What does the phrase 'seeing someone' actually mean?

I always figured going out with someone was 'going steady' and seeing someone was the step before that

yea. but do u think this is kinda unusual for a way for a guy to treat a friend?

actually its not my friend its my apparently-not bf.

we r both single but have been sort of goign out for a while (4 months) for eg dinner, drink, films by ourselves and we just had a massive fight to which he bought me a rose. but he's telling ppl we r not seeing each other and when i asked him about this he said no we r not we r m8s

well if you really like him and your not bothered about being single suppose you could just keep things that way and see if they progress but you might be waiting a long time if not forever, don't you know any of his mates? you could talk to them about it, ask them what he thinks and stuff

if you have sex on a regularish basis then you ares seeing eachother and he is wrong, if you kiss properly frequentlyish then you are seeing each other... if you don't ever cross the line, then you are friends.

htere is sort of a line. but i thought we were seeing each other cos if a non single guy did the same with some girl he'd be thought of as cheating

are you sure he's single? I can't imagine why it would have to be a big secret if you are just friends but then again if your not kissing or doing anything I can't imagine it would be an affair either so not sure why he's so secretive, is there any consequences you can think of as to people finding out about him and you?

If nothing has happened between them, this guy is keeping the option open. He might be worried about having a girlfriend, not sure he's interested. So he's behaving in a way that will make her think that he might be interested without having to say he's fully prepared for a relationship. It's a perfectly normal behaviour.

you need to be getting some action from him to be 'seeing him'...

he was secretive cos otherwise ppl will sprad lies around and gossip .
the girl (myself) strict muslim ie no meat alcohol or sex. so you think he's acting in a way that might make me think he likes me he doesnt? i think he's a bastardd now

is he muslim?

I'll just give you the simple answer that probably anyone would give you: if you can't put up with the whole ambiguous situation, it's up to you to make the move: confront him and ask him if he likes you. The other solution is just to try to get close to him, maybe try to kiss him. In that situation, you don't give him much choice.
I'm sure this guy isn't very old so it can be scary for him to deal with situations like this. All girls seem to think that guys are confident, make a move when they're interested in a girl. Some time, the girl has to do some work to get the guy out of his shell!