Can I be Bi & Asexual

Hi, so I recently came out as bi as I find both Men and Woman attractive. Although I could be pan but that’s not what I’m here to talk about. Can I be Bi and Asexual like I find woman and Men attractive looking and I’d date them romantically but I’d never want to have s3x. So would I identify as that also would I ever be fit to fall in love too 😭

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Llamas_and_Cake

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You are what you are. Even if you were the first person in the universe with your specific combination of traits then it would be no less valid. But yes, romantic asexual is a thing, and there’s no rule that says romantic asexuals have to only be attracted to only men or only women.

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hjhi86

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by Anonymous

Hi, so I recently came out as bi as I find both Men and Woman attractive. Although I could be pan but that’s not what I’m here to talk about. Can I be Bi and Asexual like I find woman and Men attractive looking and I’d date them romantically but I’d never want to have s3x. So would I identify as that also would I ever be fit to fall in love too 😭

Yes you can definitely be both, also you may looking into delving more in biromantic attraction and asexuality together? Also asexuality is a fluid spectrum as well, many forms of attraction and desire exist e.g demisexual etc. Labels are not boxes to be defined by, we define them and frankly sometimes it's also better to stay undefined even though society pushes to appear in a certain way. Sexual and romantic desire are different spectrums and we all participate in them, some are placed in more exclusive and straight(lol)-forward positions, others do not. Please do not let other people push you into being someone else other than you! Some versions of us may seem to feel we are still figuring it all out, but believe me the answer is inside you. Lastly, love and romance have to do with the aromantic spectrum, sex has to do with the asexual spectrum. You can definitely be asexual but alloromantic (non aromantic). If you want something then be it, if you don't it won't come your way, don't worry. :wink:

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catchmeify0ucan

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by Anonymous

Hi, so I recently came out as bi as I find both Men and Woman attractive. Although I could be pan but that’s not what I’m here to talk about. Can I be Bi and Asexual like I find woman and Men attractive looking and I’d date them romantically but I’d never want to have s3x. So would I identify as that also would I ever be fit to fall in love too 😭

You can have romantic feelings without sexual attraction. I was in a relationship where it was long distance and we never really did anything sexual but we had the commitment & romantic aspects of the relationship. There are plenty of people who don't necessarily want sex out of a relationship!
Google "biromantic asexual" and see if that helps at all!

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