I like him but my male friends had warned me to steer clear he’s no good
Hey y’all, Happy friday and halloween!
Just wanted to ask for some opinions on this situation…
I bumped into my male friend’s friend on the street the other day and we stopped to talk for some time. Haven’t seen this dude since my friends bday back in 2021. We got on well and spoke quite a lot even back then. We exchanged insta handles during then and he asked me out although i never replied cause i was going thru so much at the time - doing a masters degree also made me have a mental breakdown lol
Anyway, we had continued a new convo in insta dm’s which led to him asking if i was free for a drink. I said yes and we’re yet to find a day that we can both do. He even stated that he’ll invite my friend and i said all good! Sooooo here’s where things get interesting….
My friends calls me a few days later stating he’s so confused about whether we’re still going out for drinks & asks if we’re an item cause he kept mentioning my name to him. He went on to warn me about him being a ‘womanizer’ and always hitting on his female friends. He’d tried moving/flirting with other girls in the past and exposed his ideology of ‘cheating before a girl does to prevent getting his heart broken’ so advised me that i should steer clear of him. I’ve known my friend since childhood so ofc i trust him But part of me feels like a lil jealousy may be going on? I’ve reassured him that nothings going on and i’ll always put him first. He apologised and says he doesnt want to be negative.
I’m still talking to his friend and he seems like a cool, genuine person. He’s opened up about his life quite a bit so i like him.
What do you guys think? &should i still talk to his friend now after the above feedback? What would you do?
Thank youuuu
Just wanted to ask for some opinions on this situation…
I bumped into my male friend’s friend on the street the other day and we stopped to talk for some time. Haven’t seen this dude since my friends bday back in 2021. We got on well and spoke quite a lot even back then. We exchanged insta handles during then and he asked me out although i never replied cause i was going thru so much at the time - doing a masters degree also made me have a mental breakdown lol
Anyway, we had continued a new convo in insta dm’s which led to him asking if i was free for a drink. I said yes and we’re yet to find a day that we can both do. He even stated that he’ll invite my friend and i said all good! Sooooo here’s where things get interesting….
My friends calls me a few days later stating he’s so confused about whether we’re still going out for drinks & asks if we’re an item cause he kept mentioning my name to him. He went on to warn me about him being a ‘womanizer’ and always hitting on his female friends. He’d tried moving/flirting with other girls in the past and exposed his ideology of ‘cheating before a girl does to prevent getting his heart broken’ so advised me that i should steer clear of him. I’ve known my friend since childhood so ofc i trust him But part of me feels like a lil jealousy may be going on? I’ve reassured him that nothings going on and i’ll always put him first. He apologised and says he doesnt want to be negative.
I’m still talking to his friend and he seems like a cool, genuine person. He’s opened up about his life quite a bit so i like him.
What do you guys think? &should i still talk to his friend now after the above feedback? What would you do?
Thank youuuu
Reply 1
Why are you trying to tell your friend there's nothing going on when there is?
Reply 2
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by StriderHortWhy are you trying to tell your friend there's nothing going on when there is?
Lol well….. It’s just friendly convo and i’m not those kinda people that just stops talking to someone cause they’re not others cup of tea.
He hasn’t done anything wrong to me so why not?
Reply 3
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by beyhivethe1Lol well….. It’s just friendly convo and i’m not those kinda people that just stops talking to someone cause they’re not others cup of tea.
He hasn’t done anything wrong to me so why not?
He hasn’t done anything wrong to me so why not?
Sounds quite obvious you're interested in the guy though? You agreed to a date already and if you had no romantic interest you simply wouldn't care if he was a womanizer etc.
Reply 4
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by beyhivethe1Hey y’all, Happy friday and halloween!
Just wanted to ask for some opinions on this situation…
I bumped into my male friend’s friend on the street the other day and we stopped to talk for some time. Haven’t seen this dude since my friends bday back in 2021. We got on well and spoke quite a lot even back then. We exchanged insta handles during then and he asked me out although i never replied cause i was going thru so much at the time - doing a masters degree also made me have a mental breakdown lol
Anyway, we had continued a new convo in insta dm’s which led to him asking if i was free for a drink. I said yes and we’re yet to find a day that we can both do. He even stated that he’ll invite my friend and i said all good! Sooooo here’s where things get interesting….
My friends calls me a few days later stating he’s so confused about whether we’re still going out for drinks & asks if we’re an item cause he kept mentioning my name to him. He went on to warn me about him being a ‘womanizer’ and always hitting on his female friends. He’d tried moving/flirting with other girls in the past and exposed his ideology of ‘cheating before a girl does to prevent getting his heart broken’ so advised me that i should steer clear of him. I’ve known my friend since childhood so ofc i trust him But part of me feels like a lil jealousy may be going on? I’ve reassured him that nothings going on and i’ll always put him first. He apologised and says he doesnt want to be negative.
I’m still talking to his friend and he seems like a cool, genuine person. He’s opened up about his life quite a bit so i like him.
What do you guys think? &should i still talk to his friend now after the above feedback? What would you do?
