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Thinking of cutting my year short?

Hi, I am a third year student from the UK currently doing a year abroad in Japan. I have been here a month I don't think I can do anymore. I have this magic inability to make friends and it's getting to me. I am trying to speak to people but I don't think I mesh with anyone. It is the same at my home uni, I am not really friends with anyone in my class or at least they don't consider me their friend. I go days here without talking to anyone, I witnessed today a bunch of classmates exchange instas and make a group chat and exclude me.
Anyway, it's all just very isolating and the time difference doesn't help. I wake up and my family are asleep, and then my boyfriend wakes up late so by that time I'm already in bed and going back to sleep again. I am just really struggling.

I already spoke to my uni, I sent them an email, and they said I can return home and complete my final year back at my home uni next year as planned. I am seriously considering it, but I am wondering if anyone was in the same boat on their year abroad and stuck around. How was it? Did it get better?. I do love this country and think its beautiful but I don't think I can do this whole year alone.

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by gmooh1100
Hi, I am a third year student from the UK currently doing a year abroad in Japan. I have been here a month I don't think I can do anymore. I have this magic inability to make friends and it's getting to me. I am trying to speak to people but I don't think I mesh with anyone. It is the same at my home uni, I am not really friends with anyone in my class or at least they don't consider me their friend. I go days here without talking to anyone, I witnessed today a bunch of classmates exchange instas and make a group chat and exclude me.
Anyway, it's all just very isolating and the time difference doesn't help. I wake up and my family are asleep, and then my boyfriend wakes up late so by that time I'm already in bed and going back to sleep again. I am just really struggling.
I already spoke to my uni, I sent them an email, and they said I can return home and complete my final year back at my home uni next year as planned. I am seriously considering it, but I am wondering if anyone was in the same boat on their year abroad and stuck around. How was it? Did it get better?. I do love this country and think its beautiful but I don't think I can do this whole year alone.

Stick it out. Life is full of obstacles and trials.

Reply 2

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by gmooh1100
Hi, I am a third year student from the UK currently doing a year abroad in Japan. I have been here a month I don't think I can do anymore. I have this magic inability to make friends and it's getting to me. I am trying to speak to people but I don't think I mesh with anyone. It is the same at my home uni, I am not really friends with anyone in my class or at least they don't consider me their friend. I go days here without talking to anyone, I witnessed today a bunch of classmates exchange instas and make a group chat and exclude me.
Anyway, it's all just very isolating and the time difference doesn't help. I wake up and my family are asleep, and then my boyfriend wakes up late so by that time I'm already in bed and going back to sleep again. I am just really struggling.
I already spoke to my uni, I sent them an email, and they said I can return home and complete my final year back at my home uni next year as planned. I am seriously considering it, but I am wondering if anyone was in the same boat on their year abroad and stuck around. How was it? Did it get better?. I do love this country and think its beautiful but I don't think I can do this whole year alone.
Hi @gmooh1100 im so sorry to hear your struggling in Japan. I myself was considering studying abroad there and past students who had gone mentioned how hard it is to make friends, especially due to the language barrier. I think it’s important to remember it’s not just you and everyone who moves to a new country struggles to fit in. If you are finding it hard to make friends with other exchange students, maybe try some travel forums that tourists use. A lot of solo travellers post on social media and apps to make friends wherever they are, maybe you could use these as well and see if there is anyone around you could do some fun day trips out with.

I also wrote a blog about what to do when your struggling to make friends at university here, it wasn’t necessarily aimed at exchange students but it still applies. That being said, if your really unhappy, it’s not the worst thing in the world to leave if your just simply not enjoying it. It’s a once in a life time opportunity so do try and give it another go if you can but if your mental health is really struggling then you know you can come home.

Hope this helps,

Vee (Kingston rep)

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by Kingston Vee
Hi @gmooh1100 im so sorry to hear your struggling in Japan. I myself was considering studying abroad there and past students who had gone mentioned how hard it is to make friends, especially due to the language barrier. I think it’s important to remember it’s not just you and everyone who moves to a new country struggles to fit in. If you are finding it hard to make friends with other exchange students, maybe try some travel forums that tourists use. A lot of solo travellers post on social media and apps to make friends wherever they are, maybe you could use these as well and see if there is anyone around you could do some fun day trips out with.
I also wrote a blog about what to do when your struggling to make friends at university here, it wasn’t necessarily aimed at exchange students but it still applies. That being said, if your really unhappy, it’s not the worst thing in the world to leave if your just simply not enjoying it. It’s a once in a life time opportunity so do try and give it another go if you can but if your mental health is really struggling then you know you can come home.
Hope this helps,
Vee (Kingston rep)

thank you for the reply!! very thoughtful and will give the linked post a read. I wish I could enjoy my experience here as I feel like I have been waiting a lifetime to do it, but my mental health is getting particularly bad at the moment so maybe its best I just leave.

Thank you!!
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by gmooh1100
thank you for the reply!! very thoughtful and will give the linked post a read. I wish I could enjoy my experience here as I feel like I have been waiting a lifetime to do it, but my mental health is getting particularly bad at the moment so maybe its best I just leave.
Thank you!!

Hi @gmooh1100, no worries and yes see what you think about the post and if you think any tips apply to you. It is of course an amazing experience and I do hope you get to stay, but if you think the toll on your mental health is too severe then you probably know what's best for you. Always take care of yourself first! Japan will still be there in a few years time : )

Best of luck!!

vee (kingston rep)

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