my friend is annoying me about this holiday

i don't rlly wanna go now it's too stressful.
1. she wanted me to drive to the airport for us even tho i always drive and im driving us to reading festival this week so i said no - she can drive for once
2. she wants to share a suitcase even tho i said no as its only 20kg and we are girls bringing lots of thjngs and she hasn't got her clothes yet so how can we weigh it??
3. she bought expensive ryanair plane tickets without asking me first... i would've gone on there for free or gone for che cheaper ones? 27£ each for it????????? ridiculous!!! cos i have my money saved up for the luggage but don't have enough money for the ticket as i'm struggling with money atm.

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Anonymous #1

OP

idk if i'm over reacting

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

should i tell her how i feel or is it too petty?

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

If u still want to go on the holiday, tell her how u feel but if u dont wanna confront her you can do it more casually. Like about the drive, if she brings it up say “i thought we agreed you’d drive since i always drive us around” n be insistent but nice abt it ykwim. And if u dont wanna go just say like “oh my financial situation was worse that i thought, i cant go” idk but thats what i would do

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Anonymous #1

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by Anonymous

If u still want to go on the holiday, tell her how u feel but if u dont wanna confront her you can do it more casually. Like about the drive, if she brings it up say “i thought we agreed you’d drive since i always drive us around” n be insistent but nice abt it ykwim. And if u dont wanna go just say like “oh my financial situation was worse that i thought, i cant go” idk but thats what i would do

i do want to go but i always feel like it's so stressful with her. we are best friends but she didn't even ask for my opinion about the plane seats. we already spend so much on the holiday , luggage , flights so why wouldn't she ask me about the plane seats?
it's so stressful. idk if km over reacting but now we can't even get to the airport because she'd be too stressed out to drive apparently. i would be fine to drive but it's also the mileage of my car as it's fine a lot and i just don't feel respected or appreciated.

Reply 5

Zarek

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Holidays are a surprisingly tough test of compatibility and friendship. If you value the upsides of the companionship you typically have to tolerate things that annoy the hell out of you. I’ve become very careful about arranging holidays with friends. You could try talking it through with her to try to improve consultation on decisions. Or if the whole thing is more stressful that the benefits, knock it on the head

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