Making friends with icy internals at a new sixth form??

I have just moved to a new sixth form, as my school didn't have one. I moved there for the grades really, I have no preexisting connection with the school whatever. Luckily I have one friend from my old school with me, and we made friends with the other externals in our form (because we are all feeling a bit desperate lol). But the internals are not interested at all???? I know they already have friendship groups and a structure going on, I guess I thought they would be a bit more welcoming and flexible. I don't mind not making too many friends as sixth form is only two years, I'm just wondering if me (and the other externals) are going to feel like outsiders the whole time. (also the sixth form is relatively small and there are only about 10-15 new people).

Just wondering if anyone has any experience with this?? Thanks :smile:

Reply 1

leisurely-expert

hey I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing this. I think that you should give it a bit of time bc they are also getting used to the fact that you guys are also here. If they don't start talking to you in the next 2 weeks then they're probably not interested.

In my experience, I was an internal at my sixth form. For context I was at an all-girls school but sixth form was co-ed. There were quite a lot of internals compared to externals (and a very high ratio of girls to guys - 128 girls and 6 guys which is kind of scary 💀). From what I saw, the internals were quite friendly to the externals and within a month some of us had formed entirely new friendship groups with the external students. In fact two of my best friends were external students who I hadn't met before. My school also had quite a lot of ice breakers and socials so that people could get to know each other better but making friends isn't easy whether you're an external or internal.

However, if you find they genuinely aren't interested then as long as you have some friends in sixth form it should be fine.
Hope that helped.

Reply 2

eimme

Original post

by leisurely-expert

hey I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing this. I think that you should give it a bit of time bc they are also getting used to the fact that you guys are also here. If they don't start talking to you in the next 2 weeks then they're probably not interested.
In my experience, I was an internal at my sixth form. For context I was at an all-girls school but sixth form was co-ed. There were quite a lot of internals compared to externals (and a very high ratio of girls to guys - 128 girls and 6 guys which is kind of scary 💀). From what I saw, the internals were quite friendly to the externals and within a month some of us had formed entirely new friendship groups with the external students. In fact two of my best friends were external students who I hadn't met before. My school also had quite a lot of ice breakers and socials so that people could get to know each other better but making friends isn't easy whether you're an external or internal.
However, if you find they genuinely aren't interested then as long as you have some friends in sixth form it should be fine.
Hope that helped.

Yes it did thanks :smile:

. I guess I should probably give them some time as I haven't been there very long. My friends (who are externals at other schools) have just had a very different experience, people are very interested in the externals and want to get to know them. I guess it differs on a case by case basis. x