I dont want to move in with her

A girl im kinda seeing's parents have bought her a 5 bedroom house and she want me to be one of the 4 people to live with her next university year. And when i think about it I can only see the negatives and cannot even think of a single positive to such a situation.
these are the negatives i can see;
1. the break up - it is going to be really awkward for me if me and her where to fall out but i had to spend the rest of the year living in her house.

2.the break up 2 - when me and her break up how do we handle seeing other people when we are living togther? would we bring back other people or would it be tactful to date at all?

3. her friends - they are alright people but i cannot see myself living with them long-term. they are the sort of people that are great in small doses.

4. house keeping - im nowhere near a clean freak but her and her friends just take the piss. in their rooms the clothes are everywhere and you cant even see the floor plus they all smoke in their rooms and thats one thing I cannot handle. and i dont think they have ever heard of cleaning dishes.

How can i get out of this?

Reply 1

ddonnyy

OP continued

my other problem is that im going to have to tell her that instead of moving in with her im moving in with my friends and thats inlcudes my best friend (a girl) whom my 'gf' hates/is insecure about.

Reply 2

chaywa

"I don't wish to live with you next year, in fact i've already got somewhere else"

Job Done.

Reply 3

dealbreaker

sounds ominous already if you're thinking about breaking up...

Reply 4

Tinkerbelle ♥

Is it mainly because you're worried about the break up ? You could always just save up some money on the side so should that happen you can just move out and get a flat of your own.

Reply 5

snorty_swirl

say you have already aranged to live with your other friends, and you cant go back on that promise

Reply 6

oxymoronic

can't you just be honest and say to her that you're still at uni and don't really want to live with your girlfriend at this stage in your life whilst you're still young? therefore you're going to live with your mates, not hers.

my boyfriend and i lived together for a month whilst he was inbetween flats and as much as i loved him, theres no way i'd do it perminantly whilst at uni. i've got the rest of my life to live with a guy once i've graduated so i don't plan on doing it yet!

Reply 7

Marc.

"I don't want to mive in with her" then don't, there's not reason to force yourself into something that you clearly do not want, it will only end out bad for you both if you already have this outlook before you move in, as others have said just say you have other places that you've commited too.

Reply 8

CarlaJade

dealbreaker

sounds ominous already if you're thinking about breaking up...

Exactly what I was thinking.

If your relationship isn't that serious (it doesn't sound to be) then she should understand. Just say you've already got a place in mind.