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Class embarrassment - Am I overreacting or justified?

A few months ago (yes ik it was a while ago 😔), I had a bio lesson about plant biology period 5. At parents evenings, teachers always tell me that i need to put my hand up more, I'm trying to do this. The teacher asked "which part of the plant stores fat?". Ppl were shouting out wrong answers. She gave a hint that "it ends with 'oil'". We were confused and ppl still shouted wrong answers. I thought she meant the hint literally so I said "soil". Then everyone in the class cackled at me. It was a proper 10 second, nearly falling out of chairs cackling. Not just giggling. The teacher stood there, trying not to laugh and didn't intervene. She said the answer was seeds. Cos sunflower oil is made from sunflower seeds. At the end of the lesson, ppl were still bringing it up.
The next day, I was crying and went to pastoral at form time and stayed for 1.5hrs. A teacher came in to talk to me. She said what was wrong but I was too afraid. She kept insisting "dw whatever u say isn't ridiculous because its making u upset". I told her the story and it looked like she was holding in laughter. She said "maybe u said it in a funny way". Then i said "no I didn't, I was just shouting an answer like everyone else." Then she said "But sometimes u have a habit of unintentionally saying something in a funny tone". Ouch that sting. Once again i said, "no i didnt i was just shouting an answer like everyone else". But she kept insisting. She spoke a bit and said "that's horrible but sometimes in life u have to get up and shake things off". She acted like I was a 5 yr old who was upset that her parents didn't let her have sweets for dinner.
I asked my friend "be completely honest with me, did I say it in a funny tone?" And she said "no not at all, u sounded just slightly nervous but that was it". So ig what I'm asking is how do I move on from this? Now I'm too scared to put my hand up and this situation always replays in my mind. And I don't want to talk to mental health support at school cos all they do is victim blame or give quotebook advice from temu. Btw i'll be in yr 11 in september so this happened in yr 10, if anyone cares.

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by 1o1o1
A few months ago (yes ik it was a while ago 😔), I had a bio lesson about plant biology period 5. At parents evenings, teachers always tell me that i need to put my hand up more, I'm trying to do this. The teacher asked "which part of the plant stores fat?". Ppl were shouting out wrong answers. She gave a hint that "it ends with 'oil'". We were confused and ppl still shouted wrong answers. I thought she meant the hint literally so I said "soil". Then everyone in the class cackled at me. It was a proper 10 second, nearly falling out of chairs cackling. Not just giggling. The teacher stood there, trying not to laugh and didn't intervene. She said the answer was seeds. Cos sunflower oil is made from sunflower seeds. At the end of the lesson, ppl were still bringing it up.
The next day, I was crying and went to pastoral at form time and stayed for 1.5hrs. A teacher came in to talk to me. She said what was wrong but I was too afraid. She kept insisting "dw whatever u say isn't ridiculous because its making u upset". I told her the story and it looked like she was holding in laughter. She said "maybe u said it in a funny way". Then i said "no I didn't, I was just shouting an answer like everyone else." Then she said "But sometimes u have a habit of unintentionally saying something in a funny tone". Ouch that sting. Once again i said, "no i didnt i was just shouting an answer like everyone else". But she kept insisting. She spoke a bit and said "that's horrible but sometimes in life u have to get up and shake things off". She acted like I was a 5 yr old who was upset that her parents didn't let her have sweets for dinner.
I asked my friend "be completely honest with me, did I say it in a funny tone?" And she said "no not at all, u sounded just slightly nervous but that was it". So ig what I'm asking is how do I move on from this? Now I'm too scared to put my hand up and this situation always replays in my mind. And I don't want to talk to mental health support at school cos all they do is victim blame or give quotebook advice from temu. Btw i'll be in yr 11 in september so this happened in yr 10, if anyone cares.

bless your cotton socks. i understand your struggle and it may take time but try put your hand up if u are certain of the answer. this way you will avoid further embarrassment but you must understand embarrassment is not a real emotion, it’s usually a combination of other feelings like shame. people will have forgotten about it and once you gain your confidence again, it won’t happen again ! And if it does then it won’t bother you as much because you would’ve overcome it.

