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Is being 'cute' as a guy a good or bad thing

One time I left a room and a girl shouted "OH MY GOD (my name) IS SO CUTE" also sometimes I hear girls whisper to each other that I'm cute. Does this mean I look good? Or what does it mean?

Reply 1

it doesss mean you look good! i always say that to the guy i like :smile:

Reply 2

Yes, in that context it means that they think you're attractive. Certainly a good thing.

Reply 3

Since when being cute is a bad thing?
You guys are strange....

Reply 4

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by Kathy89
Since when being cute is a bad thing?
You guys are strange....

I think the issue is that there's often some confusion with the literal meaning of "cute" (e.g. a puppy or small child that's adorable), and the American high-school slang meaning (e.g. "I want to hang out at the beach and check-out all the cute guys there"). The obvious fear is that the former definition desexualises them... although (IMHO), it's still a hell of a lot better than being called ugly, repulsive, revolting etc... or even plain / average.

Reply 5

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by Old Skool Freak
I think the issue is that there's often some confusion with the literal meaning of "cute" (e.g. a puppy or small child that's adorable), and the American high-school slang meaning (e.g. "I want to hang out at the beach and check-out all the cute guys there"). The obvious fear is that the former definition desexualises them... although (IMHO), it's still a hell of a lot better than being called ugly, repulsive, revolting etc... or even plain / average.

Exactly, it is still better than plain no matter how you look at it.

Reply 6

A cute guy turns me off personally

Reply 7

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by Kathy89
Exactly, it is still better than plain no matter how you look at it.

TBF, I think it's slightly different for guys; maybe it's to do with gender stereotypes or expectations... but definitely from a girls P.O.V. literally cute girls are still liked by many people (for example Emma Bunton was the cute one in the Spice Girls, but she was desired by guys as much as her bandmates ... even more-so than a couple of them?). I reckon it's also to do with the "macho" attitudes that exist (e.g. as a man, you're supposed to be strong, confident etc.) and more recently, the obsession with so-called "Alpha Males", whereas someone who's "cute" triggers more nurturing / protective feelings rather than being the "protector" (so to speak).

But I do take your point that it's certainly not the worst thing to be called (just not as good as being called "hot", "fit", "sexy" etc. :biggrin:)

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by Goodlife Girl
A cute guy turns me off personally

This is exactly the sort of thing I mean (assuming she's talking about literal cuteness, of course)
(edited 1 month ago)

Reply 8

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by Old Skool Freak
TBF, I think it's slightly different for guys; maybe it's to do with gender stereotypes or expectations... but definitely from a girls P.O.V. literally cute girls are still liked by many people (for example Emma Bunton was the cute one in the Spice Girls, but she was desired by guys as much as her bandmates ... even more-so than a couple of them?). I reckon it's also to do with the "macho" attitudes that exist (e.g. as a man, you're supposed to be strong, confident etc.) and more recently, the obsession with so-called "Alpha Males", whereas someone who's "cute" triggers more nurturing / protective feelings rather than being the "protector" (so to speak).
But I do take your point that it's certainly not the worst thing to be called (just not as good as being called "hot", "fit", "sexy" etc. :biggrin:)
This is exactly the sort of thing I mean (assuming she's talking about literal cuteness, of course)

I like cute guys more than "macho" wannabes, also, most alpha males are really loving, they are more controlling. Cute guys more often make a good love and care objects both ways, which is something I personally value more than feeling safe behind the wall thing... I'm generalizing, but that's my observation...

Reply 9

A good thing obviously, dum dum. Free easy access to poon poon, while other men scrape the barrel of bad attitude entitled very average looking lasses.

Reply 10

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by Kathy89
I like cute guys more than "macho" wannabes, also, most alpha males are really loving, they are more controlling. Cute guys more often make a good love and care objects both ways, which is something I personally value more than feeling safe behind the wall thing... I'm generalizing, but that's my observation...

