Unmatched after hookup
Hey everyoneee
I hooked up with this guy from tinder lastnight. We hadn't been talking much before, and both of us were fairly to the point about what we wanted. I don't want him to be my boyfriend (firm preface there) BUT it still stings a little that he unmatched me on tinder after we hooked up. I thought we had a good time and that he enjoyed the sex, but was that the case? This is moreso a case of me feeling insecure about my ability/skills or whatever, not a thing for him as a person. For me, if I really like sex with a person, I want to do it again. Is it different for men? Can they have a great time and still not want more?
I hooked up with this guy from tinder lastnight. We hadn't been talking much before, and both of us were fairly to the point about what we wanted. I don't want him to be my boyfriend (firm preface there) BUT it still stings a little that he unmatched me on tinder after we hooked up. I thought we had a good time and that he enjoyed the sex, but was that the case? This is moreso a case of me feeling insecure about my ability/skills or whatever, not a thing for him as a person. For me, if I really like sex with a person, I want to do it again. Is it different for men? Can they have a great time and still not want more?
Reply 1
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by AnonymousHey everyoneee
I hooked up with this guy from tinder lastnight. We hadn't been talking much before, and both of us were fairly to the point about what we wanted. I don't want him to be my boyfriend (firm preface there) BUT it still stings a little that he unmatched me on tinder after we hooked up. I thought we had a good time and that he enjoyed the sex, but was that the case? This is moreso a case of me feeling insecure about my ability/skills or whatever, not a thing for him as a person. For me, if I really like sex with a person, I want to do it again. Is it different for men? Can they have a great time and still not want more?
I hooked up with this guy from tinder lastnight. We hadn't been talking much before, and both of us were fairly to the point about what we wanted. I don't want him to be my boyfriend (firm preface there) BUT it still stings a little that he unmatched me on tinder after we hooked up. I thought we had a good time and that he enjoyed the sex, but was that the case? This is moreso a case of me feeling insecure about my ability/skills or whatever, not a thing for him as a person. For me, if I really like sex with a person, I want to do it again. Is it different for men? Can they have a great time and still not want more?
He probably thought that you did not want anything serious since you were clear that you did not want a bf. So he probably moved on not to bother you again.
Also, if you did not enjoy it, you probably would have unmatched him and moved on.
Reply 2
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by Wired_1800He probably thought that you did not want anything serious since you were clear that you did not want a bf. So he probably moved on not to bother you again.
Also, if you did not enjoy it, you probably would have unmatched him and moved on.
Also, if you did not enjoy it, you probably would have unmatched him and moved on.
Reply 3
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by AnonymousYeahhh I just find it confusing because he seemed to really enjoy it, guess you never know what people are really thinking huh
Yeah, you never know.
Best to move on.
Reply 4
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Too much too soon and he’s likely on a conquest game anyway
Reply 5
It isn't necessarily the case that he didn't enjoy it. Plenty of men would want to carry on having more sex with someone if they enjoyed it the first time, but that isn't always the case. Some don't even want the dynamic of friends with benefits or just hooking up with the same person. Even if it's not a relationship, it requires a level of communication and understanding that some people just do not want. I wouldn't take it personally. Even with casual sex there is a requirement for you to be compatible with the other person, even if those requirements are not nearly as stringent as a relationship. For whatever reason, you weren't compatible here even if the sex was good and even if he enjoyed it. It's a shame if you wanted to carry things on, but there's not much you can do if he doesn't feel the same. Don't worry about it and move on.
Reply 6
Original post
by AnonymousHey everyoneee
I hooked up with this guy from tinder lastnight. We hadn't been talking much before, and both of us were fairly to the point about what we wanted. I don't want him to be my boyfriend (firm preface there) BUT it still stings a little that he unmatched me on tinder after we hooked up. I thought we had a good time and that he enjoyed the sex, but was that the case? This is moreso a case of me feeling insecure about my ability/skills or whatever, not a thing for him as a person. For me, if I really like sex with a person, I want to do it again. Is it different for men? Can they have a great time and still not want more?
I hooked up with this guy from tinder lastnight. We hadn't been talking much before, and both of us were fairly to the point about what we wanted. I don't want him to be my boyfriend (firm preface there) BUT it still stings a little that he unmatched me on tinder after we hooked up. I thought we had a good time and that he enjoyed the sex, but was that the case? This is moreso a case of me feeling insecure about my ability/skills or whatever, not a thing for him as a person. For me, if I really like sex with a person, I want to do it again. Is it different for men? Can they have a great time and still not want more?
He's had what he wanted from you
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