep connections and became more open to casual, day-to-day friendships.
I didn’t actively choose that shift in mindset. It happened during exam season, when I became more focused on studying. Ironically, once I stopped putting pressure on myself to "fix" my social life, I started finding more fulfilment in the friendships I already had, even if they weren’t super close. I realised that part of my earlier obsession with finding deep friendships probably came from boredom outside of study hours. Once I had other things to do, goals, hobbies, and revision, I was less bothered, and things felt more balanced.
I do regret not getting involved in those other interests earlier in the year.
Having something meaningful to focus on outside of academics helped a lot. I’d encourage you to explore societies, events, and SU nights, not just to meet people, but to actually enjoy the experience.
These environments are where people expect to socialise, so it’s easier to connect naturally.
Overall, I’m quite satisfied with my first year. I achieved grades I’m proud of and met some of my goals. If I could change anything, it would be taking a more relaxed approach to my social life from the beginning, going to more events not just to make friends, but to have fun for myself.
Wishing you the best of luck,
Ulaw Ambassador,
Alfred.
I do have some regrets, mainly that certain friendships and relationships at university didn’t click as easily or naturally as they did back in sixth form. But over time, a lot of that regret faded when I stopped chasing deep connections and became more open to casual, day-to-day friendships.
I didn’t actively choose that shift in mindset. It happened during exam season, when I became more focused on studying. Ironically, once I stopped putting pressure on myself to "fix" my social life, I started finding more fulfilment in the friendships I already had, even if they weren’t super close. I realised that part of my earlier obsession with finding deep friendships probably came from boredom outside of study hours. Once I had other things to do, goals, hobbies, and revision, I was less bothered, and things felt more balanced.
I do regret not getting involved in those other interests earlier in the year.
Having something meaningful to focus on outside of academics helped a lot. I’d encourage you to explore societies, events, and SU nights, not just to meet people, but to actually enjoy the experience.
These environments are where people expect to socialise, so it’s easier to connect naturally.
Overall, I’m quite satisfied with my first year. I achieved grades I’m proud of and met some of my goals. If I could change anything, it would be taking a more relaxed approach to my social life from the beginning, going to more events not just to make friends, but to have fun for myself.
Wishing you the best of luck,
Ulaw Ambassador,
Alfred.
Reply 4
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by turipturipgoodusHey there, 2nd year med student going to 3rd, and I was just thinking about how dead my social life was so far - my course mates aren't my style (far too serious/stressed or completely aloof and didn't really take their degree seriously) so I've only had a few friends [and I do like them, truly, but they don't necessarily get me.]
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
Hey @turipturipgoodus,
Great question!
I think my biggest regret over the course of my undergraduate degree was not getting more involved with a sports society. I played football at college and intended to keep it up at university, but never felt like I could afford the time between balancing study, part-time work and my commitments to other societies. However, it was a great way to stay fit and I miss the feeling of being part of a team.
I did get involved with lots of other activities though - and part of me feels like if I had joined a sports society, I wouldn't have been able to dedicate as much time to all of the other opportunities I took part in at uni. I suppose it's all about trying to find a comfortable balance! 😂
Best of luck, and I hope you meet your people soon!
Eve (Kingston Rep).
Reply 5
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by turipturipgoodusHey there, 2nd year med student going to 3rd, and I was just thinking about how dead my social life was so far - my course mates aren't my style (far too serious/stressed or completely aloof and didn't really take their degree seriously) so I've only had a few friends [and I do like them, truly, but they don't necessarily get me.]
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
Hello @turipturipgoodus,
I think you are doing all the right things, the best thing you can do at university (and in life) is be open and try your best at everything and anything that comes your way. My biggest regret is not saying yes to more options, especially ones that were more out my comfort zone. As these are the opportunities that really give you that life experience that university is there for.
Again, the fact that you are trying is brilliant and the fact that you aren't giving up is even better. Overdoing studying is not the worst habit you can get into at uni, but do remember to take moments to have a work life balance.
Your third year goes quicker than the previous two combined, so a big bit of advice is to enjoy the little moments as well as the big achievements (and I am sure you will have so many big achievements).
