How am I meant to survive at uni without my sister?
I'm due to go to uni on Sunday, hours from home. I'm a twin and we have barely been apart for all our lives. How can I live without her?
My parents keep telling me not to come home every weekend even though I want to because I can't bear the thought of not seeing everyone. This is making me feel so much more anxious about starting as I feel forced to stay away. My parents are convinced I won't make the most of my time at uni if I come home but I feel like I'll be better if I feel I can come home but they don't understand and I feel like now I have to suffer in silence as they just think me being anxious and wanting to come home will restrict me
Particularly my sister who is struggling with finding a job and I want to be there for her, I can't imagine living without her and I'm so scared. I just wish I'd applied to a uni closer to home.
Has anyone (particularly a twin) gone through anything sinailr and how do you cope with it 😣
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My parents keep telling me not to come home every weekend even though I want to because I can't bear the thought of not seeing everyone. This is making me feel so much more anxious about starting as I feel forced to stay away. My parents are convinced I won't make the most of my time at uni if I come home but I feel like I'll be better if I feel I can come home but they don't understand and I feel like now I have to suffer in silence as they just think me being anxious and wanting to come home will restrict me
Particularly my sister who is struggling with finding a job and I want to be there for her, I can't imagine living without her and I'm so scared. I just wish I'd applied to a uni closer to home.
Has anyone (particularly a twin) gone through anything sinailr and how do you cope with it 😣
<3
Reply 1
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by AnonymousI'm due to go to uni on Sunday, hours from home. I'm a twin and we have barely been apart for all our lives. How can I live without her?
My parents keep telling me not to come home every weekend even though I want to because I can't bear the thought of not seeing everyone. This is making me feel so much more anxious about starting as I feel forced to stay away. My parents are convinced I won't make the most of my time at uni if I come home but I feel like I'll be better if I feel I can come home but they don't understand and I feel like now I have to suffer in silence as they just think me being anxious and wanting to come home will restrict me
Particularly my sister who is struggling with finding a job and I want to be there for her, I can't imagine living without her and I'm so scared. I just wish I'd applied to a uni closer to home.
Has anyone (particularly a twin) gone through anything sinailr and how do you cope with it 😣
<3
My parents keep telling me not to come home every weekend even though I want to because I can't bear the thought of not seeing everyone. This is making me feel so much more anxious about starting as I feel forced to stay away. My parents are convinced I won't make the most of my time at uni if I come home but I feel like I'll be better if I feel I can come home but they don't understand and I feel like now I have to suffer in silence as they just think me being anxious and wanting to come home will restrict me
Particularly my sister who is struggling with finding a job and I want to be there for her, I can't imagine living without her and I'm so scared. I just wish I'd applied to a uni closer to home.
Has anyone (particularly a twin) gone through anything sinailr and how do you cope with it 😣
<3
I think you should video call her everyday and meet up with her. That way, you will still be close to her xx
Reply 2
Spare a thought for all the 18 year olds that have been living under such a horrible regime at home that the day they go to uni is the best day of their lives. With it being even worse for those living under such conditions that have a large amount of pressure put on them by their parents not to leave home.
There's plenty of threads on this forum from people suffering from this.
Then turn you thoughts to the fact that nothing lasts for ever. And that life has separate stages. With the people that get that most out of their lives being the ones that embrace each new chapter and forge ahead with enthusiasm.
Even more important than you getting a degree is you developing your social skills and becoming a fully functioning independent adult. With that including you functioning when things aren't quite how you'd ideally want them to be.
Every week-end you go home is a missed opportunity. A missed opportunity for you to socialise with people at your uni.
Your parents are right about you not coming every week-end. They love you very much and want what's for the best for you. They sound like they have a good amount of wisdom and that you should listen to them.
You'll see your family again at xmas. And when you do you'll pick up talking to your sister and being just as close to her as you ever were. With you having a nice additional set of anecdotes to tell her about your time at uni.
The next 13 weeks will fly by. Especially once you get into your going to lectures and doing your assignments routine.
There's plenty of threads on this forum from people suffering from this.
Then turn you thoughts to the fact that nothing lasts for ever. And that life has separate stages. With the people that get that most out of their lives being the ones that embrace each new chapter and forge ahead with enthusiasm.
Even more important than you getting a degree is you developing your social skills and becoming a fully functioning independent adult. With that including you functioning when things aren't quite how you'd ideally want them to be.
Every week-end you go home is a missed opportunity. A missed opportunity for you to socialise with people at your uni.
Your parents are right about you not coming every week-end. They love you very much and want what's for the best for you. They sound like they have a good amount of wisdom and that you should listen to them.
You'll see your family again at xmas. And when you do you'll pick up talking to your sister and being just as close to her as you ever were. With you having a nice additional set of anecdotes to tell her about your time at uni.
The next 13 weeks will fly by. Especially once you get into your going to lectures and doing your assignments routine.
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