University, loneliness and transferring.
I've been at uni for a couple of months now and honestly I'm not having fun at all. When I say "fun" I mean that I feel no sense of motivation to get up and go to university or see my friends. I go to Uclan and honestly it's just not for me. I've tried to let myself ignore my feelings and acknowledge that UCLan was my only option back in August (apart from Salford but that's another story).
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
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by AnonymousI've been at uni for a couple of months now and honestly I'm not having fun at all. When I say "fun" I mean that I feel no sense of motivation to get up and go to university or see my friends. I go to Uclan and honestly it's just not for me. I've tried to let myself ignore my feelings and acknowledge that UCLan was my only option back in August (apart from Salford but that's another story).
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
Time to grow a steel spine. Finish your foundation year regardless. But in the meantime, look at courses for aerospace engineering and cast your net wider than Salford. With a foundation year under your belt you will likely have more options.
I think what you are experiencing is called life - where it is on you to do everything. The is in stark contrast to school where your teachers did most of your learning for you and you went home to a cooked meal prepared by your carers. It is hard, but I would suggest in the first instance investing a bit of time in your uni friends. Either course mates, or join a club and put some weekly events / meet ups in your diary.
Good luck!
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by AnonymousI've been at uni for a couple of months now and honestly I'm not having fun at all. When I say "fun" I mean that I feel no sense of motivation to get up and go to university or see my friends. I go to Uclan and honestly it's just not for me. I've tried to let myself ignore my feelings and acknowledge that UCLan was my only option back in August (apart from Salford but that's another story).
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
Hi there,
I am so sorry to hear about how you are feeling about your course. Even if you are not motivated by your studies, there are plenty of other activities and skills you can try at university. You may want to consider joining a society or take this time to get a part-time job to make use of the resources available in your foundation year.
If you are keen to transfer, go do some research on alternative courses and go for Open Days to get a better grasp on what the uni is really like. 🤗
Wishing you the bests of luck in whatever decision you make.
Zhi En
(Kingston Student Rep.)
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by hotpudTime to grow a steel spine. Finish your foundation year regardless. But in the meantime, look at courses for aerospace engineering and cast your net wider than Salford. With a foundation year under your belt you will likely have more options.
I think what you are experiencing is called life - where it is on you to do everything. The is in stark contrast to school where your teachers did most of your learning for you and you went home to a cooked meal prepared by your carers. It is hard, but I would suggest in the first instance investing a bit of time in your uni friends. Either course mates, or join a club and put some weekly events / meet ups in your diary.
Good luck!
I think what you are experiencing is called life - where it is on you to do everything. The is in stark contrast to school where your teachers did most of your learning for you and you went home to a cooked meal prepared by your carers. It is hard, but I would suggest in the first instance investing a bit of time in your uni friends. Either course mates, or join a club and put some weekly events / meet ups in your diary.
Good luck!
Thanks for your reply. I sound quite whiny in the post but I assure you I've tried everything. I'm apart of the debate society, I have friends but my only issue is that my course is doing nothing for me. I've done all my assignments for all 3 of my modules for this semester so I only go for attendance. I don't feel in any way that I'm learning anything. I have been doing my own further reading and getting ahead with CAD and MATLAB but I guess I really do just have to suck it up.
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by AnonymousI've been at uni for a couple of months now and honestly I'm not having fun at all. When I say "fun" I mean that I feel no sense of motivation to get up and go to university or see my friends. I go to Uclan and honestly it's just not for me. I've tried to let myself ignore my feelings and acknowledge that UCLan was my only option back in August (apart from Salford but that's another story).
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
Hey,
I'm sorry to hear you're not having the uni experience you thought you'd have. Its really difficult when you're struggling to enjoy your course, and I can fully appreciate that might knock your motivation to do things outside of it.
I'd say you have a few options - as we're well into the first semester now it'd be very unlikely you'd be able to transfer universities for this year, so its worth considering either sticking it out and coming out of the foundation year with a solid qualification and seeing if you can apply via Clearing for another universities 3 year degree, or seeing if there's a way you might enjoy your time at UCLAN if you don't want to transfer. For option 1, if you wanted that to be us fab, but if not that's fine too! If you found you wanted to transfer after foundation year but didn't want to leave your options to what's available in Clearing next year, you could also look at putting in a UCAS application before January for Sept 26 for the three year version of a course at a different university. This won't have an impact on your current studies, and if you decided you wanted to stay at UCLAN and progress onto the next year of their degree you can always withdraw your application at any time.
If you wanted to consider option 2, its worth having a chat with your tutor team and any pastoral support they have. You're only a month into your course, could it be that they're starting you off gradually, and will move into the more difficult topics which you'll feel more challenged by? Do you think the topics in the main three year degree will end up being more what you're interested in than what's offered at other universities? I think my main advice for this would be to speak to people in the university - its always better to talk about how you're feeling than let it fill you up inside, so if you feel able, checking out their wellbeing support teams might be a good way to get this off your chest.
