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Indirectly told about moving out

so I’m 26, and have been wanting to move out and live on my own for a while but I legit have no money. I currently live with 2 family relatives and have been for like the past 5 years. Recently, I was indirectly told by someone else that I need to move out of the family home in the next year. Which I found odd, like why wouldn’t my family just tell me to my face that they want me gone?!! I honestly felt like this person has been in contact with my family about it for some time, which is weird. honestly, I’m just about ready to pack up and be done with my family, and not even tell anyone where and when I’m moving. I have been looking at places to potentially live (preferably a studio) and have made the decision to balance 2 jobs in order to cover rent and living expenses, but I’m not even going to tell my family about my financial issues and will deal with them alone before it becomes hot topic in my household. I don’t get why the people I live with didn’t directly tell me, this is the plan etc etc. who knows who else they’ve shared this info with. since I found out this news, I’ve honestly felt I’ve been stepping/living on eggshells here, like I don’t feel safe. eh. I don’t know what todo. I basically have a year to find a new job (new career) and a place to live. I fear I’m about to be homeless bc my family just want me outta here so quick.. help, the job market and house market is going to be so tough, it’s only Sept now, but who knows what it’ll be like in the next few months or so. I’m already panicking and financially stressing hypothetically that I won’t earn enough to cover bills and rent, moving in costs, deposits etc.. idk what todo. Advice please

Reply 1

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by Anonymous
so I’m 26, and have been wanting to move out and live on my own for a while but I legit have no money. I currently live with 2 family relatives and have been for like the past 5 years. Recently, I was indirectly told by someone else that I need to move out of the family home in the next year. Which I found odd, like why wouldn’t my family just tell me to my face that they want me gone?!! I honestly felt like this person has been in contact with my family about it for some time, which is weird. honestly, I’m just about ready to pack up and be done with my family, and not even tell anyone where and when I’m moving. I have been looking at places to potentially live (preferably a studio) and have made the decision to balance 2 jobs in order to cover rent and living expenses, but I’m not even going to tell my family about my financial issues and will deal with them alone before it becomes hot topic in my household. I don’t get why the people I live with didn’t directly tell me, this is the plan etc etc. who knows who else they’ve shared this info with. since I found out this news, I’ve honestly felt I’ve been stepping/living on eggshells here, like I don’t feel safe. eh. I don’t know what todo. I basically have a year to find a new job (new career) and a place to live. I fear I’m about to be homeless bc my family just want me outta here so quick.. help, the job market and house market is going to be so tough, it’s only Sept now, but who knows what it’ll be like in the next few months or so. I’m already panicking and financially stressing hypothetically that I won’t earn enough to cover bills and rent, moving in costs, deposits etc.. idk what todo. Advice please

is it possible for you to get confirmation from the relatives you live with about having to move out?

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by meenu89
is it possible for you to get confirmation from the relatives you live with about having to move out?


I’m going to bring this up with them, at some point. Probably next week as company is coming over today :/

Reply 3

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by Anonymous
so I’m 26, and have been wanting to move out and live on my own for a while but I legit have no money. I currently live with 2 family relatives and have been for like the past 5 years. Recently, I was indirectly told by someone else that I need to move out of the family home in the next year. Which I found odd, like why wouldn’t my family just tell me to my face that they want me gone?!! I honestly felt like this person has been in contact with my family about it for some time, which is weird. honestly, I’m just about ready to pack up and be done with my family, and not even tell anyone where and when I’m moving. I have been looking at places to potentially live (preferably a studio) and have made the decision to balance 2 jobs in order to cover rent and living expenses, but I’m not even going to tell my family about my financial issues and will deal with them alone before it becomes hot topic in my household. I don’t get why the people I live with didn’t directly tell me, this is the plan etc etc. who knows who else they’ve shared this info with. since I found out this news, I’ve honestly felt I’ve been stepping/living on eggshells here, like I don’t feel safe. eh. I don’t know what todo. I basically have a year to find a new job (new career) and a place to live. I fear I’m about to be homeless bc my family just want me outta here so quick.. help, the job market and house market is going to be so tough, it’s only Sept now, but who knows what it’ll be like in the next few months or so. I’m already panicking and financially stressing hypothetically that I won’t earn enough to cover bills and rent, moving in costs, deposits etc.. idk what todo. Advice please

Definitely try talking to your relatives, but if they indirectly told you to move it it's probably because they don't feel comfortable telling you to leave directly since it might come off as rude?

Reply 4

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by Anonymous
Definitely try talking to your relatives, but if they indirectly told you to move it it's probably because they don't feel comfortable telling you to leave directly since it might come off as rude?


I’ll definitely mention it at some point. The only thing I could see my relatives talking about this matter with that person, is because they had bought a house recently and they are 25. I assume that my relatives probably thought there’s no excuse for me to still be living at home whereas they have their own place at that age, and I agree. But money is also plays a factor into this and my relatives don’t understand I have no money to even live alone, I’m on a low salary fr, and I have no parents to support me financially :/

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by Anonymous
I’ll definitely mention it at some point. The only thing I could see my relatives talking about this matter with that person, is because they had bought a house recently and they are 25. I assume that my relatives probably thought there’s no excuse for me to still be living at home whereas they have their own place at that age, and I agree. But money is also plays a factor into this and my relatives don’t understand I have no money to even live alone, I’m on a low salary fr, and I have no parents to support me financially :/

Yeah i mean its a tough situation. I'd say try find a higher paying job and maybe try save up. Explain to your relatives that you are doing this and then once you have enough money maybe try an apartment/flat at a low cost. Then use the savings to pay for it and work so you have money in the future to pay. If you maybe explain that you will do this they might be understanding and let you stay whilst you get in a strong position?

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by Anonymous
Yeah i mean its a tough situation. I'd say try find a higher paying job and maybe try save up. Explain to your relatives that you are doing this and then once you have enough money maybe try an apartment/flat at a low cost. Then use the savings to pay for it and work so you have money in the future to pay. If you maybe explain that you will do this they might be understanding and let you stay whilst you get in a strong position?


thanks for your comments. The best bet is to get a higher paying job (easier said than done) but that’s what I’m hoping for by next year and just save as much as I can now (which won’t be a lot) and find a way to figure it out along the way until i start earning more than I am now. It will be a long process but I’m just over it, with living with my family. I don’t think I want to extend my stay, I just want to get out of here lol even if I am financially at risk.

Reply 7

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by Anonymous
thanks for your comments. The best bet is to get a higher paying job (easier said than done) but that’s what I’m hoping for by next year and just save as much as I can now (which won’t be a lot) and find a way to figure it out along the way until i start earning more than I am now. It will be a long process but I’m just over it, with living with my family. I don’t think I want to extend my stay, I just want to get out of here lol even if I am financially at risk.


i’m sorry about your family/parents being this way. this is not normal behaviour and you’re their child. they should want to support you as long as they can wth. f comparing you to this other 25 year old twit. you’re not even THAT old to still be living with family especially if you’re not married and it’s not hindering them. tell them to get a grip (i know you can’t actually say that and will probably have to continue planning to move out soon, i just want to send my support and best wishes for you)

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