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by UniofLawstudent2
I totally get why that’s frustrating.
Your parents and teachers are focusing on the negatives rather than the bigger picture, and what's worse, the real gut-punch is how they target you, who by comparison is doing reasonably well compared to others!
I've had similar problems, e.g I could arrive on time for an entire year, arrive late one lesson with an email explaining why, and still be grilled in the hall for 10minutes, how repeated behaviour such as this will cause me to fail (despite having no previous precedents), while other students who are consistently late, get away with it, since it's just expected they're late.
Unfortunately, these thing's do stick around in an ugly spot of your mind, until you can get a practical solution to solving the root cause.
One thing that might help, which I did, is keeping a record of your work and achievements, like a simple tracker of assignments completed, mock scores, and revision hours. Then, if there’s ever a dispute, you can show them the evidence of your effort.
Another approach is to communicate proactively with your teachers and parents. For example, if an assignment is late for a reason, let them know ahead of time, or update them on progress regularly. That way, they can’t assume you’re not doing work, when my parents would get on my nerves egging me on about homework, I would just rant to them about the work, until they were sick of hearing about it.
Adding onto that last point,
it might help to set up a small weekly check-in with your parents just 10–15 minutes to go over what you’ve done that week or what you plan to do next week, explain it to the point they get bored, treat them like a diary per say 😅. It could reduce the constant shouting by giving them a more accurate picture of your effort.
Finally, try to keep perspective on mocks and one-off issues, they matter, but they’re only part of the picture. Your predicted grades and actual results show you are putting in the work and achieving well. If you focus on tracking and communicating, you’ll have some control over how your effort is seen.
It may also be worth contacting your academic journey advisor/individual who kind of looks after your academic journey in your sixth form or equivalent.
Run-over your problems & solution with them, see if they can do anything in regards to the unfair pressure your teachers put on you
Doing these 3 things helped me a lot, and I still do them to this day when the situation calls for it!
Best of luck,
Alfred,
Ulaw.