Bf more “open” than I am
I’ve (17) been dating this really nice guy (17) for 2 months and it’s been going pretty well so far. However there’s just one thing. He’s seems to be moving faster in this relationship than me. He wants to post our pics together from our dates on socials but I feel like we need a bit of time before we go public. Also he has asked me to go round to his house to meet his parents several times and I just think it’s too early for that but I haven’t voiced this to him just in case I hurt his feelings. I’ve sort of been delaying it hoping he would get the idea but he just doesn’t seem to pick this up. Also this may seem trivial and I’m probably overreacting but I’m one of those people who don’t really share their playlist with people and I told him this but he just keeps asking me for it and it’s making me more and more uncomfortable. I don’t really know what to do 
I would love some advice. Am I just overreacting?
I would love some advice. Am I just overreacting?Reply 1
It's not overreacting to want to go at a pace that you're comfortable with.
As with nearly everything in relationships, you just need to talk to your other half about it, rather than hoping he picks up on signals.
As with nearly everything in relationships, you just need to talk to your other half about it, rather than hoping he picks up on signals.
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by Admit-OneIt's not overreacting to want to go at a pace that you're comfortable with.
As with nearly everything in relationships, you just need to talk to your other half about it, rather than hoping he picks up on signals.
As with nearly everything in relationships, you just need to talk to your other half about it, rather than hoping he picks up on signals.
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by AnonymousYeah I thought so but I did talk to him about the sharing music thing but he still kept insisting 😕
To most people a playlist isn't too personal, so I doubt he would pick up that it is making you uncomfortable.
It's completely okay to say "not yet, that's something I'd want to share later".
Reply 4
about the music thing, how did you talk to him about it? was it direct eg. “hey, i don’t really want to share music right now so please stop asking”? if it was in a kind of indirect manner then he might not have picked up on signals, but if it was in a direct way then that’s a bit iffy. he should respect your nos, no matter how big or small they are. about the other things, you should try bring it up to him, pls don’t worry about hurting his feelings because you need to have uncomfortable conversations to have a comfortable relationship!! you should watch what he does after you communicate though, if he constantly disrespects your wishes… yeah that’s a problem
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by AnonymousI’ve (17) been dating this really nice guy (17) for 2 months and it’s been going pretty well so far. However there’s just one thing. He’s seems to be moving faster in this relationship than me. He wants to post our pics together from our dates on socials but I feel like we need a bit of time before we go public. Also he has asked me to go round to his house to meet his parents several times and I just think it’s too early for that but I haven’t voiced this to him just in case I hurt his feelings. I’ve sort of been delaying it hoping he would get the idea but he just doesn’t seem to pick this up. Also this may seem trivial and I’m probably overreacting but I’m one of those people who don’t really share their playlist with people and I told him this but he just keeps asking me for it and it’s making me more and more uncomfortable. I don’t really know what to do I would love some advice. Am I just overreacting?
I would love some advice. Am I just overreacting?oh, and just to add, i don’t think you are overreacting. everyone has different wants and needs, and yours are no different so please don’t be hard on yourself
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by julietteeeeoh, and just to add, i don’t think you are overreacting. everyone has different wants and needs, and yours are no different so please don’t be hard on yourself
Thank you for the advice this really means a lot 🙂 I did directly tell him I don’t want to share my playlist as I’m not comfortable a few times. Hopefully he will lay off it soon.
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by AnonymousThank you for the advice this really means a lot 🙂 I did directly tell him I don’t want to share my playlist as I’m not comfortable a few times. Hopefully he will lay off it soon.
of course!! happy to help
yeah, i hope he lays it off too. i'd still keep that situation in the back of my mind though, its just quite odd to me that he just isn't really listening. i guess the way i think of this is if its such a small ask and he keeps disregarding your feelings (from what i understand), it just has the possibility of him becoming pressuring for way bigger things if that makes sense. perhaps im being paranoid about this but its just the pattern of him wanting to do something for the sake of his interest, and not really taking into thought your feelings about it. im not sure if breaking up is really an option for you, but i'd say if it gets worse or doesn't change, then maybe it's worth at least considering. i dont know your relationship fully and im just building my own perspective off of what you said, but it really is just a thing he should respectQuick Reply
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