Crush on Girl bsf 😭

Hiiii

So basically I’m 16 and my girl bsf is a year older.

We’ve known each other for like a year now, and we’re literally clones to say the least. We both love the same music (we have a shared playlist together), we both have the same humor and we both vibe so well.

I mean I’ve obviously got feelings for her. I confessed to her a while back and she said maybe and then nothing really happened (I took it as a nice way of saying no). We’ve spoken about people who we have crushes on, she spoke first about this guy in her class so I tried to stop my feelings for her and spoke about a girl in my class.

Honestly I don’t think it’s right to date anyone else when I’m madly in love with her. I couldn’t see myself getting along with someone as well as my girl bsf.

For context, me and my girl bsf talk literally all day and night every day. Alsooo she said shed never do a long distance relationship (yes we are long distance friends like 4 hr drive away). I call her pretty every so often, and she often calls me a ‘charmer’ or a ‘really good guy’. Idk if that’s a good thing 😭

Could anyone give me advice on what I should do about it?

Reply 1

Kathy89

Being friendzoned is hard, but believe me, we value real friendships more than crushes or even partners. It is rare to be both. Best friends are people who will stay by you no matter what... partners can come and go. Crushes can fade. Real friendship will stay.

Reply 2

Crazy Jamie

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by 80408

Could anyone give me advice on what I should do about it?

Seems to be extremely clear that she has rejected you, and if she had any interest in pursuing that side of things with you, she has an ample opportunity to do it every day, but has not done so. So the advice as to what to do about her in a relationship is that you should do nothing. Value that friendship, but it's clear that it isn't going to be more than that. The answer as to what to do about other relationships is that of course you should date. Having feelings for someone else doesn't mean you shouldn't date other people, particularly when you know that a relationship with the someone else is off the table. A very good friend of mine was in the same situation as you in that he had strong feelings for his female best friend, but it was clear that she didn't feel the same way. He dated other people (and is now married to another person). It seems pretty obvious that that's your only viable option too.