Recently started uni should I dump my boyfriend

do you even love each other if you're that willing to dump him in a literal 2 hour long distance relationship? people have survived long distance relationships when their partners were on the other side of the world for years.
and relationships aren't supposed to trap you, they're supposed to lift you up and support you. if you're feeling this way then maybe he's not the one. if so don't blame it on the distance and the fact that you (oh god) don't live in the same place
he messages you and wants to visit you? girl that's just called being in a relationship and wanting to see someone you love.
but if you're that willing to break up with him just because he (for god's sake) wants to see his gf (you) then please have a good look at yourself and see where the problem really lies - you or him or both.
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he messages you and wants to visit you? girl that's just called being in a relationship and wanting to see someone you love.

Tell him that from now on you can't promise to be exclusive with him.
If he takes that as a dumping, so be it.
If he gets angry or aggressive about this change in the nature of your relationship; dump him.
If he begs you to stay exclusive, cut off his nagging and stick to your guns.
If he's messaging you multiple times per week, you should reduce your messaging to him to whatever level suits you best. If that's once per week or once per month, that's fine.
And carry on having a great time at uni, whilst still going to all your lectures and handing all your assignments in on time.
And give yourself a pat on the back for settling into uni so well. And for valuing your freedom as highly as you should value it (instead of surrendering a huge amount of your freedom to some guy, just because he wants you to surrender it).

do you even love each other if you're that willing to dump him in a literal 2 hour long distance relationship? people have survived long distance relationships when their partners were on the other side of the world for years.
and relationships aren't supposed to trap you, they're supposed to lift you up and support you. if you're feeling this way then maybe he's not the one. if so don't blame it on the distance and the fact that you (oh god) don't live in the same place
he messages you and wants to visit you? girl that's just called being in a relationship and wanting to see someone you love.
but if you're that willing to break up with him just because he (for god's sake) wants to see his gf (you) then please have a good look at yourself and see where the problem really lies - you or him or both.
just saying

Barely any relationships survive after sixth form I am just not feeling this relationship anymore, I feel like it is holding me back being in a relationship

So end the relationship. Is it any more complicated than that? I don't feel like you really needed advice on this one in all honesty.

Its just hard, he was my 1st, but you are right I can't carry on like this

Do not do this, I broke up with my bf for uni just because many of my friends did and regretted it soon after, he went on and found someone else and I ended up sleeping around and generally feeling rubbish

Do not do this, I broke up with my bf for uni just because many of my friends did and regretted it soon after, he went on and found someone else and I ended up sleeping around and generally feeling rubbish

Do not do this, I broke up with my bf for uni just because many of my friends did and regretted it soon after, he went on and found someone else and I ended up sleeping around and generally feeling rubbish

Breaking up with someone solely because your friends are doing it is obviously not a good reason to end a relationship. But the OP has stated clearly that they feel trapped in the relationship and are irritated by their other half messaging them. It's a very different situation.

☹️ sorry that this happened to you. And for the OP, if being in a relationship is holding you back from enjoying the lifestyle of University, but you still have feelings for him, you can always say that you'd like to get back together after you've finished your studies, appreciate that he wants to visit, but you want to max out the 'uni life', as the term goes.

When I was at uni I studied like my career depended on it. Maxing out the uni life had a very different meaning to me than the implied one in this thread. Even a focused nerd like myself had a handful of offers from men of different ages to explore my sensuality - wink wink - or my likely to help them explore theirs. I turned them all down like I couldn't be bothered. Bc I really couldn't be bothered to misspend my precious uni time of growth. The funny thing is that some of them tried to boast how they'd already slept with other female students in my subject or cohort before they made a move on me.

Do not do this, I broke up with my bf for uni just because many of my friends did and regretted it soon after, he went on and found someone else and I ended up sleeping around and generally feeling rubbish

When I was at uni I studied like my career depended on it. Maxing out the uni life had a very different meaning to me than the implied one in this thread. Even a focused nerd like myself had a handful of offers from men of different ages to explore my sensuality - wink wink - or my likely to help them explore theirs. I turned them all down like I couldn't be bothered. Bc I really couldn't be bothered to misspend my precious uni time of growth. The funny thing is that some of them tried to boast how they'd already slept with other female students in my subject or cohort before they made a move on me.