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Is it normal to be alone in new sixth form?

So I started sixth form a few days ago and I am absolutely exhausted, confused, or even disappointed about the sixth form life I've been dreaming on since GCSE finished (and mostly not satisfied with myself maybe I haven't put all my efforts in talking to new people). I am a new joiner to this sixth form, and I quickly realise that majority of sixth formers are internals so it is really hard for me to talk to someone. I mean I managed to talk to someone who's also a new joiner but she seems to adapt so quickly and become friends with a group of internals within a few days (or maybe she finds me boring as hell idk). Also I tried to talk to someone who seems nice enough to talk to me (she's an internal btw) but I feel weird and embarrassed that somehow I feel like I have just 'invaded' someone's friendship. I am thinking is it my problem that no one bothers to talk to me cuz even in lessons the person that sits next to me just ignores me like nothing, or is it normal to be alone when joining new sixth form? The only time I am talking to someone else these days is when my friends in my old school called me or me talking to the teachers, and I have a feeling that it's not going to get better...

Reply 1

hey, i'd say don't think of yourself as being an 'outsider' or like separate from everyone else. i joined a new school before aswell, where i missed the induction and moved from a different country, so i felt really left out, but genuinely just put yourself out there and talk to loads of people, if they don't want you there, they'll be obvious about it, but just talk to people, and you'll find your friends! gl xx

Reply 2

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by s0ph70254
hey, i'd say don't think of yourself as being an 'outsider' or like separate from everyone else. i joined a new school before aswell, where i missed the induction and moved from a different country, so i felt really left out, but genuinely just put yourself out there and talk to loads of people, if they don't want you there, they'll be obvious about it, but just talk to people, and you'll find your friends! gl xx


thx so much for your reply! Hopefully things will get better soon

Reply 3

Hey there, I know exactly how this loneliness may feel, despite staying in the sixth form attached to my secondary school. People are mean sometimes and don’t really think of how they can make others feel included.

After pretty much a whole year (during year 12) of friendship problems with my previous friends and the extreme loneliness that accompanied that, I can genuinely say it does get better if you make the effort. I personally decided to step out of my comfort zone, talk to new people etc and I now have a new group of friends. I really suggest you do this too; don’t wait for somebody to talk to you first, do it instead!

I’m now in year 13 and I do occasionally have the feeling that I may not truly be wanted or be invading, but you genuinely have to try your best to ignore it. As the previous person said, most of the time if somebody doesn’t like you, they will make it obvious.

All the best of luck, try talking to new people, join clubs etc. And if it rlly rlly doesn’t get better perhaps consider going back to your old school if it would make you happier. Hope this helps 🙏🏼😊

Reply 4

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by adess.18
Hey there, I know exactly how this loneliness may feel, despite staying in the sixth form attached to my secondary school. People are mean sometimes and don’t really think of how they can make others feel included.
After pretty much a whole year (during year 12) of friendship problems with my previous friends and the extreme loneliness that accompanied that, I can genuinely say it does get better if you make the effort. I personally decided to step out of my comfort zone, talk to new people etc and I now have a new group of friends. I really suggest you do this too; don’t wait for somebody to talk to you first, do it instead!
I’m now in year 13 and I do occasionally have the feeling that I may not truly be wanted or be invading, but you genuinely have to try your best to ignore it. As the previous person said, most of the time if somebody doesn’t like you, they will make it obvious.
All the best of luck, try talking to new people, join clubs etc. And if it rlly rlly doesn’t get better perhaps consider going back to your old school if it would make you happier. Hope this helps 🙏🏼😊


thank you for your advice! I'll try my best

Reply 5

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by jisalone
So I started sixth form a few days ago and I am absolutely exhausted, confused, or even disappointed about the sixth form life I've been dreaming on since GCSE finished (and mostly not satisfied with myself maybe I haven't put all my efforts in talking to new people). I am a new joiner to this sixth form, and I quickly realise that majority of sixth formers are internals so it is really hard for me to talk to someone. I mean I managed to talk to someone who's also a new joiner but she seems to adapt so quickly and become friends with a group of internals within a few days (or maybe she finds me boring as hell idk). Also I tried to talk to someone who seems nice enough to talk to me (she's an internal btw) but I feel weird and embarrassed that somehow I feel like I have just 'invaded' someone's friendship. I am thinking is it my problem that no one bothers to talk to me cuz even in lessons the person that sits next to me just ignores me like nothing, or is it normal to be alone when joining new sixth form? The only time I am talking to someone else these days is when my friends in my old school called me or me talking to the teachers, and I have a feeling that it's not going to get better...


I’m also being left out since starting my sixth form :frown: as an international student I tried talking with others but they just ignore me as we don’t share the same interest. I know it hurts so you’re doing an absolute great job just don’t give up ❤️

Reply 6

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by Cyiuuuuu_phx
I’m also being left out since starting my sixth form :frown: as an international student I tried talking with others but they just ignore me as we don’t share the same interest. I know it hurts so you’re doing an absolute great job just don’t give up ❤️


I'm an international student as well but I'll try my best! Thanks for your reply

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