girlfriend broke up with me suddenly.

girlfriend left me after nearly 7 months out of the blue claiming she doesn't want to be intimate and only sees me as a good friend.
I loved her. I thought she loved me. She talked about getting married, engaged, using my surname instead of her own. She's been travelling for the past 2 months at a summer camp abroad. I knew it would be hard but I knew i was strong and i could do it. I kept myself busy every day knowing she'd be coming home.
Two days ago her nan died, and i thought something was odd when she told me not to send a card or go to the funeral. then she texts me to say she doesn't see a future with me. she doesn't want to have sex with me, thinks im just a good ffirend, has felt like it since beffore she left. she said she needs space, when i said i assume this is a breakup she just said I need space.
I'm heartbroken, I'm devastated I'm everything. I just feel like i've been living a lie thinking I've been in this happy relationship when if she's telling the truth, she hasn't felt the same for a while. I just feel like my whole future which I had planned has gone. This is the longest relationship i've had and the second one i've had (also her second one but her one was longer).
I'm going to give her space but i've assumed from what she said its a break up but where do I even go from here? my ex before I dumped so it was on my terms and i never felt that strongly but this was something else.
How do I prevent this - if i can - from happening in the future?
She never told me anything or gave me any hint of anything being wrong. I noticed she wasn't that intimate in terms of physically/sexually for a couple weeks but she said that's just how she is. I also know i'm not that experienced sexually so i don't know if that was an issue but i feel like its something else. i don't want to ask much more because it doesn't seem healthy and i want her to leave her to grieve her grandmother, whilst i grieve our relationship and the future we could have had.
I'm just not ready for the world of *****y dating apps, dozens of talking stages which never go anywhere. if she had told me about this when she left i could have spent the summer thinking about it and getting up on my feet rather than believing every day she would come home and we'd have this amazing future together.

girlfriend left me after nearly 7 months out of the blue claiming she doesn't want to be intimate and only sees me as a good friend.
I loved her. I thought she loved me. She talked about getting married, engaged, using my surname instead of her own. She's been travelling for the past 2 months at a summer camp abroad. I knew it would be hard but I knew i was strong and i could do it. I kept myself busy every day knowing she'd be coming home.
Two days ago her nan died, and i thought something was odd when she told me not to send a card or go to the funeral. then she texts me to say she doesn't see a future with me. she doesn't want to have sex with me, thinks im just a good ffirend, has felt like it since beffore she left. she said she needs space, when i said i assume this is a breakup she just said I need space.
I'm heartbroken, I'm devastated I'm everything. I just feel like i've been living a lie thinking I've been in this happy relationship when if she's telling the truth, she hasn't felt the same for a while. I just feel like my whole future which I had planned has gone. This is the longest relationship i've had and the second one i've had (also her second one but her one was longer).
I'm going to give her space but i've assumed from what she said its a break up but where do I even go from here? my ex before I dumped so it was on my terms and i never felt that strongly but this was something else.
How do I prevent this - if i can - from happening in the future?
She never told me anything or gave me any hint of anything being wrong. I noticed she wasn't that intimate in terms of physically/sexually for a couple weeks but she said that's just how she is. I also know i'm not that experienced sexually so i don't know if that was an issue but i feel like its something else. i don't want to ask much more because it doesn't seem healthy and i want her to leave her to grieve her grandmother, whilst i grieve our relationship and the future we could have had.
I'm just not ready for the world of *****y dating apps, dozens of talking stages which never go anywhere. if she had told me about this when she left i could have spent the summer thinking about it and getting up on my feet rather than believing every day she would come home and we'd have this amazing future together.

Relationship 2 has ended. Time to move on to relationships 3, 4, and 5. When you get to relationships 5, 6, or 7, that's when you think about settling down with someone, marrying them, having children with them, all that.
2 books that will give you great advice on how to reduce the chances of you getting dumped again:
Atomic Attraction by Christopher Canwell
Why Men Love *****es by Sheri Argov
They are the sort of books that may not resonate with you till you get to Relationship 4. After you've made the sort of mistakes discussed in these books and done some of the wise things advised in them.
You mentioned your inexperience at sex. The sex was, almost certainly, a contributory factor in this latest break-up. That's fine. We all have to learn some time. With the right attitude, you should be able to get competent at making love with a woman, as you gain more experience.

Hm, I honestly know nearly no one, who had that money relationships of equal quality, and managed to stick to one, just because of age ... When you have that many relationships of equal quality, you have a problem. When you have that many relationships, because you count dating, adventures, non serious relationships in, then ... yeah, you might end up having that many ...
It is not true, that you need different relationships to grow as a person, you can grow together, or not ... you can be naive and break up everytime your perfect phantasy breaks together or accept, that no relationship is rosa pink fluffy all the time. But yes, sometimes, you need considerably work on yourself to be able to become a good partner and you need luck to find a person, who wants to grow together with you.
If you would have 7 relationships, which actually reach a point, where you can seriously think about having spent enough time together, we talk fast 7 x 3 years = 21 years ... which is a ridiculously long time ...