I'm not disputing that (and fair play to you)... I know a few girls who specifically go for guys with a "cutesy" look, so you're definitely not the only one. However, I AM speaking from the P.O.V. of a male who wants to fit in and be desired.. especially impressionable teenagers. There's all sorts of peer-pressure to conform to be a particular kind of guy who can look after himself, good at sports and handle most situations, and unfortunately a guy who's literally cute doesn't (really) send that kind of message. An extreme example is all the BS that comes from the manosphere, which a lot of youngsters are exposed to these days, but there are other examples (e.g. "Are you a man or a mouse?" type comments) . There's all sorts of evidence of that peer-pressure all over this particular part of the forum.

Reply 11

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by mdmdmdmdm
One time I left a room and a girl shouted "OH MY GOD (my name) IS SO CUTE" also sometimes I hear girls whisper to each other that I'm cute. Does this mean I look good? Or what does it mean?

It means you look really good 🩷

Reply 12

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by Old Skool Freak
I'm not disputing that (and fair play to you)... I know a few girls who specifically go for guys with a "cutesy" look, so you're definitely not the only one. However, I AM speaking from the P.O.V. of a male who wants to fit in and be desired.. especially impressionable teenagers. There's all sorts of peer-pressure to conform to be a particular kind of guy who can look after himself, good at sports and handle most situations, and unfortunately a guy who's literally cute doesn't (really) send that kind of message. An extreme example is all the BS that comes from the manosphere, which a lot of youngsters are exposed to these days, but there are other examples (e.g. "Are you a man or a mouse?" type comments) . There's all sorts of evidence of that peer-pressure all over this particular part of the forum.
Do you see it more of a thing within the male group showing off than being liked be girls thing?

I mean, I'm sure far less girls are looking for the fake "macho" guys and would prefer them to be 'cute' rather than a 'macho' wannabes?

I mean, if you are 'cute', be 'cute', don't be something you aren't.

Girls have their things too... "no boy will like a flat chested girl" or "you have to put makeup on because otherwise guys will not notice you."

Reply 13

This is something people debate?

Reply 14

Original post
by Kathy89
Do you see it more of a thing within the male group showing off than being liked be girls thing?
I mean, I'm sure far less girls are looking for the fake "macho" guys and would prefer them to be 'cute' rather than a 'macho' wannabes?
I mean, if you are 'cute', be 'cute', don't be something you aren't.
Girls have their things too... "no boy will like a flat chested girl" or "you have to put makeup on because otherwise guys will not notice you."

TBH, it's probably a bit of both.

For years, peer pressure etc. high school kids have indoctrinated this image of the ideal couple, and it's typically the big-strong jock who goes home with the prom queen, and this romantic ideal has now been further caricatured by incels and the likes with so-called "Chads", "Tyrones" etc. Furthermore, while there's nothing wrong with a guy who's cute, sensitive etc. it DOES also make them an easy target for bullies, or others who would take advantage of their inherent good/ soft nature. Even in children's comics like The Beano, the softer characters were always made to seem a bit inadequate and easy pickings for the more self-confident types.

Girls have their things too... "no boy will like a flat chested girl" or "you have to put makeup on because otherwise guys will not notice you."


Agreed. And I'm not saying that I (personally) agree anything / everything I've said in my previous posts or that it's right ... I'm just reporting what peer pressure can be like from a young guy's point of view (don't shoot the messenger 🤣😢😂). Unfortunately, today's society places a high value on people looking and acting in a certain way, as demonstrated by the post below.

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by ChessMaster89
A good thing obviously, dum dum. Free easy access to poon poon, while other men scrape the barrel of bad attitude entitled very average looking lasses.

This is a typical response from someone who's clueless about how attraction works in the real world. Completely unaware that good looking guys still have to put in effort to get their girls, even on shows like Geordie Shore, you often hear the male participants talking about having to "graft". Not to mention if you're a good looking straight guy, you DO get a significant amount of attention from gay guys... something not everyone is comfortable with, while average / less attractive guys seldom have to worry about that.

And he seems so blinded by his own wishes / desires, he fails to realise that he's sounding almost as "entitled" as those "very average looking lasses", clearly putting a lower value on them, compared to the hotter girls.

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