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Matched a girl I met before but she’s not replying

So I met a girl on a train 2 years ago and we really hit it off, we got each others numbers and started texting for around 1 month, before she went abroad traveling for a couple months, we said when she returns back to the UK in a few months for us to go for dinner and see eachother again etc.. but after she left to go traveling she stopped replying and we lost touch. I tried sending a multiple follow up texts but never heard back.

It’s now been almost 2 year and I just matched her on bumble I remembered her instantly and it felt like fate to match her again. I’m not sure if anyone here is familiar with bumble but after you ‘match’ you get to send 1 message, only 1, which replies to one of their prompts. So as my opener I just replied to her prompt which was asking what your favourite tv show was so I just replied saying mine.

Then she gets 24 hours to respond otherwise you automatically get unmatched. But it’s now been around 12 hours and she hasn’t replied so we only have another 12 before it’s unmatched.

I feel like I should have just said who I was in my opener to remind her, and I should have said “hey remember me? We met on the train a couple years ago”

As maybe she doesn’t remember me and is just going to ignore my opener to her prompt, maybe she thought it was boring or something.

But I’m unsure what to do, should I send her another text now saying “hey remember me we just matched on bumble haha” or would that be weird???

Reply 1

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by Anonymous
So I met a girl on a train 2 years ago and we really hit it off, we got each others numbers and started texting for around 1 month, before she went abroad traveling for a couple months, we said when she returns back to the UK in a few months for us to go for dinner and see eachother again etc.. but after she left to go traveling she stopped replying and we lost touch. I tried sending a multiple follow up texts but never heard back.
It’s now been almost 2 year and I just matched her on bumble I remembered her instantly and it felt like fate to match her again. I’m not sure if anyone here is familiar with bumble but after you ‘match’ you get to send 1 message, only 1, which replies to one of their prompts. So as my opener I just replied to her prompt which was asking what your favourite tv show was so I just replied saying mine.
Then she gets 24 hours to respond otherwise you automatically get unmatched. But it’s now been around 12 hours and she hasn’t replied so we only have another 12 before it’s unmatched.
I feel like I should have just said who I was in my opener to remind her, and I should have said “hey remember me? We met on the train a couple years ago”
As maybe she doesn’t remember me and is just going to ignore my opener to her prompt, maybe she thought it was boring or something.
But I’m unsure what to do, should I send her another text now saying “hey remember me we just matched on bumble haha” or would that be weird???

I think let it be, I doubt she wouldn’t have remembered you if you talked for that long, don’t stress too much about it. I like that you really liked her, two years later. It could be fate but also leave room for it not being fate and not working out. But if you’d like to send that message do so, and just it all out. In the end follow your gut more than anything

Reply 2

Original post
by Anonymous
So I met a girl on a train 2 years ago and we really hit it off, we got each others numbers and started texting for around 1 month, before she went abroad traveling for a couple months, we said when she returns back to the UK in a few months for us to go for dinner and see eachother again etc.. but after she left to go traveling she stopped replying and we lost touch. I tried sending a multiple follow up texts but never heard back.
It’s now been almost 2 year and I just matched her on bumble I remembered her instantly and it felt like fate to match her again. I’m not sure if anyone here is familiar with bumble but after you ‘match’ you get to send 1 message, only 1, which replies to one of their prompts. So as my opener I just replied to her prompt which was asking what your favourite tv show was so I just replied saying mine.
Then she gets 24 hours to respond otherwise you automatically get unmatched. But it’s now been around 12 hours and she hasn’t replied so we only have another 12 before it’s unmatched.
I feel like I should have just said who I was in my opener to remind her, and I should have said “hey remember me? We met on the train a couple years ago”
As maybe she doesn’t remember me and is just going to ignore my opener to her prompt, maybe she thought it was boring or something.
But I’m unsure what to do, should I send her another text now saying “hey remember me we just matched on bumble haha” or would that be weird???

Its horrible when that happens to, sadly I think she has found someone else

Reply 3

It feels as if things have moved on for her since the train meeting. I would be inclined to leave it as is, it’s likely she also remembers who you are if you have been messaging. This said, there doesn’t seem any harm in your message other than it adds to the disappointment if this is not answered. Plenty more fish though

Reply 4

Get over it, she is clearly not interested. You messaging her again will make you like a stalker

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