Advice about uni!

hi!! So I’m in first year uni and I’m commuting from home and I’m still living with my mum! I really appreciate her and everything she does for me because she’s genuinely amazing but I’m really struggling w balancing the social life aspect, I’ve been lucky enough to make some rlly nice friends and have been asked to meet up w them in the town where I live which is abt 20 mins away from me & the bus stop is literally 2 mins from my home. The only problem is my mum is really against me going out w my friends, for example, on Wednesday I’ve been asked to go out w my friends at 9 which she is really against bc I’d be coming back about 11 and she doesn’t want to stay up, even tho I said I would get the bus she’s still really against it and even tho I’ve asked if we could go earlier I know whatever time she’d still be really against it and keeps saying I should move out even though she keeps taking it back. I’m unsure what to do as I don’t want my relationship w my mum to suffer but also don’t want to miss out on these opportunities to make new friends & go out a bit more as I haven’t rlly before uni! If you’ve been through this commuting to uni & balancing social life could u please give me some advice! also idm not going out in the evening but I don’t want to miss out

Hello,
My parents aren't against me going out at night, but they're not super great fans. However they leave me to my devices as long as I can make my own way home without having to ask them to be picked up, which is a very fair compromise. If they didn't let me go out at night I would ve very resentful of them. They'd also be very resentful of me because I would go out anyway!
You have to do some sort of analysis with your mother's relationship. Obviously you don't want it to suffer, but if you don't go out I think it very likely that your relationship with her will suffer anyway because you'll resent her stopping you from going out and experiencing that side of uni life. You need to think carefully about this, but it might very well be that you can just go and your mum won't be happy for a while, but she might get used to it and accept that you are young and want to live life a little - because you totally should go out and have friends at uni, it's fun!
If you want to balance commuting and social life more though, a thing I did back when I lived in halls but my friends were commuters was that we had a half-day a week, where we finished our lectures at midday, and then I convinced my friends to go do something after that. So we'd do something fun, have lunch together and then we'd all go back and arrive home at a reasonable time.