Advice on options if hate uni
Hii
So I'm due to start uni tomorrow and I'm honestly soo anxious. I understand this is a normal feeling but I feel like I need some advice on what my options are if I can't cope.
Of course I'm going to try hard at uni to make it work, but if it doesn't what are my options?
Firstly, if I really hated it so much and felt I needed to drop out. How long would you recommend waiting? Also, would they keep charging me for accommodation and how much tuition based on the number of weeks I've dropped out. If helpful I'm due to go to uni of Birmingham
Secondly, how difficult would it be to transfer? My main worry is homesickness and I regret choosing a uni so far away when there are plenty of options close to home. Do I have to wait till second year to transfer ( transfer for my course is possible).
Finally are there any other options if I hate university? Of course I really am going to try to enjoy it at the start, joining societies ect, but it will be reassuring to know my options if I feel I cannot cope there!
Thank youu ❤️
So I'm due to start uni tomorrow and I'm honestly soo anxious. I understand this is a normal feeling but I feel like I need some advice on what my options are if I can't cope.
Of course I'm going to try hard at uni to make it work, but if it doesn't what are my options?
Firstly, if I really hated it so much and felt I needed to drop out. How long would you recommend waiting? Also, would they keep charging me for accommodation and how much tuition based on the number of weeks I've dropped out. If helpful I'm due to go to uni of Birmingham
Secondly, how difficult would it be to transfer? My main worry is homesickness and I regret choosing a uni so far away when there are plenty of options close to home. Do I have to wait till second year to transfer ( transfer for my course is possible).
Finally are there any other options if I hate university? Of course I really am going to try to enjoy it at the start, joining societies ect, but it will be reassuring to know my options if I feel I cannot cope there!
Thank youu ❤️
Reply 1
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It sounds like you have already decided you are going to be miserable which is not a great start.
Why dont you ask for a deferral to 2026 start and during your gap-year gradually start to loosen your reliance on home and family as a preparation for moving away.
Why dont you ask for a deferral to 2026 start and during your gap-year gradually start to loosen your reliance on home and family as a preparation for moving away.
Reply 2
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by PopcornthepuppyHii
So I'm due to start uni tomorrow and I'm honestly soo anxious. I understand this is a normal feeling but I feel like I need some advice on what my options are if I can't cope.
Of course I'm going to try hard at uni to make it work, but if it doesn't what are my options?
Firstly, if I really hated it so much and felt I needed to drop out. How long would you recommend waiting? Also, would they keep charging me for accommodation and how much tuition based on the number of weeks I've dropped out. If helpful I'm due to go to uni of Birmingham
Secondly, how difficult would it be to transfer? My main worry is homesickness and I regret choosing a uni so far away when there are plenty of options close to home. Do I have to wait till second year to transfer ( transfer for my course is possible).
Finally are there any other options if I hate university? Of course I really am going to try to enjoy it at the start, joining societies ect, but it will be reassuring to know my options if I feel I cannot cope there!
Thank youu ❤️
So I'm due to start uni tomorrow and I'm honestly soo anxious. I understand this is a normal feeling but I feel like I need some advice on what my options are if I can't cope.
Of course I'm going to try hard at uni to make it work, but if it doesn't what are my options?
Firstly, if I really hated it so much and felt I needed to drop out. How long would you recommend waiting? Also, would they keep charging me for accommodation and how much tuition based on the number of weeks I've dropped out. If helpful I'm due to go to uni of Birmingham
Secondly, how difficult would it be to transfer? My main worry is homesickness and I regret choosing a uni so far away when there are plenty of options close to home. Do I have to wait till second year to transfer ( transfer for my course is possible).
Finally are there any other options if I hate university? Of course I really am going to try to enjoy it at the start, joining societies ect, but it will be reassuring to know my options if I feel I cannot cope there!
Thank youu ❤️
Hi @Popcornthepuppy
I'm sorry you're feeling so worried about starting university. It is a really weird transition and it's completely normal to feel homesick when you arrive. Everything feels incredibly overwhelming as you are stressed, overtired, and usually have some form of freshers flu! I can say from my experience, university didn't feel "normal" until about a month into my first term, and then slowly things began to click into place. It was very strange going back home for Christmas as I'd gotten so used to living in Lancaster.
In terms of moving far from family, I found that video-calling my parents really helped as I could see them face to face without travelling home. I think if you choose to go to university this year it's important to stick it out for the first few weeks without going home.
I don't have advice about leaving university and how that works with fees but I hope I could reassure you slightly about how you're feeling.
Rebecca (Lancaster Student Ambassador)
Reply 3
Original post
by PopcornthepuppyHii
So I'm due to start uni tomorrow and I'm honestly soo anxious. I understand this is a normal feeling but I feel like I need some advice on what my options are if I can't cope.
Of course I'm going to try hard at uni to make it work, but if it doesn't what are my options?
Firstly, if I really hated it so much and felt I needed to drop out. How long would you recommend waiting? Also, would they keep charging me for accommodation and how much tuition based on the number of weeks I've dropped out. If helpful I'm due to go to uni of Birmingham
Secondly, how difficult would it be to transfer? My main worry is homesickness and I regret choosing a uni so far away when there are plenty of options close to home. Do I have to wait till second year to transfer ( transfer for my course is possible).
Finally are there any other options if I hate university? Of course I really am going to try to enjoy it at the start, joining societies ect, but it will be reassuring to know my options if I feel I cannot cope there!
Thank youu ❤️
So I'm due to start uni tomorrow and I'm honestly soo anxious. I understand this is a normal feeling but I feel like I need some advice on what my options are if I can't cope.
Of course I'm going to try hard at uni to make it work, but if it doesn't what are my options?
Firstly, if I really hated it so much and felt I needed to drop out. How long would you recommend waiting? Also, would they keep charging me for accommodation and how much tuition based on the number of weeks I've dropped out. If helpful I'm due to go to uni of Birmingham
Secondly, how difficult would it be to transfer? My main worry is homesickness and I regret choosing a uni so far away when there are plenty of options close to home. Do I have to wait till second year to transfer ( transfer for my course is possible).
Finally are there any other options if I hate university? Of course I really am going to try to enjoy it at the start, joining societies ect, but it will be reassuring to know my options if I feel I cannot cope there!
Thank youu ❤️
Hi there @Popcornthepuppy ,
Give yourself some time to adjust to university life and the new environment you are in.
As an international student, I too disliked my time in the first year as it took a long time for me the adjust to a new education system and find people I got along with. In addition to making friends, the quality of education and facilities you received at university are also important to your experience at uni.
Just like what Rebecca mentioned, video calling my family and friends back home really helped with my adjustment 🙂
Your time at uni is short and will pass quickly, so you should look forward and be excited to your time there 🤗
Zhi En
(Kingston Student Rep.)
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