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I'm so lonely

I have trouble interacting with people in general and it really gets to me. I'm in a situation where I don't get to go out much or even socialise anymore. It's driving me insane. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Reply 1

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by Anonymous
I have trouble interacting with people in general and it really gets to me. I'm in a situation where I don't get to go out much or even socialise anymore. It's driving me insane. I just don't know what to do anymore.


I know it’s easier said than done, but maybe try reaching out to people via social media. Join groups anonymously if you please, of things you enjoy. Slowly it can help you to build up to interacting face to face. There will always be someone who is happy & willing to speak to you please don’t forget that!

Reply 2

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by Anonymous
I have trouble interacting with people in general and it really gets to me. I'm in a situation where I don't get to go out much or even socialise anymore. It's driving me insane. I just don't know what to do anymore.


honestly I get where you’re coming from. today I went out for the first time in a while and I really enjoyed it. Building an important relationship with yourself is very important, even if you don’t have people to socialise with, if you are happy with your own company you can be ‘alone but not lonely’. Find ways to spend your free time doing things that you actually enjoy and you will feel more fulfilled. and also you’re probably over analysing how you interact with people and im sure everyone you socialise with thinks your a lovely person. you might just not have found your people yet and thats okay because you will find them when the time is right! I hope this was of some reassurance!!

Reply 3

I know this is a difficult time right now, so it's important to know that you are not alone and people are around even if you don't know it. You said that you don't get out much anymore, which might affect some of my suggestions here but Do you have any hobbies or interests that you might be able to find other people who are interested in the same thing. Like if you enjoy reading, you might be able to find a local book club that you could try and attend once a week perhaps? Or if you are a little more creative or interested in board games or tabletops, you could look at Warhammer or something similar, as that has a lot of community meet ups where people will paint miniatures and play a table top match with each other. Or even something like attending a gym once a week could definitely help lift spirits.

Just know that there are a lot of online and in person communities that are welcoming and also professionals who can help you if you reach out to them. these are definitely worth looking into it you feel you have no one to turn to.

Reply 4

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by lalaloopsie147
honestly I get where you’re coming from. today I went out for the first time in a while and I really enjoyed it. Building an important relationship with yourself is very important, even if you don’t have people to socialise with, if you are happy with your own company you can be ‘alone but not lonely’. Find ways to spend your free time doing things that you actually enjoy and you will feel more fulfilled. and also you’re probably over analysing how you interact with people and im sure everyone you socialise with thinks your a lovely person. you might just not have found your people yet and thats okay because you will find them when the time is right! I hope this was of some reassurance!!


Most of the time, I don't mind being on my own but it feels almost constant for a while that I'm trying to break out of it. I also have specific interests that a lot of people my age don't have and there's lots of social cues and langauge that I just haven't mastered. And you're right, I do overanalyse, I just can't turn my mind off.

Reply 5

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by Anonymous
I have trouble interacting with people in general and it really gets to me. I'm in a situation where I don't get to go out much or even socialise anymore. It's driving me insane. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Well, I'm sorry to be "that" guy, but the only way you're going to improve your situation is to go out and interact with people.

I don't know your circumstances, but have you ever thought about getting a pet? No, I'm not talking about a goldfish lol... but something like a cute dog or a friendly cat. Both examples can be excellent companions, and they're ALWAYS happy to see their owners and it'll give you something to focus on... cats tend to be very perceptive to peoples moods, so you can be sure they'll comfort you when you're feeling down; dogs, on the other hand, are very loyal, and it'll give you a reason to go out once in a while. Most dog-owners tend to be quite sociable, and the dogs themselves provide a safe talking point. There's no pressure to chat for ages with people... if you find yourself feeling uncomfortable, you can always make your excuses and cut the conversation short.

Failing that, you can do some volunteer work at something like a charity shop. They're always looking for volunteers, and if you don't have a job or aren't in school / college / Uni, it'll allow you to have some structure in your life. Also, the retail experience counts so it would help you find a job if that's also an issue for you. Alternatively, if you can pass an enhanced CRB check, you could maybe work with children (a friend of mine used to read stories to young children, as a form of escapism (he had a high-pressure job in the City of London), or help out at an old persons home (the elderly LOVE the company of younger people, and you may be surprised of what you may learn about them and yourself). If you're brave, you can help out at a homeless persons shelter, and that may help put your own problems into perspective.

Reply 6

Original post
by Anonymous
I know this is a difficult time right now, so it's important to know that you are not alone and people are around even if you don't know it. You said that you don't get out much anymore, which might affect some of my suggestions here but Do you have any hobbies or interests that you might be able to find other people who are interested in the same thing. Like if you enjoy reading, you might be able to find a local book club that you could try and attend once a week perhaps? Or if you are a little more creative or interested in board games or tabletops, you could look at Warhammer or something similar, as that has a lot of community meet ups where people will paint miniatures and play a table top match with each other. Or even something like attending a gym once a week could definitely help lift spirits.
Just know that there are a lot of online and in person communities that are welcoming and also professionals who can help you if you reach out to them. these are definitely worth looking into it you feel you have no one to turn to.


My hobbies are what fill my time up really, the problem is that i have nothing in common with the people around me, both at uni and in my hometown. I also just don't understand how to communicate effectively with people

Reply 7

I’m willing to lend an ear if you need to chat!

Reply 8

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by Delilah-Joy
I’m willing to lend an ear if you need to chat!


Appreciated thanks. Would love one.

Reply 9

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by Anonymous
Appreciated thanks. Would love one.

Of course! HMU anytime!

Reply 10

Are you still ok?

Reply 11

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by Anonymous
I have trouble interacting with people in general and it really gets to me. I'm in a situation where I don't get to go out much or even socialise anymore. It's driving me insane. I just don't know what to do anymore.
Me too, you will find that some people are naturally outgoing, find them, and GODDAMIT. Try your best to be outgoing back, it may seem hard at first, but it gets easier, also comparison is the thief of joy, dont compare yourself to others ( not saying you are ) as no one benefits

Reply 12

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by Anonymous
I have trouble interacting with people in general and it really gets to me. I'm in a situation where I don't get to go out much or even socialise anymore. It's driving me insane. I just don't know what to do anymore.

I share your pain, I struggle and the only way I interact is when I am drunk

Reply 13

Please don’t isolate too much. I’m still here for you.

Reply 14

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by Anonymous
I have trouble interacting with people in general and it really gets to me. I'm in a situation where I don't get to go out much or even socialise anymore. It's driving me insane. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Can I perhaps befriend you I have a small friendly friend group on dis cordian iykyk

Reply 15

Everyone around me just seems to have many friends but I’m alone. I always think that’s just me as I don’t find anyone going through the same thing.

Reply 16

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by Anonymous
Everyone around me just seems to have many friends but I’m alone. I always think that’s just me as I don’t find anyone going through the same thing.


Trust me you are not

Reply 17

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by Anonymous
Trust me you are not


Glad to hear that, but idk what I should do. Idk how I’m gonna make friends…

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