It might also be worth seeing if there's any new societies/sports teams/clubs that UCLAN have that you might enjoy outside of your academic studies. University isn't just about the degree, and you might find something you like that makes you feel more at home there. You can also consider treating university like a task to be completed - go to classes, do the work, but find personal enjoyment outside of the campus. It might not be the most exciting way of getting through university, but if its what helps you feel less down about it it might be worth considering. Is it also worth looking at hobbies/interests not associated with your degree that might make you feel more fulfilled?
I appreciate its difficult to think about options when you're doubting the choices you've made, but you're never tied into one decision forever. If you have any queries let me know, happy to help advise!
All the best,
Becky
University of Salford Rep
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by AnonymousI've been at uni for a couple of months now and honestly I'm not having fun at all. When I say "fun" I mean that I feel no sense of motivation to get up and go to university or see my friends. I go to Uclan and honestly it's just not for me. I've tried to let myself ignore my feelings and acknowledge that UCLan was my only option back in August (apart from Salford but that's another story).
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
Hi there,
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It sounds like you've been giving your course and university life a really good go, and it's understandable to feel uncertain when things don't turn out as expected.
If you feel that your current modules aren't challenging enough, I'd recommend speaking with your course leader or personal tutor as soon as possible. They'll be able to review your progress and discuss whether there's any scope for you to adjust your studies in a way that better suits your level.
If you're considering transferring university, it may still be possible, but the process can depend on several factors, including entry requirements and how far along you are. Our Student Support and Wellbeing team can give you impartial guidance about your options and help you explore the next steps if you do decide to transfer. It might also help to talk through how you're feeling, university life can take time to settle into, but you deserve to feel motivated and happy, and we want to help you get there - whether that's with us or elsewhere. You can explore our support options here or pop into the Student Centre on our Preston Campus to visit the team.
You're not alone in feeling like this, and there are people here who can support you and help you explore all your options. Do feel free to send us a direct message if you would like to let us know anything else.
Best wishes, ^Hannah 🙂
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by AnonymousI've been at uni for a couple of months now and honestly I'm not having fun at all. When I say "fun" I mean that I feel no sense of motivation to get up and go to university or see my friends. I go to Uclan and honestly it's just not for me. I've tried to let myself ignore my feelings and acknowledge that UCLan was my only option back in August (apart from Salford but that's another story).
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
Hi @Anonymous 👋
I am sorry to hear about that. Have a look at societies or events that you can join in. It is tempting to stay in your room all day but it is good to go out a little as well and make your university experience as good as it should be! It is your decision if you finish the foundation year or transfer but have a look at other places to know what will be involved and make a decision.
Have a look at our website below to see if you are interested in anything ☺️
https://www.essex.ac.uk/
Essex Student Rep - Lavanya 💜
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by AnonymousI've been at uni for a couple of months now and honestly I'm not having fun at all. When I say "fun" I mean that I feel no sense of motivation to get up and go to university or see my friends. I go to Uclan and honestly it's just not for me. I've tried to let myself ignore my feelings and acknowledge that UCLan was my only option back in August (apart from Salford but that's another story).
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
On results day I called Salford through clearing and got an offer to study aeronautical engineering (no foundation year!) but I rejected the offer because I knew I wanted to always do aerospace engineering. So I put my feelings aside and chose uclan, but I'm seriously regretting it. I'm in foundation year, I've been begging to be put in first year because all the modules are so easy that I've already done all the booklets. I'm honestly wasting away. And I'm not somebody who usually is anxious or constantly needs company, I don't mind doing things solo but I find that this place has nothing to offer for me, in my opinion. I don't really know what to do and I'm not sure if I should transfer universities (if I still can) or just wait it out and graduate.
Hi there,
I'm sorry to hear that you have been feeling like this so far at university.
I would agree with some things that have been said here already - it would probably be worth sticking the year out seeing as you have started it and then ending up with a qualification at the end of your foundation year and then you have the option to potentially apply for some different universities for your first year. It is worth finishing the course for the year as you will likely not be able to transfer at this point in the year and then at least you will be able to have the extra UCAS points/whatever qualification you will receive for completing the year.
I think it would be worth talking to your tutors or academic advisor about this too as they may be able to help you with some other work if you wanted to do something extra, or they may be able to find bits of more challenging work for you. It is worth talking to them anyway as they may be able to find something!
Apart from this, I would really recommend trying to learn something new if you have the time! If you are finding the work easy, try and see if there is something else new you can learn, or some work experience of some kind you can do! Have a look as there may be things to enhance your learning in other ways too.
You could also get involved in societies and see if you enjoy these. You might as well make the most of your time at uni so see if there is anything like this you might want to get involved in!
I hope some of this helps,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
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