How do I tell him he's awful in bed

So I been sleeping with this guy at Uni and to tell the truth he's not satisfied me at all, sex is all over before it really begins, I have given him tips on what is good but he won't listen. He has gone round telling people the sex is amazing and told people he is going out with me despite I told him we are strictly not official. How do I break it to him he's not good in bed? Should I even just call it off completely?

Reply 1

ageshallnot

21

Original post

by Anonymous

So I been sleeping with this guy at Uni and to tell the truth he's not satisfied me at all, sex is all over before it really begins, I have given him tips on what is good but he won't listen. He has gone round telling people the sex is amazing and told people he is going out with me despite I told him we are strictly not official. How do I break it to him he's not good in bed? Should I even just call it off completely?

Just end it.

Reply 2

Admit-One

Universities Forum Helper

21

Just get rid.

Reply 3

StriderHort

21

Yeah there doesn't sound much to get rid of tbh

I wouldn't do both, either break it off clean based on the misrepresentation/gossiping about the 'relationship' or only try and further educate him what he's doing wrong if you're keeping him around to improve. 'We're done and you're **** in bed' always feels a bit cheap and he isn't likely to learn from it, just be resentful.

Proper sexual maturity and understanding what your partner really wants is deffo a skill that needs developed overt time (esp in the case of men tbh, as we need to fly right in face of our instincts telling us 'pop, right job done, sleep now')

Reply 4

Zarek

21

Well, on the positive side, at least he’s happy with how things are going. What first attracted you to him

Reply 5

Crazy Jamie

19

When I read the thread title I was hoping that you had made some attempt to communicate that to him and guide him. Given that you've done that I'm not sure where else there is to go, particularly as he is also not respecting your position on the relationship when speaking to others. I entirely agree that you either make further attempts to bring him round and guide him with the sex, or you break it off. Doing both comes across as a little vindictive. From what you've said, it does seem to me like breaking it off is the way to go.

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

“I’d rather **** the corner of this bedframe”

Reply 7

StriderHort

21

Original post

by Anonymous

“I’d rather **** the corner of this bedframe”

A woman hatehumping a bedpost while sneering at me... wow, the fetish I never knew I had 😅

Reply 8

Maddie girl

3

Stop sleeping with him girl, if he don't listen he will be a waste in time in bed, I've had guys stick it straight in even though I tell them what makes me feel good first, not worth it, bin him off

Reply 9

Kallisto

Entertainment Forum Helper, Life & Style Forum Helper

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Original post

by Anonymous

So I been sleeping with this guy at Uni and to tell the truth he's not satisfied me at all, sex is all over before it really begins, I have given him tips on what is good but he won't listen. He has gone round telling people the sex is amazing and told people he is going out with me despite I told him we are strictly not official. How do I break it to him he's not good in bed? Should I even just call it off completely?

If good sex is important to you and the guy you have written about is not able to satisfy you, not able to change himself for better in bed (although you have given him tips and an advice), I would tend to break with him, if I were you.

Reply 10

Kathy89

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Original post

by Anonymous

So I been sleeping with this guy at Uni and to tell the truth he's not satisfied me at all, sex is all over before it really begins, I have given him tips on what is good but he won't listen. He has gone round telling people the sex is amazing and told people he is going out with me despite I told him we are strictly not official. How do I break it to him he's not good in bed? Should I even just call it off completely?

Just end it, not because he's not good in bed, but because he disrespects you. You told him what is the status of the relationship and how to treat it, he's gossiping and treats it differently and clearly is doing it just to show how manly he is.
I see it as a disrespect.

Reply 11

Adz2042

18

This isn't healthy for either of you. As many others have advised, break it off with him, but in a nice way. Explain that the actions he has displayed to you haven't been working out, and you think it's best to have some time apart (time for him to reflect on his actions).