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Tips for a Durham Fresher?

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by Physician
If you want my advice, stay off the booze, and don't get involved in drinking games or toga parties, and don't go to bars and clubs. Those sorts of things attract all the wrong types of people. And if you see or hear of anything bad during uni amongst fellow students, make a note of it and report it to the university.
If you are worried that by not getting drunk you won't get involved, remember that you almost certainly won't meet your true friends in week one, and that all the good people tend to behave themselves rather better than the fools who get drunk nearly every day of the first two weeks.

Thank you!

I’m not really a party person and I don’t drink, so I’ll be following that advice anyway! I have a few likeminded friends going anyway. 🙂

Thank you, because I didn’t even know toga parties were a thing until my last Google search. That sounds crazy and terrifying omg 😭

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by violentdelight s
Thank you!
I’m not really a party person and I don’t drink, so I’ll be following that advice anyway! I have a few likeminded friends going anyway. 🙂
Thank you, because I didn’t even know toga parties were a thing until my last Google search. That sounds crazy and terrifying omg 😭

I can't speak for Durham directly, but from my own experiences, and from what l have heard at Oxford, students often do express a sense of surprise as to what they experience in the first few weeks and months of uni. In particular, they report that the students around them are far worse than the ones they shared times with during their A levels or IB. Arrogance, and a lack of class and respect, are amongst the things that are mentioned.

My strongest advice to freshers is to plan for the longer term right from the off. Exercise regularly, join a few clubs and societies, take your studies seriously, and get medical help early if your mental health isn't great. Don't follow herd instinct by doing what the masses do during week one and get drunk and disorganised. Look out for one another and be compassionate. But also don't let poor behaviour towards you go unpunished. Make a note of it, speak to the offenders, and report it to the university if necessary. Too many students keep the issues they face quiet, as though they think the university wouldn't be bothered by their bad experiences. Nowadays universities are far quicker to act, but they can only do so if they are aware that something is going on.
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