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I watched a lot of porn during lockdown

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Reply 20

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by Old Skool Freak
Seriously, what's the point in any of us even taking the time and effort to give you any practical advice? You just ignore it because and post the same stuff later on.
I think your posts are a good advert why people should think twice about watching porn in the first place.
I honestly don't think anyone here can help you in your situation. Frankly, the only practical recommendation I can give you is that you seek professional help from a registered addiction clinic.
I dispute this... British Rail definitely is NSFW.
Flipping SW trains from Waterloo station made me late for work about 40% of the times I had to use them... until I decided a pedal bicycle was more reliable 😎🦾🦿
I was lucky not to get a written warning

So it best to stop watching gay and straight porn and try and having sexual thoughts with women again?
If you’re gay or bi then you can’t just try and have straight thoughts. That’s not how sexuality works.

Reply 22

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by Anonymous
So it best to stop watching gay and straight porn and try and having sexual thoughts with women again?

As I am... Frankly... sick to death of telling you... YES IT IS BEST FOR YOU TO STOP WATCHING PORN COMPLETELY!!!

Only then can you work out what you are, maybe these intrusive thoughts will stop, maybe they won't. I don't think ANYONE on the planet knows your true sexual tastes. Ether way, the first stage in establishing that will be to cut porn out of your life... the answer will come clearer then.

There's no miracle or magical solution, you need to cut it out, Cold Turkey

Reply 23

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by Old Skool Freak
As I am... Frankly... sick to death of telling you... YES IT IS BEST FOR YOU TO STOP WATCHING PORN COMPLETELY!!!
Only then can you work out what you are, maybe these intrusive thoughts will stop, maybe they won't. I don't think ANYONE on the planet knows your true sexual tastes. Ether way, the first stage in establishing that will be to cut porn out of your life... the answer will come clearer then.
There's no miracle or magical solution, you need to cut it out, Cold Turkey

I will not post this anymore if this is gonna cause you mental stress or to wind people up anything I won’t post this is anymore if I do you can banned me from this student forum.

I will do my very best to quit porn and do whatever to have sense off clarity. And put my mind to rest. I do again apologise I can understand why my mates get ****ed off about it as well so I won’t post the same shir again.

Again sorry for winding up you or anyone else on here

Reply 24

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by Anonymous
I will not post this anymore if this is gonna cause you mental stress or to wind people up anything I won’t post this is anymore if I do you can banned me from this student forum.
I will do my very best to quit porn and do whatever to have sense off clarity. And put my mind to rest. I do again apologise I can understand why my mates get ****ed off about it as well so I won’t post the same shir again.
Again sorry for winding up you or anyone else on here

Genuinely... you need to book an appointment in a rehab or addiction clinic or something (you've proven / demonstrated you can't quit porn by yourself).

They are professionals and it's all confidential and non-judgemental. They've probably dealt with people far worse than you, so I'm sure they can help you out more than anyone on this board can.

Reply 25

I don’t know what the context of the British Rail fun facts is, but…

Seven of the 38 Eurostar trains built in the 1980s were never used by Eurostar as the services they were meant to run (to places north of London) never started. The trains were used by other companies in Britain and in France, until they were scrapped a few years ago. It’s just one of the many examples of things being built for the Channel Tunnel that ended up being wasted.

Reply 26

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by Anonymous
Hey guys so this happensd to me in lockdown a while ago so basically I went through a phase and yes I know posted on. This before but it’s really ****ing me off that I can’t seem to put my mind to rest.
And liking girls in which obviously would love be kissing women and such. But when so much biesexual stuff and gay and straight it’s been distracting me like I wish can be put back to my normal self again with my mind.
Honestly this might not make any sense but I want to have girlfriends and such byt with this mental stuff going on my head I can’t seem to concentrate and have focus.
I know I watched at all that stuff but it’s seem I can’t feel normal again into being intimate with fancying women.
I do try and quit porn and last for about two weeks but I really want to go for about a month and really feel the benefits.

didnt we all

Reply 27

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by Doomotron
I don’t know what the context of the British Rail fun facts is, but…
Seven of the 38 Eurostar trains built in the 1980s were never used by Eurostar as the services they were meant to run (to places north of London) never started. The trains were used by other companies in Britain and in France, until they were scrapped a few years ago. It’s just one of the many examples of things being built for the Channel Tunnel that ended up being wasted.

Reminds me of the Class 319s running in the Tunnel.

Reply 28

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by Old Skool Freak
Genuinely... you need to book an appointment in a rehab or addiction clinic or something (you've proven / demonstrated you can't quit porn by yourself).
They are professionals and it's all confidential and non-judgemental. They've probably dealt with people far worse than you, so I'm sure they can help you out more than anyone on this board can.

I think I know you why cause when it said John Wayne it made my heart flutter so surely, and I think I was ****ed when it said that.

Reply 29

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by Anonymous
I think I know you why cause when it said John Wayne it made my heart flutter so surely, and I think I was ****ed when it said that.

Sorry, I don't have a clue what you're saying here.:confused:

Seriously, go see an addiction clinic or something.

Reply 30

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by Old Skool Freak
Sorry, I don't have a clue what you're saying here.:confused:
Seriously, go see an addiction clinic or something.
It’s when the popped up and something happened to me emotionally to and cannot bare thought of being gay as I was always straight from the beginning.

Reply 31

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by Anonymous
It’s when the popped up and something happened to me emotionally to and cannot bare thought of being gay as I was always straight from the beginning.