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by 1o1o1
A few months ago (yes ik it was a while ago 😔), I had a bio lesson about plant biology period 5. At parents evenings, teachers always tell me that i need to put my hand up more, I'm trying to do this. The teacher asked "which part of the plant stores fat?". Ppl were shouting out wrong answers. She gave a hint that "it ends with 'oil'". We were confused and ppl still shouted wrong answers. I thought she meant the hint literally so I said "soil". Then everyone in the class cackled at me. It was a proper 10 second, nearly falling out of chairs cackling. Not just giggling. The teacher stood there, trying not to laugh and didn't intervene. She said the answer was seeds. Cos sunflower oil is made from sunflower seeds. At the end of the lesson, ppl were still bringing it up.
The next day, I was crying and went to pastoral at form time and stayed for 1.5hrs. A teacher came in to talk to me. She said what was wrong but I was too afraid. She kept insisting "dw whatever u say isn't ridiculous because its making u upset". I told her the story and it looked like she was holding in laughter. She said "maybe u said it in a funny way". Then i said "no I didn't, I was just shouting an answer like everyone else." Then she said "But sometimes u have a habit of unintentionally saying something in a funny tone". Ouch that sting. Once again i said, "no i didnt i was just shouting an answer like everyone else". But she kept insisting. She spoke a bit and said "that's horrible but sometimes in life u have to get up and shake things off". She acted like I was a 5 yr old who was upset that her parents didn't let her have sweets for dinner.
I asked my friend "be completely honest with me, did I say it in a funny tone?" And she said "no not at all, u sounded just slightly nervous but that was it". So ig what I'm asking is how do I move on from this? Now I'm too scared to put my hand up and this situation always replays in my mind. And I don't want to talk to mental health support at school cos all they do is victim blame or give quotebook advice from temu. Btw i'll be in yr 11 in september so this happened in yr 10, if anyone cares.


I’m so sorry you feel this way. It’s not very nice that they laughed at you. Don’t worry though, many teenagers are cruel, and more importantly pretty selfish. Luckily tho, that means they’ll probably forget that pretty quickly. They won’t care enough. Others probably didn’t even know what happened but they’re like sheep and just laugh with everyone else. Anyway, I know it’s really hard, but don’t feel embarrassed, for 2 reasons: A) you did nothing wrong. B) It’s only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed. Maybe next time, laugh with them. That way they don’t have anything over you and laughing at you gives them no satisfaction. Another thing about laughing when you do something you feel embarrassed about, is that it means you have a happier memory of it. I tripped up one time in between classes, and when I say tripped up I mean full on face planted across this curb into a table. Yikes! There must have been about 50 kids there who saw it. I got up pretty damn quickly and then laughed it off - like fully made fun of myself. By that point, no one else cared to bring it up cuz I’d already done the making fun of me. Now, what’s funny to me, is that everytime the memory pops into my head, I smile. I don’t cringe like for many other things, but I smile. I know this isn’t the same as your situation, but the point is, I understand your feeling, and I’m really sorry. I hope things get better for you :smile: And no- you’re not overreacting. You are the only one who knows how you feel and experiences the situations you’re in. But just remember, no one else will care in the end. Everyone will forget. So try to take your mind off it.
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by ayo.phil
bless your cotton socks. i understand your struggle and it may take time but try put your hand up if u are certain of the answer. this way you will avoid further embarrassment but you must understand embarrassment is not a real emotion, it’s usually a combination of other feelings like shame. people will have forgotten about it and once you gain your confidence again, it won’t happen again ! And if it does then it won’t bother you as much because you would’ve overcome it.


Thanks

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by Mickey Mouse 1
I’m so sorry you feel this way. It’s not very nice that they laughed at you. Don’t worry though, many teenagers are cruel, and more importantly pretty selfish. Luckily tho, that means they’ll probably forget that pretty quickly. They won’t care enough. Others probably didn’t even know what happened but they’re like sheep and just laugh with everyone else. Anyway, I know it’s really hard, but don’t feel embarrassed, for 2 reasons: A) you did nothing wrong. B) It’s only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed. Maybe next time, laugh with them. That way they don’t have anything over you and laughing at you gives them no satisfaction. Another thing about laughing when you do something you feel embarrassed about, is that it means you have a happier memory of it. I tripped up one time in between classes, and when I say tripped up I mean full on face planted across this curb into a table. Yikes! There must have been about 50 kids there who saw it. I got up pretty damn quickly and then laughed it off - like fully made fun of myself. By that point, no one else cared to bring it up cuz I’d already done the making fun of me. Now, what’s funny to me, is that everytime the memory pops into my head, I smile. I don’t cringe like for many other things, but I smile. I know this isn’t the same as your situation, but the point is, I understand your feeling, and I’m really sorry. I hope things get better for you :smile: And no- you’re not overreacting. You are the only one who knows how you feel and experiences the situations you’re in. But just remember, no one else will care in the end. Everyone will forget. So try to take your mind off it.


Thansk for the advice

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