I just wondered as well because I remember her describing to me how she stopped wanting to sleep with her ex before she dumped him and how she didn't see a future with him, either.
I can't see that she would have cheated I don't see whwr she would have had the opportunity to do so other than when she was away, and she claims to have had felt like this for longer. And even so, the opportunity to actually do much at where she is at camp is really limited.

girlfriend left me after nearly 7 months out of the blue claiming she doesn't want to be intimate and only sees me as a good friend.
I loved her. I thought she loved me. She talked about getting married, engaged, using my surname instead of her own. She's been travelling for the past 2 months at a summer camp abroad. I knew it would be hard but I knew i was strong and i could do it. I kept myself busy every day knowing she'd be coming home.
Two days ago her nan died, and i thought something was odd when she told me not to send a card or go to the funeral. then she texts me to say she doesn't see a future with me. she doesn't want to have sex with me, thinks im just a good ffirend, has felt like it since beffore she left. she said she needs space, when i said i assume this is a breakup she just said I need space.
I'm heartbroken, I'm devastated I'm everything. I just feel like i've been living a lie thinking I've been in this happy relationship when if she's telling the truth, she hasn't felt the same for a while. I just feel like my whole future which I had planned has gone. This is the longest relationship i've had and the second one i've had (also her second one but her one was longer).
I'm going to give her space but i've assumed from what she said its a break up but where do I even go from here? my ex before I dumped so it was on my terms and i never felt that strongly but this was something else.
How do I prevent this - if i can - from happening in the future?
She never told me anything or gave me any hint of anything being wrong. I noticed she wasn't that intimate in terms of physically/sexually for a couple weeks but she said that's just how she is. I also know i'm not that experienced sexually so i don't know if that was an issue but i feel like its something else. i don't want to ask much more because it doesn't seem healthy and i want her to leave her to grieve her grandmother, whilst i grieve our relationship and the future we could have had.
I'm just not ready for the world of *****y dating apps, dozens of talking stages which never go anywhere. if she had told me about this when she left i could have spent the summer thinking about it and getting up on my feet rather than believing every day she would come home and we'd have this amazing future together.

As I said in a similar thread, she found a Chad. I hear the same story many times, girls dump a bf out of the blue when they meet a handsome guy. It's very common so it's probable in this case too. Especially when they don't say why or use a generic "need space". Notice that she said you can be only friends, this proves personality isn't the reason why she dumped you. An advice I can give is to lower the level of attractiveness of girls you date, as Chads are less interested to steal your gf if she's ugly

Im sorry man this is what most girls do, they change their minds without warning

girlfriend left me after nearly 7 months out of the blue claiming she doesn't want to be intimate and only sees me as a good friend.
I loved her. I thought she loved me. She talked about getting married, engaged, using my surname instead of her own. She's been travelling for the past 2 months at a summer camp abroad. I knew it would be hard but I knew i was strong and i could do it. I kept myself busy every day knowing she'd be coming home.
Two days ago her nan died, and i thought something was odd when she told me not to send a card or go to the funeral. then she texts me to say she doesn't see a future with me. she doesn't want to have sex with me, thinks im just a good ffirend, has felt like it since beffore she left. she said she needs space, when i said i assume this is a breakup she just said I need space.
I'm heartbroken, I'm devastated I'm everything. I just feel like i've been living a lie thinking I've been in this happy relationship when if she's telling the truth, she hasn't felt the same for a while. I just feel like my whole future which I had planned has gone. This is the longest relationship i've had and the second one i've had (also her second one but her one was longer).
I'm going to give her space but i've assumed from what she said its a break up but where do I even go from here? my ex before I dumped so it was on my terms and i never felt that strongly but this was something else.
How do I prevent this - if i can - from happening in the future?
She never told me anything or gave me any hint of anything being wrong. I noticed she wasn't that intimate in terms of physically/sexually for a couple weeks but she said that's just how she is. I also know i'm not that experienced sexually so i don't know if that was an issue but i feel like its something else. i don't want to ask much more because it doesn't seem healthy and i want her to leave her to grieve her grandmother, whilst i grieve our relationship and the future we could have had.
I'm just not ready for the world of *****y dating apps, dozens of talking stages which never go anywhere. if she had told me about this when she left i could have spent the summer thinking about it and getting up on my feet rather than believing every day she would come home and we'd have this amazing future together.

girlfriend left me after nearly 7 months out of the blue claiming she doesn't want to be intimate and only sees me as a good friend.
I loved her. I thought she loved me. She talked about getting married, engaged, using my surname instead of her own. She's been travelling for the past 2 months at a summer camp abroad. I knew it would be hard but I knew i was strong and i could do it. I kept myself busy every day knowing she'd be coming home.
Two days ago her nan died, and i thought something was odd when she told me not to send a card or go to the funeral. then she texts me to say she doesn't see a future with me. she doesn't want to have sex with me, thinks im just a good ffirend, has felt like it since beffore she left. she said she needs space, when i said i assume this is a breakup she just said I need space.
I'm heartbroken, I'm devastated I'm everything. I just feel like i've been living a lie thinking I've been in this happy relationship when if she's telling the truth, she hasn't felt the same for a while. I just feel like my whole future which I had planned has gone. This is the longest relationship i've had and the second one i've had (also her second one but her one was longer).
I'm going to give her space but i've assumed from what she said its a break up but where do I even go from here? my ex before I dumped so it was on my terms and i never felt that strongly but this was something else.
How do I prevent this - if i can - from happening in the future?
She never told me anything or gave me any hint of anything being wrong. I noticed she wasn't that intimate in terms of physically/sexually for a couple weeks but she said that's just how she is. I also know i'm not that experienced sexually so i don't know if that was an issue but i feel like its something else. i don't want to ask much more because it doesn't seem healthy and i want her to leave her to grieve her grandmother, whilst i grieve our relationship and the future we could have had.
I'm just not ready for the world of *****y dating apps, dozens of talking stages which never go anywhere. if she had told me about this when she left i could have spent the summer thinking about it and getting up on my feet rather than believing every day she would come home and we'd have this amazing future together.