Does she like me or just being a friendly girl ?
There is a new female coworker that i find very attractive , she is very outgoing and easy to talk to , we had a few interactions that i count as flirting , we were walking to the break room and i bumped into her by accident and she told me smiling " are you trying to dominate me ? " , we were playfighting and she let me rest my forearm on her thigh for a couple of seconds , we were in the gym , she was sitting on the chair and i was on the floor next to her and she was shaking her leg , i grabbed her by the ankle and asked her if she has to much energy , she smiled and started shaking her leg faster , i was looking at a register from our office and i told her to come look at it to check something and she pressed her chest to my arm very close , i caught her looking at my arms multiple times , an app wasnt working on her phone and i tried to fix it and while i was looking at the phone she put both her hands on my upper leg , she told me sorry if it bothers you if i sit like this and i told her dont worry about it
The thing is that she is engaged ( boyfriend of 5 years ) but from what i understand things are not going very good between them , she complained that he started smoking and quit the gym , she wants to workout but she doesnt like going without him
She kinda flirts with other guys at work too , she playfights with them , she was walking in from of some dude and she was stopping sudden to make him bump into her , some guys grab her by the muscles between the neck and shoulders ( i dont know how they are called , i think traps )
Should i do something or just treat it as friendly behaviour ? we are both 23
The thing is that she is engaged ( boyfriend of 5 years ) but from what i understand things are not going very good between them , she complained that he started smoking and quit the gym , she wants to workout but she doesnt like going without him
She kinda flirts with other guys at work too , she playfights with them , she was walking in from of some dude and she was stopping sudden to make him bump into her , some guys grab her by the muscles between the neck and shoulders ( i dont know how they are called , i think traps )
Should i do something or just treat it as friendly behaviour ? we are both 23
Reply 1
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I’d trust your instincts on this, they’re usually right. If she isn’t up for it’ll look worse that you’ve tried it on because she’s engaged.
Reply 2
Yes she is attracted to you.
However, as a work colleague, the professional way to deal with this is to not get romantically involved with her.
But you can get involved with her friends that she has from outside your work.
However, as a work colleague, the professional way to deal with this is to not get romantically involved with her.
But you can get involved with her friends that she has from outside your work.
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by ZarekI’d trust your instincts on this, they’re usually right. If she isn’t up for it’ll look worse that you’ve tried it on because she’s engaged.
yeah normally i would go for it but seeing as she is kinda flirty with other guys makes me think that this could just be her personality type
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by Dunnig KrugerYes she is attracted to you.
However, as a work colleague, the professional way to deal with this is to not get romantically involved with her.
But you can get involved with her friends that she has from outside your work.
However, as a work colleague, the professional way to deal with this is to not get romantically involved with her.
But you can get involved with her friends that she has from outside your work.
there was a situation when a friend from work came up to me to sell me one of his t-shirts because it was too big for him and couldnt return it , so i tried it on and when i took my t-shirt off she was staring , another coworker told me " put your t-shirt back on or x is gonna cancel her weeding " and she started laughing
but yeah her being a coworker and enganged kinda makes the situation very difficult but i like her so much , its like when im around her im filled with positive energy , i cant explain it , when im having a *****y day feel down if she shows up i forget about everything and im happy , all she has to do is be present
Reply 5
So make her into a good platonic friend. The sort where you bring her into your social circle and she brings you into hers.
Befriend her fiance.
Find yourself a lovely woman with whom you can go on adventures and mini-adventures.
The more platonic female friends you have, the easier it will be for you to find and form a relationship with the right sort of woman.
Look to make the positive state you feel when your co-worker is around your default state, regardless of who you're with.
IE generate your own positive energy instead of relying on external factors to bring it on.
Befriend her fiance.
Find yourself a lovely woman with whom you can go on adventures and mini-adventures.
The more platonic female friends you have, the easier it will be for you to find and form a relationship with the right sort of woman.
Look to make the positive state you feel when your co-worker is around your default state, regardless of who you're with.
IE generate your own positive energy instead of relying on external factors to bring it on.
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