Girl advice

"Well good for you guys, and too bad for the rest of us. There are several ways to break the ice with someone; I think a phrase involving the words "horses" and "courses" springs to mind here."
The "...Have you any ideas?" Mystery Gambit would NOT be used to break the ice!
It would be used at the point in the conversation where most guys would ask for her number.
It's a much better way of seeding meeting her outside of her work than asking directly for her number.
I provided the link to that video featuring Mystery in response to the Original Poster asking: "How am I supposed to ask her out with a load of customers and her colleagues around?"
I did not post it in response to him asking "How do I break the ice?"
"You can create that positivity and enthusiasm you mentioned in a number of ways... such as asking about a product in the store, and then engaging in some chit chat."
I hate highly indirect openers, such as asking a shop assistant about a product in the store. That sort of opener is too akin to asking someone in the street for directions, or the time. 🙄
Feel free to give pointers on what sort of "chit chat" to engage in - preferably something that will maximise the chances of this shop assistant meeting the original poster outside of her work.

I feel like it's a delicate situation.i don't know how to approach it anymore or should I just give it time.

Yea give it time

I feel like it's a delicate situation.i don't know how to approach it anymore or should I just give it time.

I feel like some of the workers there don't like me they may possibly think I'm after the first girl but my gut instinct tells me the second girl is into me

I feel like some of the workers there don't like me they may possibly think I'm after the first girl but my gut instinct tells me the second girl is into me

I feel like it's a delicate situation.i don't know how to approach it anymore or should I just give it time.

There you go again... over-thinking the situation, and making it more complicated than it needs to be.

If some of the other workers there don't like you, who cares? Seriously, as I said in the other post, as long as you are prepared to take "no" for an answer, and you don't start getting weird / creepy, it's none of their business. This is between you and the girl in question... no one else needs to get involved (unless your mate does some "investigation work" on your behalf lol). If they've really got a problem with your presence, they can inform the store manager and let them deal with it.


No, I don't feel you should give this any more time... Just find out where you stand (one way or another), and get it over and done with. You're always going to find some BS excuse to delay & procrastinate; you don't want to drag this out for months like the last time, because as that saying goes, "tomorrow never comes". The sooner you find out where you stand, the sooner you can have some fun with her or get over the rejection and find someone else to obsess over. Not to mention all the potential other girls you may let slip through your fingers because you miss the signs being so hyper-focused on this one. Either make your move soon, or just leave it.

I know you feel like "she's the one you're meant to be with" yadda yadidy yadda, but even if it doesn't work out, I promise that you'll feel the same way about some other girl in a few months (or even weeks).

P.S. You never know when "Chad" might start sniffing around her one day, and sweep her off her feet... then your chance has gone forever 🤣😢😉

There you go again... over-thinking the situation, and making it more complicated than it needs to be.
If some of the other workers there don't like you, who cares? Seriously, as I said in the other post, as long as you are prepared to take "no" for an answer, and you don't start getting weird / creepy, it's none of their business. This is between you and the girl in question... no one else needs to get involved (unless your mate does some "investigation work" on your behalf lol). If they've really got a problem with your presence, they can inform the store manager and let them deal with it.
No, I don't feel you should give this any more time... Just find out where you stand (one way or another), and get it over and done with. You're always going to find some BS excuse to delay & procrastinate; you don't want to drag this out for months like the last time, because as that saying goes, "tomorrow never comes". The sooner you find out where you stand, the sooner you can have some fun with her or get over the rejection and find someone else to obsess over. Not to mention all the potential other girls you may let slip through your fingers because you miss the signs being so hyper-focused on this one. Either make your move soon, or just leave it.
I know you feel like "she's the one you're meant to be with" yadda yadidy yadda, but even if it doesn't work out, I promise that you'll feel the same way about some other girl in a few months (or even weeks).
P.S. You never know when "Chad" might start sniffing around her one day, and sweep her off her feet... then your chance has gone forever 🤣😢😉

Yes, all of this basically.
We come back to the eternal question, “why didn’t she choose me, the nice guy?” Well, the cocky guy actually got on with it and asked her.

If some of the workers there don't like me then they probably have talked about me. Word may have spread to the girl who I fancy but not idk I got friendly vibes from her when I saw her

If some of the workers there don't like me then they probably have talked about me. Word may have spread to the girl who I fancy but not idk I got friendly vibes from her when I saw her

Again, this is all speculation, over-thinking and over-complication! Look, if you're getting "friendly vibes" from the girl you like, then where's the evidence that any of the negativity from the last time has got back to the girl in question? If it had, she'd be colder to you and more aloof.... moreover, if that happens, then there's not a lot you can do about it; you just have to put this fantasy to bed and move on to someone else (preferably somewhere else lol)
Don't pay the other staff there any attention and do your own thing; I'm sure they've got other things to occupy their time, rather than gossiping about one strange customer. Besides, I'm sure this girl is capable of making up her own mind about the people she encounters. If anything, the threat of "gossip" about you getting back to her should spur you on to act before it definitely does.
I'm sorry to say this, but from these last few posts, I'll be very very VERY surprised if this doesn't end-up being a repeat of the last episode... unless you pull your finger out and stop over-analysing every tiny detail and catastrophising it. And I'm wanning you the same thing will keep happening again and again (and again); and you'll never end up with anyone and be alone... until / unless you make a conscious effort to change how you manage / process your thoughts and actions.
The problems isn't with the other people there, the problem is with you.

I say I get friendly vibes from her but she would have said hello or something as we got closer? Why look down?
Let's say the next I go and I see her walking past what do I do if she behaves exactly like this again?
Me and my mate saw her and we both started smiling initially we made eye contact but looked away she started smiling as well but was looking down

Let's say the next I go and I see her walking past what do I do if she behaves exactly like this again?

Me and my mate saw her and we both started smiling initially we made eye contact but looked away she started smiling as well but was looking down

So what? What is it that you need here before you will actually ask her? An absolute guarantee that she will say yes? Because you will never have that. Ever. The problem, which is one that a lot of people have, is that you are so afraid of rejection you never actually ask. Which ironically means that you end up with nothing, which is also what you would end up with if you were rejected. The only way to have any hope of a positive outcome is to actually ask.
Sure, rejection doesn't feel nice in the moment. But nothing actually happens. It's a slightly awkward social interaction, and then you move on. It's a fact of life, and all you do by trying to avoid it is remove your chances of getting what you want.
The only thing that needs to happen here now is you asking her. All the thinking, rumination and assessing is not making any difference at all. Just get out of your own way and ask her.

What does it mean if a girl who I've interacted with a few times walks past me smiling to herself as she walks past me whilst looking down. Initially she looks at me. we made eye contact but then she looked down.
As she got closer her smile got even bigger. My mate said why is that girl smiling like that
She is a really shy girl and isn't the type to interact in public. She's reserved

i wouldn't jump to conclusions, she might just have been thinking about something else