Boy problem! Advice needed!

OP

I don't have a mobile, so he'll have to reply to my dad's if he wants to? Is that mean?

Reply 3

Mad_Monkey59

say hi, sorry but I can't go out with you, I was seeing this guy before I met you and its just got kinda serious, so im not in a position to see other guys anymore...

Reply 4

britishseapower

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well if its the first time he's spoken to you then he might be shy and might have been waiting a while to ask you or something, the fact he's going to meet you in work and arrange it and that sounds like something a shy person would do so I think a txt would be easiest for him, it saves public embarassment and it allows him to collect his thoughts together/think about what he is going to say, if he chooses to reply to it. Only problem with doing it from your dads mobile is he might think you don't trust him with your number or something so maybe you could phone him to tell him or something.

Reply 5

OP

I did tell him I dont have a mobile.....oh dear...i feel like a witch :frown:

Reply 6

dont worry it not like u know him.

can i ask, linking to my other thread about seeing people, if a guy u were friends with asked to take u out 2 dinner/ 2 see a film, or bought u a rose after an arguement, do u think that is ok tho u hav a bf?

Reply 7

OP

I would say if your b/f is a rational person and he would be worried about it then you should too. If you're mates then seeing a film is normal, or going to catch a bite to eat, but full blown dinner and rose? I dunno?! If he's a real friend you should ask him straight what his feelings are, and warn him that you aren't sure his behaviour is appropriate. Hope that helps.

Reply 8

no theres a guy i was sort of seeing but he stopped seeing me cos he thought i was too intelligent compared to hm so even tho he bought me some perfume randomly, a rose after the arguement and takes me out and pays for me, (do all guy mates always pay for the girl?) he says we are not seeing each other.is it correct/raional?

Reply 9

OP

Well he obviously fancies you. He should buck up his ideas and tell you if its going anywhere, if he thinks it is you either turn him down or take him up and if he doesnt want to go anywhere with it then you need to tell him to let go

Reply 10

TIMAAAAAAAAAAAY

give him a blowjob

Reply 11

annabellewalter

Well he obviously fancies you. He should buck up his ideas and tell you if its going anywhere, if he thinks it is you either turn him down or take him up and if he doesnt want to go anywhere with it then you need to tell him to let go

thanks for talking to me about this and sorry i hijacked ur thread.

he says it doesnt mean anything n we r just m8s. but this kind of friendship, i think if i go out with another guy he will not like this going on. but thre guy says he isnt attraacted to me cos im too smart 4 him.

Reply 12

OP

I think we all know that doesn't stop you fancying someone!! Lol silly child!! You need to be really straight with him (coming from a girl who just started a thread cuz shes too scared to be straight with a guy lol) And just say you're not comfortable with it and it has to stop. He might just be shy or flirtatious or whatever, but that doesnt give him the right to make you feel undue guilt within your current/prospective relationship.

Reply 13

annabellewalter

I think we all know that doesn't stop you fancying someone!! Lol silly child!! You need to be really straight with him (coming from a girl who just started a thread cuz shes too scared to be straight with a guy lol) And just say you're not comfortable with it and it has to stop. He might just be shy or flirtatious or whatever, but that doesnt give him the right to make you feel undue guilt within your current/prospective relationship.

no but i fancy him too but he says in his culture the man must be all strong etc and a smart woman makes hinm feel weak. i dont mind cos i fancy the guy. but i thiknk he's acting like he fancies me too but he just wont take it further and now he's said he doesnt want anything like that and we have always been/will be m8s, doesnt look so good. i asked him straight and made him promise to be honest if he is attracted to me and he said no cos im too smart. ii can see a guy might feel crap if going out with someone alot better than him but i fancy the guy too.

as 4 ur guy, i say just leave it how it is cos u have a bf already.

Reply 14

OP

I don't like this guy at work by the way, I just wanna let him down without being a bitch. Wasn't sure the best way to go about it.

I hope you don't take offence, but if this guy is so much trouble now, then if you did go out with him it would only get worse. I wouldn't want to be involved with someone when things are so complicated at such a simple stage. You don't want to go out with someone who cannot fancy you for your positive aspects, and your intelligence is surely something that a good boyfriend or even a good friend would learn to love and be proud of you for? He sounds confused. Thats like saying he wont go out with you cuz you make him look ugly.....it doesnt make much logical sense, his culture or not.

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