Thank youuuu
Just wanted to ask for some opinions on this situation…
I bumped into my male friend’s friend on the street the other day and we stopped to talk for some time. Haven’t seen this dude since my friends bday back in 2021. We got on well and spoke quite a lot even back then. We exchanged insta handles during then and he asked me out although i never replied cause i was going thru so much at the time - doing a masters degree also made me have a mental breakdown lol
Anyway, we had continued a new convo in insta dm’s which led to him asking if i was free for a drink. I said yes and we’re yet to find a day that we can both do. He even stated that he’ll invite my friend and i said all good! Sooooo here’s where things get interesting….
My friends calls me a few days later stating he’s so confused about whether we’re still going out for drinks & asks if we’re an item cause he kept mentioning my name to him. He went on to warn me about him being a ‘womanizer’ and always hitting on his female friends. He’d tried moving/flirting with other girls in the past and exposed his ideology of ‘cheating before a girl does to prevent getting his heart broken’ so advised me that i should steer clear of him. I’ve known my friend since childhood so ofc i trust him But part of me feels like a lil jealousy may be going on? I’ve reassured him that nothings going on and i’ll always put him first. He apologised and says he doesnt want to be negative.
I’m still talking to his friend and he seems like a cool, genuine person. He’s opened up about his life quite a bit so i like him.
What do you guys think? &should i still talk to his friend now after the above feedback? What would you do?
Thank youuuu
Reply 5
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I’d take all the information you have and make your own judgement. Generally in my experience being warned off someone you fancy doesn’t work. You have to scratch the itch and potentially learn from your own mistakes. It’s likely there’s a grain of truth in both reasons for your male friend giving you this caution
(edited 2 weeks ago)
Reply 6
Go for it with your eyes wide open. No regrets and live for the time together. But also protect yourself., make sure you have support mechanism just in case & reassure your friends you respect their thoughts. One life live it!
Reply 7
Why don't you just get with him, you clearly want to
Reply 8
Original post
by beyhivethe1Hey y’all, Happy friday and halloween!
Just wanted to ask for some opinions on this situation…
I bumped into my male friend’s friend on the street the other day and we stopped to talk for some time. Haven’t seen this dude since my friends bday back in 2021. We got on well and spoke quite a lot even back then. We exchanged insta handles during then and he asked me out although i never replied cause i was going thru so much at the time - doing a masters degree also made me have a mental breakdown lol
Anyway, we had continued a new convo in insta dm’s which led to him asking if i was free for a drink. I said yes and we’re yet to find a day that we can both do. He even stated that he’ll invite my friend and i said all good! Sooooo here’s where things get interesting….
My friends calls me a few days later stating he’s so confused about whether we’re still going out for drinks & asks if we’re an item cause he kept mentioning my name to him. He went on to warn me about him being a ‘womanizer’ and always hitting on his female friends. He’d tried moving/flirting with other girls in the past and exposed his ideology of ‘cheating before a girl does to prevent getting his heart broken’ so advised me that i should steer clear of him. I’ve known my friend since childhood so ofc i trust him But part of me feels like a lil jealousy may be going on? I’ve reassured him that nothings going on and i’ll always put him first. He apologised and says he doesnt want to be negative.
I’m still talking to his friend and he seems like a cool, genuine person. He’s opened up about his life quite a bit so i like him.
What do you guys think? &should i still talk to his friend now after the above feedback? What would you do?
Thank youuuu
Just wanted to ask for some opinions on this situation…
I bumped into my male friend’s friend on the street the other day and we stopped to talk for some time. Haven’t seen this dude since my friends bday back in 2021. We got on well and spoke quite a lot even back then. We exchanged insta handles during then and he asked me out although i never replied cause i was going thru so much at the time - doing a masters degree also made me have a mental breakdown lol
Anyway, we had continued a new convo in insta dm’s which led to him asking if i was free for a drink. I said yes and we’re yet to find a day that we can both do. He even stated that he’ll invite my friend and i said all good! Sooooo here’s where things get interesting….
My friends calls me a few days later stating he’s so confused about whether we’re still going out for drinks & asks if we’re an item cause he kept mentioning my name to him. He went on to warn me about him being a ‘womanizer’ and always hitting on his female friends. He’d tried moving/flirting with other girls in the past and exposed his ideology of ‘cheating before a girl does to prevent getting his heart broken’ so advised me that i should steer clear of him. I’ve known my friend since childhood so ofc i trust him But part of me feels like a lil jealousy may be going on? I’ve reassured him that nothings going on and i’ll always put him first. He apologised and says he doesnt want to be negative.
I’m still talking to his friend and he seems like a cool, genuine person. He’s opened up about his life quite a bit so i like him.
What do you guys think? &should i still talk to his friend now after the above feedback? What would you do?
Thank youuuu
Hi@beyhivethe1,
Hope you are doing good. I have a few points
Why did you say you would always put your friend first then hide that you are interested in the guy? Really reflect on what thats about. Are you actually being honest w yourself and him, and if not why not?
Secondly, you have to do what you think is right for you. You WILL get heartbroken at some point, it is inevitable. So its weighing up whether the risk is worth it. I dont assume someone to be bad as its not fair on them. At the same time, if he is like that then you need to go into it knowing the reality.
How old are you both?
DL
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