I don't think whatever you were saying about "John Wayne" is important. What's far more important (for you, at least), is you ditching porn so you've got some clarity on your sexuality. Have you stayed away from porn since you last posted? Have you been to an addiction clinic?

As I keep telling you, you need to cut porn out of your life COMPLETELY, and see where your urges take you. You'll need a good-few months clean of it to get any kind of meaningful answer or suggestion on that; maybe your homosexual thoughts will go away, maybe they won't. Nonetheless, these days, there's a whole spectrum of sexualities... so you may not be gay; you may be bi-sexual or bi-curious (i.e. say someone is straight for most of the time, but may indulge in limited sexual play with someone of the same sex... but not a relationship)… and I haven't even considered the other sexualities or gender identities (e.g. pansexual, polysexual, non-binary etc.). Lets say for arguments sake you're bi-sexual, you can still only choose to pursue women if you wanted to (lots of closeted bi-sexual guys choose to do this, for various reasons) and no one needs to know that you are bi; after all, a straight guy won't necessarily pursue every woman he meets, just because they're a woman.

The bottom line is your sexuality is not a choice; you are what you are. However, it IS a choice whether or not you accept your sexuality. I will also reiterate that it's 2025, and many of the stigmas that existed around LGBTQ+ relationships no longer exist in the Western world (although I can't comment about your own personal family / environment).



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Reply 32

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by Old Skool Freak
I don't think whatever you were saying about "John Wayne" is important. What's far more important (for you, at least), is you ditching porn so you've got some clarity on your sexuality. Have you stayed away from porn since you last posted? Have you been to an addiction clinic?
As I keep telling you, you need to cut porn out of your life COMPLETELY, and see where your urges take you. You'll need a good-few months clean of it to get any kind of meaningful answer or suggestion on that; maybe your homosexual thoughts will go away, maybe they won't. Nonetheless, these days, there's a whole spectrum of sexualities... so you may not be gay; you may be bi-sexual or bi-curious (i.e. say someone is straight for most of the time, but may indulge in limited sexual play with someone of the same sex... but not a relationship)… and I haven't even considered the other sexualities or gender identities (e.g. pansexual, polysexual, non-binary etc.). Lets say for arguments sake you're bi-sexual, you can still only choose to pursue women if you wanted to (lots of closeted bi-sexual guys choose to do this, for various reasons) and no one needs to know that you are bi; after all, a straight guy won't necessarily pursue every woman he meets, just because they're a woman.
The bottom line is your sexuality is not a choice; you are what you are. However, it IS a choice whether or not you accept your sexuality. I will also reiterate that it's 2025, and many of the stigmas that existed around LGBTQ+ relationships no longer exist in the Western world (although I can't comment about your own personal family / environment).

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I haven’t watched porn for a couple of days tops or haven’t masturabted. I’m gonna try go for a full month. If I don’t want to be involved with a gay as it makes me totally uncomfortable.

It was more the amount of trans but I have already mentioned that I myself want to be normal again and I like to fall in love with girls again. Completely be back normal and working out being productive. And just having the passion for girls again that’s main girl without all this gay stuff.

Reply 33

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by Anonymous
I haven’t watched porn for a couple of days tops or haven’t masturabted. I’m gonna try go for a full month. If I don’t want to be involved with a gay as it makes me totally uncomfortable.
It was more the amount of trans but I have already mentioned that I myself want to be normal again and I like to fall in love with girls again. Completely be back normal and working out being productive. And just having the passion for girls again that’s main girl without all this gay stuff.

Look,

It's no good you setting a target to abstain from porn for a month (or whatever), if the first thing you're gonna do is go straight back on some "left-handed-sites" once it's completed... you need to think about giving up porn completely; potentially for the rest of your life! This isn't the same thing as giving up something for Lent or fasting during Ramadan. As I said to you ages ago in another thread, recovering alcoholics who are serious about quitting don't treat themselves to a few drinks at birthdays, Christmas or whatever... they stay on the wagon permanently.

Also, you've proven several times that you can't give up porn on your own accord, so you need professional help. Have you looked at an addiction clinic, or a support group? Have you thought about installing a filter that blocks adult content? There's nothing stopping you from "working out and being productive" right away, as they're not at all relevant to porn... in fact, they may be a good distraction from letting your mind wonder. Also get a hobby or something.

If you're not ready to give up porn right now, then you may be better off mentally preparing yourself to do so before committing to it. The "advantage" with a porn addiction (as opposed to drink, drugs etc.) is that it's possible to conceal it from friends family etc... and the physical health risks are relatively low; as are the chances of resorting to criminal behaviour to support an addiction (unless you start looking at illegal content).

As for you wanting to be straight... as I said, you are what you are, all you can do is give up porn and see where you are in a few months time. I would also suggest you re-read the second paragraph of my previous post (particularly the last bits) and give it careful consideration.

I know none of this is what you want to hear... but there's no magical "quick-fix" solution to the situation you've got yourself into. I'm willing to put in the effort to try and help you out, but I'm not a Fairy Godmother or Genie who can make all your wishes come true.
(edited 2 days ago)

Reply 34

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by Anonymous
I haven’t watched porn for a couple of days tops or haven’t masturabted. I’m gonna try go for a full month. If I don’t want to be involved with a gay as it makes me totally uncomfortable.
It was more the amount of trans but I have already mentioned that I myself want to be normal again and I like to fall in love with girls again. Completely be back normal and working out being productive. And just having the passion for girls again that’s main girl without all this gay stuff.

Don't go watching musicals and don't wear jeans either.

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