I don’t know what to do

I have feelings for a guy but the guy doesn’t like be back we are good friends and all but I have a feeling he’s secretly dating someone if not at least he has feelings for her. But the confusing thing is that he keeps on showing signs of liking me examples: complementing me about my body and how I look and at that exact same time touching me like were dating. It’s like every single time I get close to getting over him he pops out of nowhere and takes me right back to the start. I feel like he knows that I like him but chooses to mess with me instead. Any way can you advise me on what to do?

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Kathy89

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by Anonymous

I have feelings for a guy but the guy doesn’t like be back we are good friends and all but I have a feeling he’s secretly dating someone if not at least he has feelings for her. But the confusing thing is that he keeps on showing signs of liking me examples: complementing me about my body and how I look and at that exact same time touching me like were dating. It’s like every single time I get close to getting over him he pops out of nowhere and takes me right back to the start. I feel like he knows that I like him but chooses to mess with me instead. Any way can you advise me on what to do?

Hi. I may suggest something not so usual to do but if you both mature enough it will work.

Talk to him, tell him you feel uncomfortable when he acts like that. Set some boundaries, I mean, tell him that touching is for someone more than a friend and maybe even saying that you'd love to be more than friends, but as long as you are just friends, no touching. It will put him in an uncomfortable position for messing with you.
If you are both mature, he would either respect you and you will remain friends and he will stop messing with you. Or he may ask you out (this will mean either that he just want to mess with you or that he likes you as more than a friend).

Best wishes,
Kathy.

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Anonymous #1

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Hi thanks for answering so quickly and sorry I took so long to respond

Although I don’t think I would ever get the guts to tell him how confused i feel when he does these things to me. But thank you either way I’ll try though.

Reply 3

Zarek

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If you feel he’s leading you on the best thing to do is distance yourself as much as possible and put the energy in to finding someone better. It will be much better for your self esteem too. You can be friends with him once you’ve done that, if it still matters. Any even if he’s only being genuinely friendly the best bet is probably to see a little of him as possible

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Goodlife Girl

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Fight for him and make him yours

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by Zarek

If you feel he’s leading you on the best thing to do is distance yourself as much as possible and put the energy in to finding someone better. It will be much better for your self esteem too. You can be friends with him once you’ve done that, if it still matters. Any even if he’s only being genuinely friendly the best bet is probably to see a little of him as possible

You’re probably right

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by Goodlife Girl

Fight for him and make him yours

he’s probably not worth my energy but thanks anyway there’s a rumour going around that he likes me and wanks off to a photo he has of me and there is a voice note and screenshots of his texts with his friends saying both weird and flattering stuff about me but I’m not letting myself believe in all of that.

I don’t know what to do

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