What does the phrase &#x27;seeing someone&#x27; actually mean?

Just because he texts you doesn't mean that he likes you. I have a male friend so sends me flirty texts all the time. he likes it because then he gets flirty texts back and it makes him feel good about himself. Whenever he is between girlfriends/ love interests whatever or drunk I get a text, its not to make me feel good its to make him feel good its like a game, he doesn't fancy me enough to ask me out because if he did he would have done so by now, its just convenient. I play along cos it makes me feel good too. We've been on dates "as friends" of course, meals drinks etc but nothing is ever going to come of it, oh apart from a quick shag if I fancied it which I don't am wary of casual things.
If anything was going to happen with you two and he was going to treat you right it would have happened by now, ok. You are just a convenience to him that makes him feel good about himself. Its harsh but true.

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OP

no but he did ask me out at first and then he says we split up which is what confused me. the text which he says was the break up ;is:

"i wish u kno that i like u n jus need 2 kno more about u n get myself sorted"

how is that a split up?

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viviki

Just because he texts you doesn't mean that he likes you. I have a male friend so sends me flirty texts all the time. he likes it because then he gets flirty texts back and it makes him feel good about himself. .

frost105

I would never text my friends like that, its inappropriate on the whole, espec with somoen you've been seeing. just because your on the same course doesnt mean you have to be friends. be polite but brief.

fight!!

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magiccarpet

no but he did ask me out at first and then he says we split up which is what confused me. the text which he says was the break up ;is:

"i wish u kno that i like u n jus need 2 kno more about u n get myself sorted"

how is that a split up?

he is a bast i think he's seeing someone else now

Reply 165

Makavelli_07

magiccarpet

he is a bast i think he's seeing someone else now

Why would he do such a thing? I though he was in love with you... :rolleyes:

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eurasianfeline

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magiccarpet

he is a bast i think he's seeing someone else now

forget about him. u deserve better than this.

Reply 167

SilverWings

Basically magiccarpet u need to forget about this guy.. from what I've read he lies to you and messes you about to use you.. forget him and move on2 bigger and better things..

btw I also feel that seeing someone is sexual.. well, where I am thats what it means.. its just a poiter way of saying ur shagging sum1!! :biggrin:

Reply 168

OP

i dont think he is s*gging someone else tho. cos otherwise why did he call me and text me to tell me?surely when you have just come back from a date the first thing you would do would not be to call ur ex and say so, then text them saing 'hi luv i jus drive bac 2 maldon with my friend. cant get tho 2 ur fone really tired c u tmr xxx'
why would u do it? i dont think he'sa seeig her

Reply 169

SilverWings

To mess your head up... IMHO he is a manipulator and a liar.. but I dont know the guy, except from the thread

Reply 170

OP

ye i cant see it that way tho. he's really cute and fat and doesnt speak alot of english. and when i yell at him for treating me like crap he just starts talking horribly and crying

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eurasianfeline

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magiccarpet

ye i cant see it that way tho. he's really cute and fat and doesnt speak alot of english. and when i yell at him for treating me like crap he just starts talking horribly and crying

but as i've PM-ed u before...his "reason" is not a valid reason / excuse to treat you like this. besides...he seems rather pathetic to me...crying so easily...

Reply 172

OP

hey thanks for your pm, but now im really confused. this thai guy told me thats how it is in asia, the women can BE smart but have to pretend they are not. so now im confused as to if it's his culture or not

and when he starts the horrible talking or crying i feel so terrible that i end up apologising and crying myself.

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eurasianfeline

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magiccarpet

hey thanks for your pm, but now im really confused. this thai guy told me thats how it is in asia, the women can BE smart but have to pretend they are not. so now im confused as to if it's his culture or not

and when he starts the horrible talking or crying i feel so terrible that i end up apologising and crying myself.

errr...so far none of the people i know are like that. i mean for goodness sake it's year 2005, not 1905.

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SilverWings

for goodness sake it's year 2005, not 1905

I totally agree, what is it with the whole housewife/breadearner obsessions that some people cling on to?? I mean, women have their own minds these days!!

YOU GO GIRLS!! lol :biggrin:

Reply 175

Makavelli_07

I've got a new idea. Get some proffesional help. :biggrin:

Reply 176

OP

oh bloody hell i just found out that the girl he said he didnt sleep with he actually didnt sleep with her.
but on my birthday he was seeing on of his ex girlfriends
i think im dying... :bawling:

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Kuddly!

Mad_Monkey59

'seeing each other' implies sex... being friends who go to films is different to being friends who see films together and then have sex.

I go and see films, have lunch with lots of women - if I was shagging them I'd being 'seeing them' but as it is, im just having lunch.

seeeing each other does not mean sex?? you can bee seeing each other and not having sex...

seeing each other to me, is unofficially going out with someone, with no strings attached and your able to "see" other guys too, and date other men.

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OP