Social Life? What should i do...

Hi there, this may be a bit of a vent but I need some advice on this.

I just moved to a new country and a new school, and this school is like one of the TOP schools in the whole country; it's not like richie rich school but rather excelling in academics (i'm in year 12 now). I was at my last school for 11 years, so obviously this was a big move. During the first day, I noticed how everyone was insanely thin and how the girls had full full faces of makeup, which didn't used to happen at my school; basically it was really odd. I didn't really get along with anyone except this one girl in my year and a bunch of girls in the year above me, however the girls in the year above said i was hanging out with them 'too much' and I was trying to force myself in their friend group despite the girl in my year also hanging out with them, so i decided to not be with them and spend some time studying during my frees. long story short, its been almost 3 months since school began and i still haven't made any proper friends, like im kind of a floater friend right now. I was considering switching schools, but I don't want to leave such an academically prestigious school that sends atleast 3 students a year to unis like imperial, oxbridge and more.

should i just suck it up and sit through this for 2 years? any help would be appreciated ;(

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Maariyah-Mae-Ali

7

Hi.
You could try joining a club- if your school has those- meet people with the same interests as you?
I did that- I had a bad time in my year 7, 8 and 9 but I stayed at my school and I now have three good friends.
Also talk to your parents about it- or a trusted adult- ask their advise- they often have very good words of wisdom.
🙂👍

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Anonymous #1

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by Maariyah-Mae-Ali

Hi.
You could try joining a club- if your school has those- meet people with the same interests as you?
I did that- I had a bad time in my year 7, 8 and 9 but I stayed at my school and I now have three good friends.
Also talk to your parents about it- or a trusted adult- ask their advise- they often have very good words of wisdom.
🙂👍

I’ve told all of the trusted adults - my parents and teachers, but they all told me to go and try talk to people. As for clubs, I joined volleyball however I got diagnosed with scoliosis recently and was advised against playing until i get physiotherapy; plus, all of the girls in that club are “popular”, so i don’t know what to do.

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Maariyah-Mae-Ali

7

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by Anonymous

I’ve told all of the trusted adults - my parents and teachers, but they all told me to go and try talk to people. As for clubs, I joined volleyball however I got diagnosed with scoliosis recently and was advised against playing until i get physiotherapy; plus, all of the girls in that club are “popular”, so i don’t know what to do.

Oh- I'm so sorry- you could try joining online clubs- like Chess.com or AllPoetry ecetra- as for in school- try chatting with classmates during group projects, study sessions, or even while waiting for class to start — small conversations can build trust over time. And for clubs- since volleyball isn’t an option for now, maybe look into other clubs that don’t involve physical strain- debate, music, art, volunteering, or academic societies.
Do you have any local youth groups because you could join that.
And if none of that works try talking with your favourite teachers if you're alone- I used to chat with my English teacher 24/7 when I didn't have friends.

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