I have nowhere to revise

I live in a 2 bedroom flat with my parents and 2 younger siblings, I do not have a bedroom of my own, my sister and i sleep on one sofa each (in the living room which has the kitchen in it too). I have regular back pains.
I used to sit on the dinner table to revise for GCSE's, which was HORRIBLE. My whole family would be cramped up in there watching TV so loudly and if i complained they'd yell at me and say its not like your revising for a degree its just gcses, but then expected me to do perfect? I cried every night.
I did decent in my GCSE'S, im in year 13 now and i just can't handle this again. Im going through so much stress, i think ive cried like 3 times today alone.
Ive recently started to revise on my parents bed, but i don't have a table there, so i have to sit crossed legged and write leaning on a folder, I get back pains and my legs cramp up. I hardly get anything done.
I do three essay based a levels, so i have to do long writing tasks but i have nowhere to do it.
The only time i have SILENCE to work, is after like 10pm when everyone is sleeping, and i have to sacrifice my sleep and i sleep at like 2-3am on SCHOOL NIGHTS- im sure you can imagine how tired i am at school.
What to do? They won't let me go to a library every day they don't trust me (South asian girl struggles!!), nor will they let me stay back after school everyday.

Reply 1

ringi

14

It seems your parants don't care about your education or you having a life independent of their control. They can't stop you moving out, but will not be easy to find somewhere to live.

Socal workers are meant to help, but will not go against parants with none British values unless they are physically harming you.

You can't joint the military without their promission before aged 18 but can start the application process.

Talk to your teachers, but likely they will not do anything that may make them look like a racist or to be imposing British values on your parants.

Can you go to the Library before school? Are you using every free time in school to study?

Would they let you stand an apprenticeship? (No point continuing to do A levels unless you will get good grades.)

(edited 4 months ago)

Reply 2

LJMUStudentReps

Official Rep

18

Original post

by Anonymous

I live in a 2 bedroom flat with my parents and 2 younger siblings, I do not have a bedroom of my own, my sister and i sleep on one sofa each (in the living room which has the kitchen in it too). I have regular back pains.
I used to sit on the dinner table to revise for GCSE's, which was HORRIBLE. My whole family would be cramped up in there watching TV so loudly and if i complained they'd yell at me and say its not like your revising for a degree its just gcses, but then expected me to do perfect? I cried every night.
I did decent in my GCSE'S, im in year 13 now and i just can't handle this again. Im going through so much stress, i think ive cried like 3 times today alone.
Ive recently started to revise on my parents bed, but i don't have a table there, so i have to sit crossed legged and write leaning on a folder, I get back pains and my legs cramp up. I hardly get anything done.
I do three essay based a levels, so i have to do long writing tasks but i have nowhere to do it.
The only time i have SILENCE to work, is after like 10pm when everyone is sleeping, and i have to sacrifice my sleep and i sleep at like 2-3am on SCHOOL NIGHTS- im sure you can imagine how tired i am at school.
What to do? They won't let me go to a library every day they don't trust me (South asian girl struggles!!), nor will they let me stay back after school everyday.

Hi,

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this. It sounds really stressful and it makes sense that you’re feeling exhausted. It’s really hard to focus when you don’t have a proper space to work.

This is a few things you can try:
• Portable desk: Something lightweight you can use on the sofa or bed to make writing less painful
• Time blocks: Even if you only have quiet time after 10pm, try shorter, focused sessions, e.g. 45-60 minutes, so you don’t sacrifice too much sleep
• Noise management: Earphones or noise-cancelling headphones can help block out distractions in the living room
• Planning and prioritising: Break down big essays into smaller chunks so you can make progress bit by bit, even if your setup isn’t ideal

If you can, maybe speak to a teacher or your school’s pastoral team. They may be able to give you extra support or suggest ways to stay back at school to revise, or help you talk to your parents about your study needs. You deserve to have a space to work without causing back pain or losing sleep.

Wishing you all the best with your studies :smile:

Tayba
Student Rep

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