All the best with your journey and I hope this helps,
Matt ~ Uni of Salford rep
Reply 6
Original post
by turipturipgoodusHey there, 2nd year med student going to 3rd, and I was just thinking about how dead my social life was so far - my course mates aren't my style (far too serious/stressed or completely aloof and didn't really take their degree seriously) so I've only had a few friends [and I do like them, truly, but they don't necessarily get me.]
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
Hi there,
I think Uni can be hard and navigating such a big change is tricky so there are bound to be a couple of things you wished you did differently!
I think one thing I regret is not joining societies when I was in first and second year. They are really great ways to meet people and I just needed to stop being nervous and try it! I made some great friends doing this and it's good to put yourself out of your comfort zone.
I also think that I found friends in my flatmates in first year and kind of stuck with them rather than meeting new people and saying yes to other plans. This isn't a bad thing but I ended up not being as close with them in second year which I found hard as I didn't have as many friends outside of this group.
Uni has gone so quick (as everyone says it does) but it went a lot quicker than I thought! M best advice would be to just enjoy it and get involved in as much as you can as it is a great opportunity to meet new people and do some fun things. Try and be the one to ask people to meet sometimes and make plans with people as 9 times out of 10 they will be up for it!
One general tip for balancing your studies is to try and make a schedule for your week. If you plan in when you have uni, when you have work, when you need to revise etc you can see when you are free and plan some fun things in too. I find that if I have it planned or on my calendar I tend to do it, even if you have some work you could do too (unless it's really urgent).
I hope some of this helps,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
Reply 7
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by turipturipgoodusHey there, 2nd year med student going to 3rd, and I was just thinking about how dead my social life was so far - my course mates aren't my style (far too serious/stressed or completely aloof and didn't really take their degree seriously) so I've only had a few friends [and I do like them, truly, but they don't necessarily get me.]
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
Hey @turipturipgoodus
Navigating university life can be tricky and overwhelming at times, and it is a more common feeling amongst students than you might think! I really admire the way you are approaching your next year - planning ahead and trying new things is a great way to make the most of your university life, meet new people and make friends!
One of the things I regret doing in my first year is not being patient with myself. I wish I knew that it is normal for it to take some time to settle down and meet your people. Many students are in the same boat as us, so I also wish I put myself out there more.
One thing I regret not doing in my first two years is finding the right work-life balance. Just like you, I used to work very hard. I didn't give enough importance to other aspects of university life and the value of taking productive breaks. Please remember - rest isn't a luxury, it is an essential! I would recommend using a digital calendar or a planner diary to help you schedule your time and make sure you are giving yourself enough downtime as well.
I hope this helps!
All the best,
Akshita
(University of Southampton Student Rep)
(edited 7 months ago)
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by turipturipgoodusHey there, 2nd year med student going to 3rd, and I was just thinking about how dead my social life was so far - my course mates aren't my style (far too serious/stressed or completely aloof and didn't really take their degree seriously) so I've only had a few friends [and I do like them, truly, but they don't necessarily get me.]
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
I joined a few societies, but haven't really found people I'd go out of my way to spend time with, and I sure as hell ain't giving up yet - next year I'll be taking up new stuff just to have fun and I'm sure EVENTUALLY I'll meet some people I can vibe with, but other than that - I also wanna know what stuff people regret doing or not doing when they were still a student.
(And for any medics out there - any tips on balancing studies with actually living? I'm a bit of an academic so I tend to overdo the studying)
Thanks guys!
Hi there,
My biggest uni regret was not exploring the city around me other than the night life.
This year i've been trying all the museums, sites, cafes and other touristy spots and have really enjoyed exploring. A lot of the activities are also pretty low on cost. They're also a great way to get some no pressure time to get to know someone you met in class or at a society and want to know more about.
Hope this helps
Amber
Coventry University Student Ambassador
Reply 9
Not saving up as soon as I started first year.
Reply 10
Med school’s like a social desert sometimes, you’re either buried in notes or surrounded by zombies in lab coats. Just crash random society events, worst case you get free snacks. And for balance? I treated Netflix like a module, 30 mins a night, guilt-free. You got this!
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