Hopeless 22 year old male
I'm a 22 year old male, soon to be 23 and I feel totally hopeless with life in general. Everything's just non-existent... my career, social, and dating life. I've always been a shy, quiet person around others but in recent years I've gotten better and want to do more than just sit at home all day unemployed. But it's as though there's just nothing good on the horizon. I've secured a place to study film (my passion) at Uni next year, whether that's a wise move or not I'm still not 100% sure. And I'm finally getting weekly driving lessons again after being unlucky with my three previous instructors, but besides that I can't seem to get out of this never-ending cycle of either being lonely and unemployed or being lonely and working at *****y warehouse jobs I absolutely loathe and work you to the bone. I would like to work elsewhere but I didn't do particularly well at school and live out in the middle of a small town with nothing going on in it besides that really. I've been going to evening classes these past two years at a college nearby, trying to resit my maths GCSE but I didn't pass again this summer so I bloody give up. I HATE maths!!!!
I've been able to chat to people with similar interests over Instagram and had a few girls interested in me (that I've liked back) but they've all fizzled out because we live nowhere near each other. Living here in this town is so depressing and yeah the grass isn't necessarily greener elsewhere but when people say to just join clubs I roll my eyes because they're all for older people and don't interest me in the slightest. Not to mention, not even in my town. Dating apps are dead too and not worth paying for when you get like one or two likes and can't see who they are or if they're even real people. Even just looking for fun things to do like something as simple as going to a concert is so expensive these days and makes you question the point anymore.
Sorry for the messy rant, my thoughts are very scattered and I'm losing it. I can only hold this all in for so long, it's been years dwelling on these things. I don't want to be overly negative and make excuses, I'm trying to be practical but I honestly don't know what is anymore.
I've been able to chat to people with similar interests over Instagram and had a few girls interested in me (that I've liked back) but they've all fizzled out because we live nowhere near each other. Living here in this town is so depressing and yeah the grass isn't necessarily greener elsewhere but when people say to just join clubs I roll my eyes because they're all for older people and don't interest me in the slightest. Not to mention, not even in my town. Dating apps are dead too and not worth paying for when you get like one or two likes and can't see who they are or if they're even real people. Even just looking for fun things to do like something as simple as going to a concert is so expensive these days and makes you question the point anymore.
Sorry for the messy rant, my thoughts are very scattered and I'm losing it. I can only hold this all in for so long, it's been years dwelling on these things. I don't want to be overly negative and make excuses, I'm trying to be practical but I honestly don't know what is anymore.
Reply 1
Hi there, well done for bravely reaching out for support. We can hear that you are feeling that life is pretty hopeless right now. We wonder how long you have been feeling this way? What we noticed is that you are also working really hard to achieve some huge goals too, getting into Uni to study your passion, trying to pass your Maths GCSE and learning how to drive. These are all huge tasks which it feels like you may not see, are positive aspects to show how hard you are working and the effort you are puting in. Sometimes when our mood is low, we fail to see the things that are going well for us because we can feel overwhelmed by the comparisons to our peers and what they seem to be achieving. It doesn't feel like you are being overly negative, it feels like right now you feel overwhelmed with life and are not sure how to move forward through it, but you are taking steps, by reaching out, to get some support. We hope you can see this?
Reply 2
Hi, I've felt this way deep down for years now. It's been this way since I was 19 but it's been getting worse with each year that I grow older. I appreciate your response and I'll try to bear these positives in mind but naturally it's hard as it's human nature to only look at the negatives as you know. It doesn't help that I spend a lot of time in my head as it is, then on top of that I have my dad constantly reminding me of my shortcomings and warning me: 'life is a race', 'time is running out'. We have lot's of arguments over this and we only seem to go round in circles which drives me nuts.
Reply 3
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by PlasticMickeyHi, I've felt this way deep down for years now. It's been this way since I was 19 but it's been getting worse with each year that I grow older. I appreciate your response and I'll try to bear these positives in mind but naturally it's hard as it's human nature to only look at the negatives as you know. It doesn't help that I spend a lot of time in my head as it is, then on top of that I have my dad constantly reminding me of my shortcomings and warning me: 'life is a race', 'time is running out'. We have lot's of arguments over this and we only seem to go round in circles which drives me nuts.
hi, i wholeheartedly agree with the other comment. you're in the process of achieving incredible things and you shouldn't compare yourself to others. ik that's easier said than done but at the end of the day we all have different circumstances so there's no benefit in analyzing the "what ifs". also, this is gonna sound crazy but once you get to uni air your father for a bit because he's only projecting his insecurities onto you and making you feel worse (ik thats difficult bc he's your blood and all that) but sometimes a break is highly beneficial for you to thrive. also, when you get to uni ensure you make the most of it by networking and making connections like doing a year in industry bc unfortunately a lot of opportunities go to nepo babies and ppl raised in the city with connections. remember you can succeed in anything you're passionate in so js believe in yourself !! (lastly, you're 22, relationships always happen when you're least expecting it so js relax)
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